Am 39 years I failed to get a man what should I do

Ans: First, be clear within yourself about what you truly seek — not just "no past baggage" but also shared values, lifestyle compatibility, emotional maturity, and a sense of peace when you're with him. You’re not just choosing a partner — you’re choosing a future that aligns with the person you’ve grown into.

Since you are specific about the community and the absence of children from a previous marriage, you may need to be strategic but open in where you look. Along with trusted matrimonial platforms (you may try both community-based ones and modern curated matchmaking services), also let friends or extended family you trust know that you’re open to exploring proposals — sometimes word-of-mouth alliances bring surprisingly good connections.

While choosing, don’t just assess background or profession — give time to observe his emotional depth, communication style, respect for your past, and how he responds to small differences or stress. These are the real foundations for peace and partnership.

Also, give yourself permission to set boundaries without guilt. You are not obligated to compromise your standards just because it’s a second marriage or because of age. You deserve companionship, not adjustment.

And perhaps most importantly, don’t let societal timelines cloud your confidence. You are 39, not late — just clearer than before. Be honest, hopeful, and patient with yourself.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that you feel like you’ve failed but you are only 39. There’s no set age for marriage. I suggest trying a dating and matchmaking app to find yourself a suitable partner. It will give you a little more control over your love life and open up a much wider pool of potential matches.

A gentle reminder, do not rush because you see everyone else finding love and getting married. I know it can be hard when you feel constantly left behind but I assure you that your time will come too. Rushing will not help; it will only lead to making wrong choices out of desperation.

Hope this helps.