Hi. I am 25 years old and she is 30. I need some more time to get settled but her parents want her to get married immediately. She is not working. I need your advice.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Kindly step in for yourself and decide whether you want to marry or not OR when you want to marry. Expectations from family is something that you cannot avoid as each of them have a little something that they dream through you. Having said that, know that you are the Captain of your ship...so steer it in the direction that you want.
When you are clear about it, you will notice the same family members rallying around you and supporting you...
The things that you can consider before marriage:
1. What do you look for in your life partner?
2. What are some of the things that are an absolute MUST HAVE in your life partner?
3. What are some of the things that are a deal breaker for you?
4. What is really important to you in life and does that match with what your life partner wants?

Whoever you choose, do know that arguments are a part of any relationship or marriage and at that time what can keep you both afloat is the sole reason as to why you chose to be in each others' lives.

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Kindly focus on your career and building yourself up now...to even go and ask your girlfriend's parents for her hand in marriage, you need to have a stable job and she needs to also grow in her professional life...
Without this, you both can offer each other love but that is not enough in this real world; grow up...request her parents to give you time to be something and then propose marriage to her and also request her to take up a job and grow in her career. In a few years from now, both of you will be emotionally and financially mature to understand marriage and the challenges that come for it and be prepared to move into it together.

All the best!

Ans: There are a few things to consider in this situation.

First, it is important to remember that you are both adults. You are free to make your own decisions about your relationship. However, it is also important to be respectful of your families' wishes.

Second, it is important to be realistic about your expectations. It is possible that the girl's brother will never agree to your marriage. If you are not willing to wait indefinitely, then you may need to move on.

Third, it is important to communicate with your girlfriend. She needs to understand your feelings and your concerns. If she is not willing to compromise, then you may need to reconsider your relationship.

Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to wait for your girlfriend is up to you. However, I would encourage you to consider the following points:

Why are you in a hurry to get married?
There is no need to rush into marriage. You are both still young and have plenty of time to find the right person for you.

Are you sure that your girlfriend is the right person for you?
You have only been dating for two years. It is important to make sure that you are both compatible and that you have similar goals for the future.

Are you willing to wait indefinitely for your girlfriend's brother to agree to your marriage?If you are not willing to wait, then you may need to move on.

If you do decide to wait for your girlfriend, I would recommend that you set a deadline. This will give you something to work towards and will help you to stay motivated. It is also important to communicate your deadline to your girlfriend so that she knows what to expect.

There are many other girls out there. If you are not willing to wait for your girlfriend, then you can easily find someone else. However, it is important to remember that finding the right person takes time. Don't rush into anything. Take your time and find someone who is right for you.

Mohit Arora S
Founder - Real Dating School

www.realdatingschool.com/1-1_call

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Loyalty is not rare in today’s day and age. I am sorry that you didn’t find someone who was to you, but it would be unfair to generalize. Now, coming to the more important point, financial stability is extremely important to maintain a happy marriage or even to have a happy life. Monetary troubles can add unnecessary burdens in life.

If you are unsure about getting married, it's best to wait a little and go forward with it only when you feel ready for such a commitment.

You mentioned you do not want to continue your job- do you plan on starting some other venture? I am a little unclear on this. Moreover, in today's day and age, it is almost essential for both partners to earn to live a decent life.
I hope these will help you.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's never easy when you have parents who hold beliefs around inter-caste marriages. So, convincing them is out of question. the best you can do is talk to them about what you see in a life partner and why your girl is the best choice. And after that, you can only hope that they come around.

All the best!
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