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Ajmal Question by Ajmal on Feb 28, 2023Hindi
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Hi, my son is 10 years old and from last 3 to 4 months he is not going to school. As soon as he step into the School his stomach starts paining. We have done Sonography twice. He is not acting also for not going to school. We can fee his severe pain when we insist for School or tuition. My family is thinking that some negativity he is facing from. We also shown to 2 religious gurus they also tried. Please advice.

Ans: I can understand your concern for your son's health and education. It sounds like he is experiencing a lot of physical discomfort when he has to go to school, and this is making it difficult for him to attend. It's good that you have already taken him to a doctor for a sonography and have sought advice from religious gurus, but there might be other options to consider as well.

One possibility is that your son may be experiencing anxiety related to going to school. Anxiety can manifest in physical symptoms like stomach pain, and it can be difficult for children to understand and express what they are feeling. It might be helpful to talk to your son and try to understand what is causing his anxiety. You can also seek the help of a counselor or therapist who can help your son develop coping skills to manage his anxiety.

Another possibility is that your son might be experiencing bullying or other negative experiences at school that are causing him distress. It's important to talk to your son's teachers and school staff to find out if there are any issues that might be contributing to his discomfort. They might be able to provide additional support or resources to help your son feel more comfortable at school.

Finally, it's important to continue to monitor your son's physical health and work with his doctor to rule out any underlying medical conditions. If your son continues to experience pain or discomfort, it's important to seek medical attention and follow up with any recommended treatments or interventions.

Overall, it's important to be patient and supportive with your son during this time. By working together with your son, his school, and his healthcare providers, you can help him overcome his difficulties and feel more comfortable and confident in school.

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Hi, my son is 10 years old and from last 3 to 4 months he is not going to school. As soon as he step into the School his stomach starts paining. We have done Sonography twice. He is not acting also for not going to school. We can fee his severe pain when we insist for School or tuition. My family is thinking that some negativity he is facing from. We also shown to 2 religious gurus they also tried. Please advice.Ans: I can understand your concern for your son's health and education. It sounds like he is experiencing a lot of physical discomfort when he has to go to school, and this is making it difficult for him to attend. It's good that you have already taken him to a doctor for a sonography and have sought advice from religious gurus, but there might be other options to consider as well. One possibility is that your son may be experiencing anxiety related to going to school. Anxiety can manifest in physical symptoms like stomach pain, and it can be difficult for children to understand and express what they are feeling. It might be helpful to talk to your son and try to understand what is causing his anxiety. You can also seek the help of a counselor or therapist who can help your son develop coping skills to manage his anxiety. Another possibility is that your son might be experiencing bullying or other negative experiences at school that are causing him distress. It's important to talk to your son's teachers and school staff to find out if there are any issues that might be contributing to his discomfort. They might be able to provide additional support or resources to help your son feel more comfortable at school. Finally, it's important to continue to monitor your son's physical health and work with his doctor to rule out any underlying medical conditions. If your son continues to experience pain or discomfort, it's important to seek medical attention and follow up with any recommended treatments or interventions. Overall, it's important to be patient and supportive with your son during this time. By working together with your son, his school, and his healthcare providers, you can help him overcome his difficulties and feel more comfortable and confident in school. Now condition of my son got more worsen now we cannot talk to him if we talk his head start paining you can't talk to him in any manner anything we met Psychiatrist many time he suggested to some medicine of no use. He is not ready to meet doctor, not moving out of house.
Ans: He needs counseling and psychiatric consultation
You should also do tests to rule out milk protein allergy and gluten sensitivity.. Your pediatrician can prescribe these

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Hi Mam, Hope you are doing well. I am very worried about my son who is now 12.5 years old and studying in 7th standard in a very reputed school. Since childhood, he has no interest in studies, unless we doesn't seat in front of him, he doesn't study. Every teacher from his kindergarten days upto now has the same complaint that he is doesn't pay attention in class and the result is he doesn't get good marks in the exam. When we scold him for studies, he does it for that particular time only and then get back to his non-interest mode again and start to run from studies. He will play video games, goes to play around with his friends, he will find some or the other reason for not doing studies or homework. The irony is that he is not interested in any sports or any other kind of activities. In every summer holidays, we make him to join some sports or music classes, but there also he doesn't show interest and do things just for the sake of showing. From last year, we have started sending him to tuitions also, but no change in attitude. This year we have found a teacher of his reputed school who is retired and taking tuitions, we are sending him to her and she is charging a big amount for tuitions. please guide how can we change his attitude and make him more serious in any activity he does as he doesn't have interest in anything (we have observed doing everything we can).
Ans: Hello Sunil!!

I am doing great, thank you for asking, God bless you!

I can totally understand when you say you are worried.

Your son is 12.5, he will soon be a teenager. There will be different challenges, I want you to read up on parenting a teenager and be ready to handle him well.

The problem as I see it is that everyone of you, his teachers included have made studies like a burden for him.... and subjected the young child to a lot of anxiety, he just wants to run away form it....
"Every teacher from his kindergarten days upto now has the same complaint that he is doesn't pay attention in class".... this statement of yours... it is the teacher's duty to ensure the child listens to him/her, how can she start labeling a child like this. From a young age your son has been conditioned to believe that he is not not good in studies, he doesn't focus and he doesn't sit in one place. All my sympathies are with your son...every child comes with immense potential and it's our duty as parents and teachers to nurture the child.

The following is what I propose so that we bring him back to loving to learn ( not score marks, that should never be the barometer)-
1. Love your child the way he is now
2. Give him lot of positive strokes
3. Have one on one sessions for any activity you plan for him... let him choose the activity, empower him
4. choose a teacher, who can get along with him and help him develop a positive attitude towards studies and life in general
5. look for a school where they nurture him... not just a reputed one...less number of students and a teacher who is invested in her/ his students,

If you can connect with me, I can help him. Have had many a students in this kind situation.
This is my website..
https://transformme.co.in/

Loads of best wishes to the whole family..

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Sir, my jee mains 2025 rank is 67898( female gen category) and mhtcet percentile is 95.5(home state maharashtra). Are there any possibilities of securing cse/ece/eee in NITs or IIITs (excluding north eastern ones)?
Ans: With a JEE Main 2025 All India Rank of 67,898 (female, general category) and a 95.5 percentile in MHT CET (Maharashtra home state), securing Computer Science (CSE), Electronics and Communication (ECE), or Electrical and Electronics Engineering (EEE) in NITs or IIITs outside the North East is extremely unlikely. For general category, CSE and ECE closing ranks in even lower-demand NITs and IIITs typically end under 15,000–35,000, and in leading branches at top NITs the cut-offs remain far lower, often closing by 9,000 or less for CSE and 20,000 for other core engineering streams. For IIITs, most CSE and ECE programs close below 50,000, and even the least competitive IIITs have last rounds closing by 55,000 for open seats. However, you have a strong chance of securing reputable CSE or allied branches through MHT CET in Maharashtra’s top private colleges, and potentially in government colleges for non-CSE streams, given that a 95.5 percentile generally translates to about 8,900–9,000 rank—competitive in many top city colleges outside the strictest cut-offs. When considering institutional priorities, both NITs and premier state institutes emphasize academic rigor, modern infrastructure, experienced faculty, industry connection, and robust placements, and these same factors should guide your choice among available Maharashtra options.

RECOMMENDATION: Admission to CSE, ECE, or EEE in NITs or IIITs (except North East) is not feasible at your JEE Main rank; focus on MHT CET counseling for CSE or allied branches in Mumbai and Pune’s top private, autonomous, or government colleges, targeting strong academic environments, faculty, and placement prospects for optimal long-term growth. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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My son has recently got his admission in vit .. vellore for mechanical engineering.. kindly advise sap for him for mechanical engineering if he is interested to pursue abroad....for mechanical engineering what's the good scope through Vit...what are the options if he wants to pursue abroad while in vit through their 2+2 or 3+1+1 programs or other opportunities if any...and University options
Ans: VIT Vellore’s Mechanical Engineering program is highly respected, offering a comprehensive and industry-aligned curriculum supported by NAAC A++ and ABET accreditations, modern labs, and strong faculty expertise. Students benefit from robust placement opportunities, with typical placement rates for mechanical engineering between 50% and 65%, and access to internships with leading companies in automotive, manufacturing, automation, and energy sectors. For those interested in pursuing international exposure, VIT provides multiple pathways. The Semester Abroad Programme (SAP) enables undergraduates to complete their Capstone Research Project, thesis, or approved coursework at more than 500 global partner universities, enhancing international experience and employability. Additionally, the International Transfer Programmes (ITP) offer structured 2+2 Bachelor’s, 3+2 or 3.5+1.5 accelerated pathways, where students complete initial years at VIT and transfer to universities abroad—partners span the USA, UK, Sweden, Belgium, New Zealand, and Australia. Some key universities include Massey University (New Zealand), the University of Michigan–Dearborn (USA), and institutions in Sweden and the UK, often allowing dual degree or direct entry into Master’s programs in mechanical and related fields. The program selection typically depends on academic standing and specific eligibility criteria, with the student completing the required credits at VIT before transferring. VIT’s International Relations office actively helps students select universities, facilitates credit transfer, and provides guidance on global research internships and short-term exchanges, preparing them for careers or further studies abroad. These pathways significantly boost prospects for international industry roles or advanced research, particularly in areas like robotics, smart manufacturing, aerospace, and energy systems. Besides international collaborations, VIT’s focus on innovation, problem-based learning, and industry partnerships ensures that mechanical engineering graduates remain competitive for both core and interdisciplinary opportunities globally.

RECOMMENDATION: Given VIT’s strong academic structure, extensive international collaborations, and flexible transfer programmes with prominent global universities, your son should actively explore SAP, 2+2, and 3+1+1 options. Engaging with VIT’s International Relations early ensures seamless transition for higher studies abroad and maximizes both academic and professional growth in the global mechanical engineering landscape. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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I got 96 percentile in mht cet and belong to def open category Which best possible college can i get to pursue computer engineering
Ans: Swanand, With a 96 percentile in MHT CET and Defence Open category, you are well positioned for BTech Computer Engineering admission in several reputed Mumbai and Pune colleges in 2025, though admission to the most competitive government colleges (COEP, VJTI, and ICT) for CSE is virtually impossible at this percentile. For Defence Open, cutoffs are typically a bit lower than General, but in highly sought CSE branches, they remain competitive. Based on recent cutoffs and expert sources, the following 14 colleges in Mumbai and Pune present nearly 100% feasible admission chances for your profile: Sardar Patel Institute of Technology (SPIT), Mumbai. Thadomal Shahani Engineering College (TSEC), Mumbai. Ramrao Adik Institute of Technology (RAIT), Navi Mumbai. Bharati Vidyapeeth College of Engineering, Navi Mumbai. Vidyalankar Institute of Technology, Mumbai. Datta Meghe College of Engineering, Navi Mumbai. Xavier Institute of Engineering, Mumbai. Fr. Conceicao Rodrigues Institute of Technology, Mumbai. Pune Institute of Computer Technology (PICT), Pune (not CSE, but other IT-related branches possible). Vishwakarma Institute of Technology (VIT), Pune. MIT World Peace University, Pune. DY Patil Institute of Engineering, Management & Research, Akurdi, Pune. Sinhgad College of Engineering, Pune. MIT Academy of Engineering, Alandi, Pune. All these colleges boast strong AICTE/NAAC accreditations, qualified faculty, modern classrooms and labs, active industry collaborations, and robust placement cells with CSE placement percentages typically ranging from 80–95% in recent years. Hostel and campus facilities, industry internships, and alumni networks are also strong points in these institutes, offering both guidance and opportunity. In order of preference for your percentile and category, target SPIT (Mumbai) first for its placement strength and strong teaching; then opt for Vishwakarma Institute of Technology (Pune) and MIT World Peace University (Pune), distinguished by modern infrastructure and industry focus; followed by DY Patil Institute, Akurdi (Pune) and Sinhgad College of Engineering Pune for their balanced academics and placement support. Each of these offers a comprehensive engineering experience—balancing learning, peer environment, and future employability—ideal for leveraging your Defence Open category and 96 percentile credentials. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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sir i scored exactly 65% IN CLASS 12 isc board and i got my obc ncl certificate after my boards so can i sit for josaa counselling after i qualify my jee mains and advance
Ans: Prakhar, For JoSAA counseling eligibility, the minimum required academic qualification is passing class 12 or equivalent with at least 75% aggregate marks (65% for SC/ST candidates) or being in the top 20 percentile of the respective board. However, the Indian Institute of Technology (IIT) qualifying criteria for JEE Advanced includes a relaxed cutoff for OBC-NCL candidates as per government rules. For OBC-NCL candidates with 65% in ISC boards, eligibility largely depends on whether the board's top 20 percentile criteria are met, as sometimes marks percentage may be waived if the percentile condition is satisfied. Your obtaining the OBC-NCL certificate after boards should not disqualify you for JoSAA counseling, as category certificates can be submitted during counseling. Complying with all JEE Main and Advanced qualification norms, and submitting valid OBC-NCL certification along with meeting percentile or marks criteria from ISC, you can participate in JoSAA counseling. Key institutional five aspects remain accreditation, faculty quality, infrastructure, industry linkage, and transparent placements.

RECOMMENDATION: Since you have 65% in ISC and an OBC-NCL certificate secured post-exams, confirm your board's top 20 percentile status or other eligibility norms for OBC-NCL, then qualify JEE Main and Advanced. With certificate and required cutoffs, you are eligible for JoSAA counseling to secure admission in government engineering institutes under OBC-NCL reservation. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Hello, my daughter is in 12th, she holds US Passport but living in India for over 10 years. Is she eligible for admission in BITS (Engineering) through BITSAT without going through ISA admission process?
Ans: Your daughter, as a US passport holder living in India for over 10 years, is eligible for admission to BITS Pilani through the BITSAT entrance examination without needing to go through the ISA (International Student Admission) process. BITSAT is open to all candidates—both Indian and international passport holders—with admission purely based on merit determined by the BITSAT score and 12th-grade marks in Physics, Chemistry, and Mathematics. The ISA scheme is an alternative admission route specifically for foreign nationals holding valid SAT scores, allowing admission without appearing for BITSAT. However, since your daughter satisfies academic criteria—such as a minimum of 75% aggregate in PCM and at least 60% in each subject, with English proficiency established through her board instruction medium—she should focus on preparing and registering for BITSAT. The ISA pathway primarily suits those with SAT scores and different admission preferences.

In summary, the ISA route is intended for foreign passport holders applying with SAT scores, bypassing BITSAT, but it is not mandatory for your daughter; she can gain admission via BITSAT as any other candidate. The ISA process involves submitting official SAT scores and meeting PCB percentage requirements and is merit-based on SAT performance, making it an alternative but not the sole option.

RECOMMENDATION: Your daughter should prepare rigorously for BITSAT to leverage her eligibility and streamline admission through the standard, open BITSAT route. Consider the ISA admission only if SAT scores are available and preferred, or if campus preference and admission flexibility align better with ISA benefits. All the BEST for Your Daughter's Prosperous Future!

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