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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on May 22, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - May 06, 2024Hindi

Relationship

I'm a 29 year old man who is about to get married in a few months. Since it's an arranged marriage I was confused as to how to initiate sex and physical intimacy with my partner without it being awkward. Thank you

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

First of all, congratulations.

It's natural to feel a bit anxious, especially since it's an arranged marriage; you might still be getting to know each other. My advice would be to focus on building emotional intimacy first. Then have an open conversation about how comfortable your partner is; marriage is forever, you can wait a while for your partner to feel secure with you and then initiate sex. Spend quality time with her and start with small gestures of intimacy like holding hands, a peck on the cheek, and the like. Respect her boundaries and understand there's absolutely no rush. Last but not least, consent is a must.

With time and emotional intimacy, physical intimacy should come naturally. Don't overthink it.

Best wishes for your wedding.

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Dear Love Guru, I will be getting married soon. It’s an arranged marriage and we met just a month ago. Due to certain family constraints, the marriage is next month. We like each other. We have met a few times and make it a point to talk via video call every day. But we haven’t even held hands yet. While I am aware of the physical aspects of sex, though I am a virgin, I am not sure how to approach this whole matter of the first night. I don’t want my wife to be uncomfortable or dislike the experience. Any advice you can share will be much appreciated. R

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I think some Internet research on first-time sex and how to please a woman in bed may help you? What to do as a first-timer, what not to do, how to make it pleasurable for her...

Most importantly, be patient.

You’re a virtual stranger to her and she may not be ready to go all the way the first time you’re alone together, but may pressure herself into it from a false sense of ‘duty’.

You mentioned yourself that you haven’t even held hands, so please be a gentleman and don’t think marriage gives you the right to demand sex from a woman.

If she’s keen on it too, good for you, but I’d suggest speaking openly to her about it and looking forward to a healthy sex life based on trust, openness and honesty.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 18, 2023Hindi

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I got married (arranged marriage) two months back. But my husband has not proceeded for any intimate physical contact. He just hugs me occasionally but never proceeds further. When I asked him whether he likes me or not …he says he loves me…but tells need to develop more compatibility before proceeding. He is a gentleman and takes care of me. But not willing to proceed for physical intimacy. I am confused and don’t know how to address this issue. Both of us are IT professionals with MNCs and work from home.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 07, 2024Hindi

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Hi, I'm 31 married two years ago. I'm little afraid to have penetrative sex with my wife due to the fear of not doing properly or low confidence. How to manage it for the first time. Pls guide. Thanks in advance

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Kindly consult an expert who can work with you on eliminating fears regarding this. Once the fears are gone, then there is no need for any guidance for the most natural act known to humans.

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Sir what are some of the top colleges in India to study pharmacy after class 12? What is the eligibility criteria? Is NEET compulsory?

Ans: Hi,

I’m not sure where you’re from, but according to the NIRF, the top colleges are located in Ooty, Mysuru, Manipal, and Mumbai. In most states, NEET eligibility is not required for admission, but state-level exams are necessary. Many deemed-to-be universities conduct their own entrance exams, so if you’re interested in joining one of these universities, you can reach out to them for further information.
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I got 96.5 percentile in JEE Mains Session 1 (SC). West Bengal home state. I have a interest in sports and would like to go with some electronics related branch. Which NIT & branch combination would be the best choice for me. I was thinking about NITR EIE

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