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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 13, 2025Hindi

I am planning to build my portfolio for long term, with 20k per month investment in equity and mutual funds, currently have around 10 lakh worth of stocks and mutual funds. Please guide for reaching my goal of 1cr portfolio by 2035.

Ans: Appreciate your planned & disciplined approach in Investment towards life goals. Much details have not been given in your query. However mathematically with annualized return of 15%+, target of reaching 1 Cr portfolio in 10 years time is possible with your current investments. But nobody can predict as to which asset classes and sectors in equity investments shall perform in next 10 year. You should take advise of a certified financial advisor to finalize asset allocation of your portfolio in line with your aggressive risk profile. Also periodically review asset allocation of your investments, that could help you achieve your financial goals.
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Hello Sir I am 34yr old. Started investing from July 2023 1.6lacs monthly in 8 funds (20k each) I want to create a portfolio of 50crore in 20yrs My funds include 2 small cap funds, 3 mid cap, 1 flexi cap and 2 large n mid cap funds How can I achieve my target. I am looking for 18-20% xirr on my investment
Ans: Congratulations on taking proactive steps towards securing your financial future. Your commitment to investing is commendable.

Creating a portfolio with the goal of reaching 50 crores in 20 years requires careful planning and strategy.

With a monthly investment of 1.6 lakhs distributed across various funds, you've already laid a solid foundation. However, achieving an XIRR of 18-20% may require a slightly more aggressive approach.

Given your portfolio composition of small-cap, mid-cap, flexi-cap, and large and mid-cap funds, you seem to have a diversified mix with exposure to different segments of the market.

To increase the potential for higher returns, you might consider slightly increasing your allocation to small and mid-cap funds, given their historically higher growth potential over the long term.

As a Certified Financial Planner, I advise against relying solely on direct funds. Opting for regular funds through a Certified Financial Planner can provide you with valuable insights and personalized guidance, ensuring your investments are aligned with your goals.

While index funds have their advantages, such as lower expense ratios, they lack the potential for outperformance that actively managed funds offer, especially in dynamic market conditions.

Regularly reviewing your portfolio's performance and making adjustments as needed is crucial to staying on track towards your goal. Additionally, maintaining a long-term perspective and avoiding reactionary decisions during market fluctuations is key.

Keep up the disciplined approach to investing, and with time and patience, you can certainly achieve your target of 50 crores.

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Hello sir Im 34 years old and my monthly take home is 96k and 8500 rental income. have a ongoing home loan with balance amount of around 10.50L and invested around 4L in ppf, 3L in LIC, 1L in NPS, 1L in PF and started investing 40k per month in different SIPs . Can you tell me how can I achive 1cr portfolio
Ans: You are already showing great clarity. At 34 years old, with a monthly income of Rs. 96,000 and Rs. 8,500 rental income, you are taking the right steps. A Rs. 1 crore portfolio is not far from your reach. You are already investing Rs. 40,000 per month in SIPs, which is very powerful. Let us look at how to make your journey to Rs. 1 crore even stronger, more efficient, and stable.

Income and Financial Structure
Monthly salary: Rs. 96,000

Monthly rental income: Rs. 8,500

Total monthly income: Rs. 1,04,500

Home loan balance: Around Rs. 10.50 lakhs

Monthly SIP investment: Rs. 40,000

Existing investments: Rs. 4 lakhs in PPF, Rs. 3 lakhs in LIC, Rs. 1 lakh in NPS, Rs. 1 lakh in PF

You have a strong monthly income and are investing a large share. That is very encouraging.

Investment in LIC
You mentioned Rs. 3 lakhs in LIC.

LIC plans are mainly traditional insurance plans. These are not ideal for wealth creation.

Returns are often 4% to 5% per annum.

There is low flexibility and long lock-in periods.

Insurance coverage is usually very low.

What You Can Do:

If your LIC policies are endowment or money-back types, consider surrendering them.

Only surrender if they are more than 3 years old.

Use the surrendered value to invest in mutual funds.

Purchase a term insurance policy instead for protection.

Separate your insurance and investments. It gives better growth and safety both.

Home Loan Management
You have an outstanding home loan of Rs. 10.50 lakhs.

Loan repayment is a long-term commitment. It needs balance with your investing goals.

What You Should Do:

Keep paying EMIs regularly.

Don’t rush to close the loan early.

Interest on home loans gives tax benefit under Section 24.

Continue building your investment portfolio alongside.

If you get any large bonus or maturity money, partly reduce the principal. This reduces tenure and interest. But do not disturb your SIPs for this.

PPF, NPS, and PF Investments
These are all long-term and low-risk instruments. They offer safety but lower growth.

PPF: Rs. 4 lakhs invested

NPS: Rs. 1 lakh invested

PF: Rs. 1 lakh (probably EPF)

Suggestions:

Continue small amounts in PPF for debt allocation.

Don’t increase PPF limit aggressively.

Keep NPS contribution small. It has strict withdrawal rules.

Consider NPS only for tax-saving if you are using Section 80CCD(1B).

PPF and PF offer stability. But they are not enough for big wealth creation like Rs. 1 crore. For that, equity mutual funds are the core.

Mutual Fund SIP Strategy
You are investing Rs. 40,000 monthly in SIPs. This is your biggest strength.

Review the Fund Choices:

Include large cap and mid cap funds.

Add some allocation to small cap for growth.

Choose only actively managed funds.

Avoid index funds. They follow market returns only.

Actively managed funds can outperform with skilled fund managers.

Avoid direct plans if you are not professionally trained.

Direct plans save commission, but lack guidance.

You may miss underperformance or wrong fund selections.

With regular plans through a Certified Financial Planner, you get tracking and advice.

For wealth creation, direction is more important than cost saving.

How to Reach Rs. 1 Crore Portfolio
Let us now talk about building your Rs. 1 crore goal. You are already investing Rs. 40,000 per month.

This alone can help you reach Rs. 1 crore in 10–12 years. But to ensure it happens faster and more smoothly, follow the below:

What You Should Do:

Review and rebalance funds every 12 months.

Don’t stop SIPs during market fall.

Increase SIPs by 10% each year as income grows.

Keep at least 3 SIPs: one large cap, one flexi-cap, one mid/small cap.

Allocate higher amount to large and mid cap funds.

If you stick to this process, you will reach Rs. 1 crore easily in less than 12 years.

If you increase SIPs yearly, the journey becomes even shorter.

Emergency Fund Planning
You did not mention an emergency fund.

This is very important before aggressive investing.

What You Should Do:

Keep at least 4–6 months of expenses in a liquid mutual fund.

Don’t use fixed deposits or savings account for this.

This gives fast access in times of illness or job loss.

Without this fund, you may be forced to stop SIPs or redeem investments in emergency.

Life Insurance and Term Plan
You mentioned LIC, but no term plan.

A pure term plan is must for financial protection of your family.

Steps to Take:

Take a term plan of at least 15–20 times your annual income.

Keep a single term plan with good claim record.

Pay premium yearly. Choose online or offline with help of CFP.

Avoid any plan that gives maturity or money-back.

Buy term plan separately and invest separately. This gives you full benefits.

Health Insurance for Family
You did not mention health insurance.

Depending only on employer health cover is risky.

What You Should Do:

Buy a family floater health policy of Rs. 10–15 lakhs.

Add top-up cover if needed.

Check features like day-care, no-claim bonus, and room rent limit.

Medical expenses can wipe out savings. Protect your investment journey with good cover.

Tax Saving Suggestions
Let us also look at your tax-saving investments.

You are investing in PPF, LIC, NPS, PF.

These together cover Section 80C and 80CCD.

Suggestions:

Use ELSS mutual funds instead of LIC or NPS.

ELSS gives tax saving and better return.

Lock-in is only 3 years.

LIC and NPS have low returns and long lock-in. ELSS gives better flexibility and growth.

Behaviour and Discipline
Wealth building is not just about picking funds. It is about habits.

Good Practices to Follow:

Never stop SIPs due to market fall.

Don’t chase past performance only.

Review every 12 months.

Stick to the process, not emotions.

Invest with clear goals.

Behavioural discipline is the true power behind achieving Rs. 1 crore.

Asset Allocation Strategy
Keep your portfolio balanced.

Don’t put everything in equity. Don’t put everything in fixed income.

Suggested Allocation:

70% equity mutual funds

20% in PPF + PF

10% in liquid funds as emergency

Rebalance once every year with help of a Certified Financial Planner.

This keeps your risk low and return stable.

Future Increase in Income
Your income will grow every few years.

How to Use That:

Increase SIPs by Rs. 2,000–3,000 every year.

Avoid increasing lifestyle spending unnecessarily.

Invest bonuses or increments wisely.

This small step reduces time to reach Rs. 1 crore.

Common Mistakes to Avoid
Don’t stop SIPs mid-way

Don’t rely on index funds or direct plans

Don’t mix insurance and investment

Don’t keep money idle in savings account

Don’t skip financial reviews

Avoiding mistakes is as important as choosing the right investments.

Finally
You are on the right path with Rs. 40,000 SIP.

Surrender LIC if possible and reinvest that money.

Don’t touch SIPs during home loan repayment.

Create emergency fund and buy term plan.

Use ELSS for tax saving, not traditional policies.

Review with a Certified Financial Planner every year.

Your Rs. 1 crore goal is possible. You already have the base. Now you need a structure.

Stay consistent, review regularly, and keep investing with purpose.

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I'm 27 years old. My in-hand monthly salary is around 2.15 lakh. I've around 29lakh of housing loan pending for next 15 years. My housing emi is around 31000 per month. I've around 7 lakh of debt in personal loan and credit card. I've around 2 lakhs in SIPs , around 2 lakhs in stocks . I've been doing around 20K per month in SIPs. I've also 2 LIC policies around 60000 per year. In my PF account I've around 6lakhs. My first goal is to build a portfolio of around 1 cr by 35. Is it a realistic goal. If yes how can I achieve this.
Ans: At 27, your focus on wealth creation is very good.
You have a stable salary and have started early.
Let us study your finances from every angle and give a complete plan.

Your Current Financial Picture
Let us first understand what you own and what you owe.

Age: 27 years

Monthly Income (Net): Rs. 2.15 lakh

Home Loan Outstanding: Rs. 29 lakh

Home Loan EMI: Rs. 31,000

Other Loans: Rs. 7 lakh (personal and credit card)

SIP Corpus: Rs. 2 lakh

Stock Investment: Rs. 2 lakh

Monthly SIP: Rs. 20,000

PF Corpus: Rs. 6 lakh

LIC Premium: Rs. 60,000 per year

Goal: Rs. 1 crore corpus by age 35

You have 8 years to reach the goal.

Key Positives in Your Profile
High income at a young age
This gives a strong base to build wealth.

Already investing via SIP
This shows financial maturity.

No delay in retirement saving
PF contributions have started early.

Housing EMI is manageable
You pay only about 15% of your income as EMI.

Areas That Need Attention
Your financial picture shows a few leakages:

High-interest personal loans
This will slow wealth creation.

Credit card dues are risky
These attract very high interest. Avoid them always.

LIC policies are costly
Premium is high with poor returns.

SIP investment is low compared to income
With Rs. 2.15 lakh salary, only Rs. 20K SIP is low.

Let us now give you a 360-degree strategy.

Debt Clean-Up Comes First
Before building wealth, clear high-interest debt.

Target credit card and personal loan
These usually have interest above 13% to 36%.

Don’t make fresh investments
Instead, use excess savings to repay these loans faster.

Create a debt closure plan
Use bonuses or incentives towards this first.

Do not take fresh loans
This slows down your compounding journey.

Home loan is okay
Since the EMI is affordable, keep that going.

Once bad debt is cleared, cash flow improves quickly.

LIC Policy Assessment
You pay Rs. 60,000 yearly towards LIC.

This is likely an investment cum insurance plan.

These offer poor returns
Usually between 4% and 5% only.

They are not suitable for wealth creation
They neither offer enough life cover nor good returns.

If these policies are less than 5 years old:

Consider surrendering the policy

Reinvest the proceeds in mutual funds

Use term insurance instead

This one step can save years of delay in wealth building.

Term Insurance – A Must-Have
You haven’t mentioned term insurance.

This is important, especially if you have dependents or loans.

Take a term cover of at least Rs. 1 crore

Prefer term-only, not return plans

Buy separately, not bundled with investment

Review coverage every 5 years

Premiums are very low at your age.

Emergency Fund – Build It Soon
You didn’t mention an emergency fund.

This is needed to avoid taking loans again.

Set aside at least Rs. 3 lakhs as emergency money

Keep it in liquid funds or sweep-in FDs

This is not for investing

This protects your SIPs from getting stopped

Without emergency buffer, every expense becomes a crisis.

Review of Existing SIPs and Equity
You have:

Rs. 2 lakh in SIP portfolio

Rs. 2 lakh in stocks

Rs. 20,000 monthly SIP going on

Let’s now analyse this based on your goal.

Is Rs. 1 Crore Corpus by Age 35 Possible?
You have 8 years to reach Rs. 1 crore.

It is not easy, but it is achievable if:

You increase your SIP amount every year

You clear all high-interest loans in 1 year

You invest with discipline for 8 full years

You do not withdraw midway

You invest in the right fund categories

But at current SIP of Rs. 20,000, it is not enough.

You must step up your SIPs to Rs. 40,000+ monthly after clearing debt.

And increase SIPs by 10% yearly.

SIP Category Suggestions
Let us optimise your SIP categories once debts are cleared.

Use this allocation:

Large Cap Funds – Rs. 12,000

Flexi/Multi Cap Funds – Rs. 14,000

Mid Cap Funds – Rs. 10,000

Small Cap Funds – Rs. 4,000

Avoid sector and thematic funds

You can add hybrid funds later as you reach 35.

Do Not Invest in Index Funds
Index funds only copy the index.

They don’t adjust to market cycles.

They invest in poor sectors if those are in index.

They don’t generate extra returns over market.

Actively managed funds:

Beat inflation better

Take advantage of market timing

Avoid risk-heavy stocks

Are adjusted by professional fund managers

Use regular plans through a CFP-backed MFD.
They help choose better funds.
They guide when to switch.
Direct plans don’t provide guidance or support.
You may lose more in mistakes than saved in expense ratio.

PF Corpus – Long Term Support
You already have Rs. 6 lakh in PF.

This is a good long-term foundation.

Do not withdraw this before retirement.

It acts as your safety for old age.

Equity Stocks – Handle With Caution
You have Rs. 2 lakh in stocks.

This is fine if you can track them regularly.

But for most people, mutual funds give better results.

Diversified exposure

Lower emotional bias

Professionally managed

Don’t increase equity stocks unless you have strong knowledge.

Step-by-Step Action Plan
Step 1:
Pay off all personal loans and credit cards in 12 months.

Step 2:
Surrender LIC policies if less than 5 years old.

Step 3:
Create emergency fund of Rs. 3 lakh.

Step 4:
Start Rs. 40,000 monthly SIP after loans are cleared.

Step 5:
Increase SIP every year by Rs. 5,000 to Rs. 7,000.

Step 6:
Don’t stop SIPs during market falls.
Keep investing.

Step 7:
Take term insurance of Rs. 1 crore.
Add health insurance if not covered by employer.

Step 8:
Do yearly review with Certified Financial Planner.

Taxation Angle You Must Know
Equity mutual fund taxation has changed.

LTCG (Long Term Capital Gain) above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.

STCG (Short Term Capital Gain) is taxed at 20%.

For debt mutual funds, all gains are taxed as per your slab.

Plan redemptions accordingly.
Avoid unnecessary switches.
Track holding period to reduce tax outgo.

Finally
You can reach Rs. 1 crore corpus in 8 years.
But only if you increase savings after clearing loans.
At your age, even a delay of 2 years can cost big.
Focus first on becoming debt-free.
Then automate your investments.
Avoid poor products like LIC combos.
Invest in mutual funds via regular plans.
Choose quality funds managed by professionals.
Review progress every year with a trusted CFP.

Discipline is more important than returns.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Hi sir I am 28 years old and my monthly take home is 1.22k , have a ongoing car loan with balance amount of around 4.8L and invested around 2.10 in PPF , 2.15L in EPF and investing 40k per month in 6 SIPs and over the years I have accummulated around 15.5 lakh and my stock portfolio is 9.2 Lakh where I invest 7.5k per month . Can you tell me what are the other investments I can make to achieve 1 cr portfolio ?
Ans: You are just 28. That is a very good start. You are already saving and investing with focus. You also maintain discipline in SIPs and stocks. Let us assess and guide you in a 360-degree view.

Income and Existing Commitments
Your monthly income is Rs 1.22 lakh

Car loan outstanding is Rs 4.8 lakh

EMI not mentioned, assume around Rs 10,000 monthly

So, approx monthly savings capacity is Rs 50,000–60,000

You are already using most of it in SIPs and stocks
That shows your good commitment to wealth creation

Your Existing Investments
PPF: Rs 2.10 lakh (long-term safe debt)

EPF: Rs 2.15 lakh (stable retirement support)

Mutual Funds: Rs 15.5 lakh through 6 SIPs (Rs 40,000/month)

Stocks: Rs 9.2 lakh and Rs 7,500 monthly SIP

This is a well-diversified portfolio already
You are using equity in both mutual funds and stocks
And using debt tools like EPF and PPF

Investment Approach Review
Your current path is working well
But you need to check two things regularly:

Is asset allocation balanced?

Are SIPs aligned to your long-term goals?

We now plan with a Rs 1 crore target

Understanding Your Rs 1 Crore Goal
You didn’t mention target year for Rs 1 crore
We assume you want it in next 8–10 years
This is a moderate-aggressive goal, very achievable for you

You are currently saving approx Rs 47,500 monthly
Rs 40K in mutual funds + Rs 7.5K in stocks

With this pace, reaching Rs 1 crore is realistic before 40

Suggestions to Reach Rs 1 Crore Faster
Here is a detailed and practical approach.

1. Finish Car Loan First

Car loan has no tax benefit

Interest is high, usually 9–11%

Prepay aggressively in next 12–18 months

Use bonus, incentives, or stock profits if needed

Freeing EMI boosts future SIPs

2. Increase SIPs Gradually

You already invest Rs 40,000 monthly

Add step-up of Rs 5,000 every year

Helps fight inflation and boosts compounding

Even a 10% yearly hike will shorten your Rs 1 crore journey

3. Maintain Smart Asset Allocation

At your age, equity allocation can be around 75–80%
Debt should be 20–25% to manage volatility

Ideal mix:

Equity MFs: 60%

Direct Stocks: 15%

PPF + EPF: 20%

Liquid/Safe fund: 5%

Review this every 6 months with a Certified Financial Planner

Don’t Use Direct Mutual Funds
Investing in direct plans may seem cost-saving
But they don’t give you any guidance or service

Disadvantages:

You don’t get personalised asset review

No emotional support during market dips

No tax-saving planning at year-end

No proper rebalancing and goal monitoring

You miss exit strategy planning

Use regular mutual funds via MFD with CFP
You get handholding, rebalancing, updates, and holistic help

Paying small commission is worth for long-term safety

Avoid Index Funds and ETFs
These funds simply copy the index
They do not use active human thinking
They perform like the market – nothing extra

Disadvantages:

They fall badly when markets fall

No chance of extra return or alpha

No protection in crash

Not suitable for emotional investors

Active funds managed by professionals perform better
They do strategy, research, exit and entry management

At your age, actively managed mutual funds are more powerful

Improve Your Stock Portfolio Handling
You have Rs 9.2 L in stocks and adding Rs 7.5K monthly
That’s good but you must handle it with discipline

Do’s:

Invest only in fundamentally strong companies

Hold for minimum 5–7 years

Don’t react to daily noise

Avoid penny stocks and tips

Don’ts:

Don’t average down bad stocks

Don’t invest without studying balance sheet

Don’t make it 50% of your portfolio

Keep stocks at 15–20% max of your total portfolio
The rest should be in mutual funds with SIP/STP

Debt Component – Safe But Slow Growth
EPF and PPF are long-term safety nets
Continue with them as is
Don’t withdraw unless for emergency

You can use the PPF limit of Rs 1.5 L per year
Invest Rs 12,500 per month consistently in it

This will balance your equity risk in volatile markets

Build a Liquid Fund Emergency Buffer
You didn’t mention emergency funds
This is very important for financial safety

Do the following:

Keep Rs 1.5–2 lakh in liquid fund or savings

Use this only for medical or job loss need

Don’t invest this in equity

This helps avoid credit card or loan use during emergency

Step-Up Investment Strategy
After your car loan closes, increase SIPs
Don’t let money sit idle in savings

If salary increases, add 10–15% more SIP every year
This is called SIP step-up method

This alone can bring Rs 1 crore in 8–9 years
You can use STP to move idle funds from FD to mutual funds

Use Hybrid Funds for Stability
You can add some monthly amount in aggressive hybrid fund
This balances equity and debt automatically
It gives stability in down markets
You can even use it for STP to equity

This is a safer way to keep your money growing

Tax Awareness for Mutual Funds
Keep in mind mutual fund taxation rules
For equity funds:

If you sell before 1 year – STCG at 20%

After 1 year – LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%

For debt funds:

All gains taxed as per your income slab

So always invest with goal horizon
Avoid selling in panic or for short-term goals

Additional Suggestions
Use one Certified Financial Planner to track all

Don’t mix too many mutual funds

Keep 5–6 funds max – good enough

Link every SIP to a goal

Don’t stop SIPs during market fall

Finally
You are saving well and regularly

Finish car loan to improve cash flow

Add step-up SIP to speed up Rs 1 crore goal

Avoid direct and index funds

Use regular mutual funds with CFP support

Review allocation and rebalance twice a year

Don’t take emotional or impulse decisions

Stick to the long-term plan and keep learning

Your Rs 1 crore target is 100% achievable
Stay disciplined, review regularly, and stay consistent

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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