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Ulhas Joshi |279 Answers |Ask -Follow

Mutual Fund Expert - Answered on Jul 18, 2023

With over 16 years of experience in the mutual fund industry, Ulhas Joshi has helped numerous clients choose the right funds and create wealth.
Prior to joining RankMF as CEO, he was vice president (sales) at IDBI Asset Management Ltd.
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Question by Vaman on Jul 10, 2023Hindi

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I want to invest in mutual fund of Icici prudential or Birla Sun Life multi asset fund growth ofRs.5000per month for a period of 5years . Is it advisable to Starrt when markets are quite high

Ans: Hello Vaman and thanks for writing to me.

Multi Asset Funds invest dynamically across asset classes like equity, debt and commodities and create a diversified portfolio for the fund. You can consider starting SIP's in them.

As with most mutual funds, there is no guarantee that you will make returns.

If you share your details about your risk appetite and goals, I may recommend other schemes instead of the multi asset funds.

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 13, 2023Hindi

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Sir Is it right time to invest in Mutual funds as the stock prices are falling due to Adani Problem

Ans: First of all as an investor and also managing your family finances, you need to answer following questions before deciding on which instrument you want to invest

1) Goal or financial goal or purpose of doing investment.
This will matter a lot as a goal of child education and retirement needs to see with different perspective and also should have asset allocation and market cap exposure accordingly.

2) Time Horizon of your goals- this is very important as it will help you to select the asset class and it's allocation based on your time period of financial goals. This is where investor makes biggest mistake of misalignment of asset time cycle and goals time period. If you allign this properly, your journey will be quite smooth.

3) Optimum Return expectations on your capital invested-
If you are saving and investing for some better future to fulfill your goals offcourse you will ask something in return which should be respectable higher returns than inflation for long term period( more than 7 years). If you are investing in India than equity return assumptions and calculations should be based on 12% return expectations and debt it should be 6.5%. Remember that you should assume practical return assumptions ( not the highest or what your friend says) as you can put any number in the excel sheet for your mental satisfactionðŸ˜ƒ

4) Risk taken on your capital-
Risk is a very negative word being taken in india but actually it's the risk appetite and risk acceptance of an investor which makes his outcome/ returns favourable. Understand one thing that if you want high returns you have to assume high risk and there is no option for it or an investor has to be happy with sub optimal returns if he is not ready to take risk.

Risk according to me is the capacity of a person until where and when he will not have any palpation in his stomach and he can absorb the downside easily( both realised and majority of time unrealised).

You should remember one thing that after deciding on above parameters, TIME IN THE MARKET IS MORE IMPORTANT RATHER THAN TIMING THE MARKET. As an investor, wealth is created over a period of decade and have your allocation to equity accordingly and enjoy the journey of markets which is going to be up and down.

After looking at all these parameters you can think of taking allocations to equity mutual funds and decide how much allocation to equity mutual funds is comfortable to you. If you dont have any prior expertise in investing in mutual funds or equity markets, its better to hire an advisor to help you do that or start with allocation in Equity Diversified mutual funds which will help you to take exposure in stocks.

And after all that, i would say it's your behaviour and emotions management which will help you create wealth in the equity market.

I hope this helps. Happy investing

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Question by Somashekhar - Jun 01, 2023Hindi

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Sir Iam invested in following mutual funds since last 1 year. Kindly let me know whether it is good to continue. 1.Tata Digital India fund Rs. 50000 2.ICICI pru Nasdaq 100 fund Rs. 50000 3.SBI Nifty next 50 fund Rs. 80000. 4.Motilal Oswal S&P 500 Index fund Rs. 50000. 5.Nippon India multi asset fund Rs. 50000. 6.Nippon India Taxsaver fund Rs. 50000 7.Axis Longterm equity fund SIP Rs. 5000 pm. 8.SBI consumption opportunies fund Rs. 60000 9.SBI Balanced Advantage fund Rs. 50000 10.ICICIPRU Balanced Advantagefund Rs. 25000.

Ans: Hello Somashekhar. Thanks for writing to me. The funds you invest in are good funds.

You have not mentioned any goals or your risk profile. If you can elaborate on them, then I may be able to recommend other funds.

Periodic reassessment of your portfolio and goals is essential to reaching your goals.

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Question by Prakash - Jun 09, 2023Hindi

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Hello Sir, I am 38 years working professional. Below are my Mutual Funds list. 1. Axis Bluechip fund Direct Plan growth - 2000 / month 2. PGM mid cap opportunity Direct Plan growth - 2000 / month 3. SBI small cap fund Regular growth - 1000 / month 4. Axis nifty 50 Direct Plan growth - 2000 / month 5. ICICI next nifty 50 Direct Plan growth - 2000 / month 6. ICICI nasdaq index direct plan growth - 2000 / month 7. ICICI technology fund Regular plan growth - 1000 / month Kindly give your input on this. Shall I continue with this for long term or not?

Ans: According to the data you have given, it appears that you have a Rs. 12,000/- monthly systematic investment plan (SIP) distributed across seven different mutual funds. Generally speaking, if your entire investing amount is Rs. 10 lakhs, you should invest in 6-7 mutual funds. Over-diversification can result from having too many mutual funds in your portfolio.

Regarding the recommendation on the mutual funds in your portfolio, all of them are considered to be fundamentally strong with a good track record. Investments in pure equity funds are recommended for the long term, ideally for a period of 5-7 years.

On the other hand, certain categories such as Small Cap, Mid Cap, and Sectoral funds are recommended only if you have an investment horizon of more than 7 years.

It's worth noting that two of the funds in your portfolio, namely Axis Nifty 50 Direct Plan Growth and ICICI Nasdaq Index Direct Plan Growth, are recently launched funds. As a result, they do not have sufficient track record to accurately assess their risk and reward potential.
We hope that you have made your investments based on your short-term and long-term goals, taking into consideration your risk profile.

Disclaimer:
• I have just no idea about your age, future financial goals, your risk profile, other investments and whether you would have the nerves to not get unduly perturbed if stock markets go temporarily down.
• Hence, please note that I am answering your question in absolute isolation to other parameters which should definitely be considered when answering a question of this type.
• I recommend you to also consult a good financial advisor who would look at your complete profile in totality before you act on this advice given by me.

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Question by Nilanjan - Jun 27, 2023Hindi

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Sir, I want to invest 5000/- per month, I am continuing investing till date 1) HDFC Large and Mid Cap Fund - Regular Plan - Growth - Good Return 2) HDFC Balanced Advantage Fund - Direct Plan - IDCW - Good Return 3) Mirae Asset Emerging Bluechip Fund - Regular Plan Growth- - Good Return 4) Tata Banking And Financial Services Fund Regular Plan Growth- - Good Return 5) BSG - Tata Banking And Financial Services Fund Regular Plan Growth- - Good Return 6) Quant Active Fund - Regular Plan - Bad Return 7) PGIM India Flexi Cap Fund - Direct Plan - Growth - Bad Return 8) TSGP - Axis Long Term Equity Fund - Regular Growth - Bad Return 9) ICICI Prudential Technology Fund - Direct Plan - Growth - Bad return....Please suggest me whether should I invest in the existing one (Good return) or shall I shift to some news Mutual Funds. PLEASE SUGGEST. Need short term growth. Thanks in advance.

Ans: 9 mutual funds is way too much Nilanjan. check the returns of all of them and reduce it to maximum 4.
you can have 1 each of large cap MF, mid cap MF, small cap MF and one flexicap if you like

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Question by jitendra - Dec 28, 2024Hindi

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Requesting you, to help me, regarding midcap 150 etf of mirae asset midcap 150 etf for longterm through SIP

Ans: Let us review the suitability of investing in a mid-cap 150 ETF for the long term via SIP.

Understanding ETFs and Their Characteristics
Passive Management: Midcap ETFs replicate an index like the Nifty Midcap 150.

Cost Efficiency: They offer lower expense ratios compared to actively managed funds.

No Active Decision Making: They do not try to outperform the market but track the index.

Volatility Concerns: Midcap indices are more volatile than large-cap indices.

Returns Depend on Index: The ETF's performance mirrors the performance of its benchmark.

Disadvantages of Investing in Midcap ETFs
Lack of Active Management
Mid-cap stocks are highly volatile.

Active fund managers can adjust portfolios to limit risks during downturns.

ETFs lack this flexibility, as they strictly follow the index composition.

Limited Flexibility in Rebalancing
Market conditions often demand sector rotation or stock-specific decisions.

Actively managed funds adapt to such conditions, but ETFs cannot.

Tracking Errors
ETFs may not perfectly replicate the index due to tracking errors.

This can affect returns, especially over the long term.

Why Actively Managed Funds May Be Better
Fund Manager Expertise
Skilled managers can outperform the index by selecting high-growth stocks.

They can mitigate risks in falling markets through tactical decisions.

Flexibility in Stock Selection
Active funds are not limited to a predefined basket of stocks.

Managers can select fundamentally strong stocks beyond the index.

Potential for Higher Returns
Actively managed funds have historically outperformed midcap indices over long periods.

This makes them a better choice for wealth creation in the mid-cap segment.

Recommendations for Long-Term Mid-Cap Investments
Diversify: Include actively managed mid-cap funds instead of relying solely on an ETF.

Professional Guidance: Invest in regular plans via a Certified Financial Planner.

Monitor Performance: Review fund performance every 6–12 months.

Manage Risk: Avoid overexposure to mid-cap investments due to their volatility.

Final Insights
While Mirae Asset Midcap 150 ETF is a low-cost option, it has limitations.

Active mid-cap funds can better navigate market volatility.

They provide the flexibility and expertise required for wealth creation.

For long-term SIPs, consider balanced exposure to actively managed funds. This ensures both growth and risk management over time.

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Question by Purushotham - Dec 28, 2024Hindi

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Dear sir, I am 50 years old and working in private sector MNC 1.5 Lakhs on hand. My job security is very less. I have two kids aged 18, 14 years old. My wife is housewife. I have 80L in Mutual funds and 20L in stocks, Bank deposits 40L. I am investing in SIP in below Mutual funds all direct growth around 57000 pm. CR Bule chip fund, MA Large and Midcap, HDFC smallcap each 5000 pm (15000) step up 2000 every 6months. Invesco Infra, JM Value fund, Nippon India Multicap, Small cap, Parag parekh Flexi cap, Quant Small cap, Mid cap each 6000 pm (42000), all these SIPs started recently from June 2024. Some Lumpsum in Axis smallcap 6L, Bandan core Equity 3L, CR Smallcap 8L, DSP smallcap 4L,HSBC Flexicap 3.5, HSBC Smallcap 3L, ICICI Pru Infra 3.5L, Value discovery 3L, Invesco Large & Midcap 2L, JM Flexicap 1L, Motilal Oswal Midcap 8L, SBI Bluechip 7L, Infrastructure 2L, Sundaram Smallcap 3L My expenses per month are 1.2 Lakh. I don't have loans/EMIs. Please advice me for my retirement life which need at least 1.5L per month, my kids education expenses, and also advice to my Portfolio. Thanks and regards, Yours sincerely, Purushotham Thati

Ans: Your current portfolio and investment habits show a good start. Let us evaluate your financial standing, address your goals, and provide suggestions for optimisation.

Assessment of Your Current Financial Position
Income and Expenses: You have a monthly income of Rs. 1.5 lakh and expenses of Rs. 1.2 lakh. This leaves a surplus of Rs. 30,000 per month.

Investment Corpus: Your existing corpus includes Rs. 80 lakh in mutual funds, Rs. 20 lakh in stocks, and Rs. 40 lakh in bank deposits.

SIP Contributions: You are investing Rs. 57,000 monthly across multiple mutual funds.

Lump Sum Investments: You have allocated significant lump sums to small-cap, flexi-cap, and thematic funds.

Goals: Your goals include securing Rs. 1.5 lakh monthly for retirement and funding your children's education.

Planning for Retirement
Corpus Required
You aim for Rs. 1.5 lakh per month during retirement.

Factor in inflation to estimate future monthly expenses.

The current corpus and SIPs must grow consistently to meet this goal.

Recommendations
Maintain a balanced allocation between equity and debt for steady growth.

Avoid excessive concentration in small-cap and thematic funds, which are volatile.

Increase exposure to balanced and flexi-cap funds for stability.

Planning for Children’s Education
Current Needs
Your children are aged 18 and 14, which implies upcoming higher education expenses.

Plan for expenses within the next 4–8 years.

Recommendations
Create a dedicated education fund for both children.

Use debt-oriented hybrid funds or short-term debt funds for near-term goals.

Ensure part of your mutual fund corpus is earmarked for this purpose.

Portfolio Review and Suggestions
Strengths of the Portfolio
Disciplined SIP Investments: Investing Rs. 57,000 monthly shows financial discipline.

Diversification: Exposure to various categories like large-cap, mid-cap, small-cap, and thematic funds.

Areas for Improvement
Excessive Small-Cap Allocation: High exposure to small-cap funds increases volatility.

Thematic Fund Overlap: Thematic funds like infrastructure may lead to concentration risks.

Direct Fund Investments: Direct funds lack professional guidance and ongoing monitoring.

Portfolio Optimisation
Consolidate funds to reduce over-diversification and improve focus.

Shift some SIPs to balanced advantage or hybrid funds for stability.

Review and replace underperforming funds periodically.

Invest through a Certified Financial Planner to benefit from professional advice.

Optimising Lumpsum Investments
Review the performance of your lump sum investments.

Redeploy underperforming small-cap and thematic funds into balanced funds.

Keep a portion of your bank deposits in liquid funds for emergencies.

Avoid high allocations to sectoral or cyclical funds due to their dependency on market conditions.

Tax Planning
Long-term capital gains on equity mutual funds above Rs. 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term capital gains on equity funds are taxed at 20%.

Debt mutual funds are taxed as per your income tax slab.

Plan redemptions considering these rules to minimise tax liabilities.

Emergency Fund Allocation
Maintain at least 6–12 months of expenses in liquid funds or fixed deposits.

This ensures financial security given your low job security.

Allocate Rs. 15–20 lakh from your bank deposits for this purpose.

Recommendations for SIPs
Reduce exposure to small-cap and thematic funds.

Increase allocation to large-cap and multi-cap funds for stability.

Consider balanced advantage funds to manage market volatility.

Step-up SIPs only after assessing fund performance.

Final Insights
Your financial foundation is strong, but optimisation is essential.

Prioritise stability and diversification in your portfolio.

Allocate funds separately for retirement and children’s education.

Maintain a robust emergency fund to handle uncertainties.

Seek professional advice to streamline and monitor your investments.

Consistent review and disciplined investing will help you achieve financial independence and secure your family’s future.

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Retiremen advice I am 50 yrs old single with recurring and chronic health issues. I would like to retire and I have 2 crore in FD 1 crore in stock and mutual funds I also own a home and a flat both are free of debt. Please advice me to restructure my assets and have a peaceful retirement. My tax consultant told me I can get up to 3 lakhs per month with 3 cr invested in stocks and mutual funds How realistic is it possible and how to montage the downside risks associated with it. I had been a victim of Franklin Templeton debt funds during covid and I do not trust Mutual funds houses or its manages as before.

Ans: Hello;

It is impossible to get 3 L per month with 3 Cr corpus in mutual funds, unless you are ready to deplete the corpus completely over 10-12 years.

Since you were impacted with Franklin Templeton debt funds issue earlier, I recommend you to buy an immediate annuity from a life insurance company for a sum of 2.8 Cr.

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The corpus that this investment will generate over 10-15 years may be used to top-up annuity and hence monthly payouts to account for rise in the inflation.

You may keep balance 20 L corpus in savings account as emergency fund.

Although the Franklin Templeton debt fund issue was difficult for the unitholders of those funds, the alacrity and surgical precision with which SEBI handled that issue and ensured all investors get their money back was commendable.

We cannot control human behaviour but we have extremely robust system of checks and balances in regulation of our MF industry to safeguard investor interests at all costs even if some negative event occurs.

Seek help from a mutual fund distributor or an investment advisor for help, if required.

Best wishes;
X: @mars_invest

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Hello Sir My father in law wants to transfer his owned residential property to my wife's name. Apart from will what are the other ways through which he can transfer? And what would be the taxation component?

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Income Tax is not involved in such transactions.
Most welcome for any further clarifications. Thanks.

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Dear Sir, I filled candidate name as (name-fathername-surname) in JEE main application. 10th marksheet it is name-surname. Is it create any problem during Josaa councelling? Same name affidavit is ok to resolved query during Josaa councelling?

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I live in a joint family with my brother and parents. I’ve been having a hard time managing my relationship with my bhabhi (sister-in-law). We live in the same house, and things have been tense lately. I’ve always tried to be polite and respectful, but there are constant little misunderstandings between us, and it’s starting to affect my peace of mind. We both want to keep things cordial for the family’s sake, but it feels like there’s always some tension whenever we interact. The problem is, I tend to get defensive whenever she says something I don’t agree with, and I know it’s only making things worse. I’m also trying to stay calm in front of everyone, but it’s hard not to let these small issues build up in my head. I really don’t want to keep feeling frustrated, but I don’t know how to change my approach. I love my brother and I want to improve the atmosphere at home and make sure I’m not letting these things affect me so much. Please help.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Joint family systems are filled with adventure and these things that you have brought up are part of that adventure.
Take things as they come and make sure you train yourself not to react...is this possible? YES, it is!
Let's say your Bhabhi accuses you of something, maybe your first reaction is to get defensive and explain or argue. Instead, what if you trained yourself to say: Okay, she's again accusing me of something; let's see what is the new thing that she has invented and let me have fun by simply listening.

This will ensure that your part of adventure gets playful and it will also enable you to respond rather than react. Now, does this happen overnight? NO, it requires a lot of mind training but start somewhere to get to someplace different.

All the best!
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Ans: Dear LoneKnight,
Yes, you feel like your trust has been broken. Is it easy to build back that trust? Yes and No...Yes, if you wish to...No, if you don't wish to...
If you go back in time and play the same story about how you wife was on Instagram and how she 'cheated' on you, there is no way that you can put your marriage back together.
How are you open-minded when an Instagram account causes you to fear what will happen? I can understand that you are a person with no past girlfriends but people do come with a past. Now, your wife could have shared her past with you, but most women seem to not want to for fear of reaction from the men like you have now. I can see that all this has hurt you, but if you want this marriage to work, you are going to have to drop all the past baggage, yours and your wife's and start afresh. Which means taking things for what it is NOW at face value without doubting it.
Can you do that? My suggestion would be: make an honest attempt at it. But warn yourself against going back in to the past otherwise there will be more mud throwing and no solution in sight.
Start new, Start afresh...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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