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Chandran Question by Chandran on Jun 16, 2024Hindi
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Sir, My daughter had an Equity MF, the SIP running from 2012 to 2022 which was redeemed in Jan 24. Here I understand that while calculating LTCG, 60 instalments of data until 31-1-2018 are to be entered in Schedule 112A. Even though Fund houses provide the correct grandfathered figure of taxable LTCG, the Govt is not ready to accept it, making it tough for the tax payer. Sir, my doubt is how to present the data from 1-2-2018 to 2022 (SIP stopped) and Jan24 date of redemption. Are they also to be included in same Sh.112A or under Sh.112A (after 31-1-18 clause). Please advise.

Ans: Yes, in my view there will not be any issue in claiming benefit of 112A for equity MF units acquired 1.2.2018
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Good Morning. I am a fan of yours and read you severally on Rediff replying queries of various Tax Problems. Sir, now I have a tax query and earnestly request you to resolve that which is as follows: My query is: I booked an under construction flat worth Rs.45.00 lacs which is scheduled to be ready for procession in year F.Y.2025-26. Now I sold shares worth Rs. 10,00,000/- and total amount paid to builder in F.Y.2022-23. Out of shares sold my LTCG IS Rs.700,000/-. Can I claim exemption for LTCG to that amount only which is given as advance in corresponding year? Again in F.Y. 2023-24 I will pay Rs.20,00,000/- by selling shares and LTCG of Rs.10,00,000/-. Can I claim Exemption for LTCG? Same process will happen in next 2 F.Ys. till procession of my new Flat. Can I claim exemption on LTCG on sale of shares in each financial year? Please also guide to fill ITR also for claiming above exemption in parts.
Ans: In respect of capital gains you can claim exemption from long term capital gains if the net sale consideration is invested in booking an under construction house. You get an extended period of three years to get possession in case it is booked with a developer.

In case the sale consideration is not fully invested in the residential house before filing of the Income Tax Return, the unutilised money has to be deposited with a bank under Capital Gains Account Scheme. The money deposited can be utilised within the prescribed period for payment of house.

You have to keep in mind that to claim this exemption, you should not own more than one residential house property on the date of sale of the shares except the one in respect of which you are claiming the exemption.

So once you claim exemption in FY 22 23, it is not advisable to claim exemption against gain earned in subsequent years.

In Income Tax Return, you can show the amount invested in property as exemption u/s 54F and if the entire 10 lakh consideration can not be invested in property then open CG account and show amount in ITR accordingly.

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 16, 2024Hindi
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Dear Sir...........out my three SIPs two are more than one year old and hence the gain earned so far on NAV units (of more than one year old) will qualify for LTCG. Whether it will be prudent to redeem these units ( of more than one year old) to avail benefit of Annual limit of Rs.1.25 Lakh of LTCG. Since these investments are for my long term goal, I will reinvest the redemption value received immediately in the same category of MFs and purpose of this exercise is just to avail benefit of LTCG tax exemption to the ANNUAL LIMIT of Rs.1.25 Lakh. Please suggest your valuable advice and will there be any negative impact on my overall investment.
Ans: it is admirable that you are already thinking about how to optimise your tax liabilities. When we talk about the Rs 1.25 lakh LTCG (Long-Term Capital Gains) exemption limit, many investors overlook this excellent opportunity to reduce their tax burden. Your proactive approach is commendable.

Now, regarding your query about redeeming units that are more than one year old, and reinvesting in the same mutual funds category to avail the LTCG exemption, it’s important to assess this strategy from a 360-degree perspective. Here’s a detailed and structured analysis to help you make an informed decision.

Understanding Long-Term Capital Gains (LTCG) and the Rs 1.25 Lakh Exemption
Long-term capital gains (LTCG) from equity mutual funds held for over one year are taxed at 12.5% if they exceed Rs 1.25 lakh in a financial year.

The first Rs 1.25 lakh of gains from your equity funds is exempt from tax each year. Hence, if your gains have crossed this limit, it's a great strategy to utilise this exemption.

By redeeming units that are more than one year old, you can realise the gains tax-free within the Rs 1.25 lakh limit and reinvest in the same funds, maintaining your investment horizon.

This approach works because any additional LTCG beyond Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%. Therefore, realising gains up to the exempt limit each year will help minimise your overall tax outgo in the long term.

Redeeming and Reinvesting Strategy
You mentioned that your investments are meant for long-term goals, so you intend to reinvest immediately after redemption.

Reinvesting ensures that you remain invested in the market and do not miss out on future potential growth. However, this strategy needs careful timing, as there could be minor costs in the form of transaction fees or exit loads if applicable, depending on the mutual fund you hold.

One key thing to remember is that reinvestment resets the holding period for the new units. So, when you redeem again in the future, the one-year timeline for LTCG exemption will start afresh from the date of reinvestment.

Despite this, redeeming and reinvesting to utilise the Rs 1.25 lakh exemption each year is an efficient way to reduce tax liability while keeping your long-term goals on track.

Impact on Your Long-Term Investments
The good news is that redeeming and reinvesting units of more than one year old should not affect your overall investment growth in the long run, as long as you stay committed to reinvesting the redemption proceeds into the same category of mutual funds.

Equity markets have their ups and downs. By staying invested and reinvesting promptly, you will continue to benefit from the potential compounding effect over time.

This strategy will not change your exposure to equities or alter the risk profile of your portfolio if you reinvest in the same mutual fund category.

The only minor impact may be the potential short-term volatility on the day you redeem and reinvest, which is usually negligible for long-term investors.

One point to keep in mind is market fluctuations. If the market is up at the time of redemption and down when you reinvest, you may lose some gains. However, for a long-term investor like you, these short-term blips should not be a major concern.

Evaluating Reinvestment Costs
Before proceeding with this strategy, ensure there are no exit loads applicable on the funds you plan to redeem. Exit loads, if any, are usually levied on units held for less than one year, so since your units are older than a year, this may not apply.

Transaction fees may also be incurred while redeeming and reinvesting. Some mutual funds or platforms charge small fees for each transaction. Although minor, over time these fees could add up, so it's essential to factor this in.

There might be a marginal difference between the NAV at the time of redemption and reinvestment due to daily market fluctuations. However, this impact is usually very small, and over the long term, the difference balances out.

As long as these costs are minimal and do not exceed the potential tax savings from the Rs 1.25 lakh LTCG exemption, the strategy remains sound.

Alternative Considerations
If the funds you hold are actively managed funds, redeeming and reinvesting makes sense, especially because actively managed funds are designed to outperform the market over time.

In comparison, index funds or ETFs, which only aim to match market returns, might not offer the same potential upside. This means that if you're redeeming and reinvesting in actively managed funds, your long-term potential for growth remains high.

Also, direct mutual funds may seem like a better option due to lower expense ratios, but when you're using an MFD (Mutual Fund Distributor) with CFP (Certified Financial Planner) credentials, you benefit from professional guidance. This helps in managing not only returns but also asset allocation, portfolio rebalancing, and overall strategy, which justifies the slightly higher expense ratios.

Regular funds, though they come with a marginally higher cost than direct plans, are worth it because of the long-term hand-holding and personalised financial planning they offer. This is especially useful for managing complex investment portfolios over long horizons like yours.

Long-Term Goals and This Strategy
Given that your investments are for long-term goals, the overall impact of this redeeming-reinvesting exercise on your financial goals should be minimal. This is because your fundamental asset allocation to equities remains unchanged.

By periodically booking tax-free gains, you are not only optimising your tax outgo but also managing your portfolio efficiently. Over time, this will add up to significant savings, which can be reinvested to enhance your corpus further.

Since your investments are linked to long-term objectives, such as retirement or other major milestones, staying disciplined with this strategy will help ensure that your wealth grows without unnecessary tax burdens eating into your returns.

Risk of Missing Out on Market Movements
One of the few concerns with this strategy is the risk of missing out on favourable market movements while your funds are temporarily redeemed. However, this risk is mitigated if you reinvest the funds immediately.

Markets tend to move unpredictably in the short term, but over the long term, equity investments generally deliver strong returns. By sticking to the plan of reinvesting quickly, you're safeguarding your investments from being out of the market for too long.

Also, if there are significant downward market movements during the time of your redemption and reinvestment, you might even benefit by buying units at a lower NAV.

Final Insights
Using the Rs 1.25 lakh LTCG exemption each year is a smart move to optimise your tax efficiency while keeping your long-term investment goals intact.

As long as the costs of redeeming and reinvesting (exit loads, transaction fees) are minimal, this strategy can significantly enhance your tax savings without negatively impacting your overall portfolio.

Reinvesting promptly in the same mutual fund category ensures you don’t miss out on market movements, and the long-term impact on your financial goals should remain positive.

Keep in mind that the reinvestment resets the LTCG clock, so continue to monitor and redeem accordingly to make the most of this tax benefit each year.

Regular mutual funds, when invested through an MFD with CFP credentials, offer additional benefits in terms of financial guidance, which should not be overlooked when managing long-term goals.

Lastly, this strategy is not just about tax savings—it’s also about maintaining and growing your wealth in a tax-efficient manner, ensuring you reach your long-term goals without unnecessary tax erosion.

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I want to retire by age 50, which gives me about 12 years to become debt-free and build a strong corpus. I have savings worth Rs 30 lakh. Should I use my current savings to aggressively prepay my home/personal loan so I can redirect future income entirely toward retirement? I have loan worth Rs 45 lakh. I am 38 now.
Ans: Your focus on retiring at 50 is powerful and inspiring.

You are 38 now. You have 12 years for a major life shift.
That’s enough time if handled with care and clarity.

We will cover debt reduction, wealth creation, and risk management.

Understanding Your Current Financial Position
Your current savings are Rs. 30 lakh.

You have loan outstanding of Rs. 45 lakh.

You want to retire in the next 12 years.

Goal is to become debt-free and build a strong corpus.

This combination of debt and savings needs precise planning.

Define Your Retirement Vision
You must first define your retirement lifestyle.

Know your monthly expenses after age 50.

Plan for healthcare, travel, family commitments.

This will help you know the size of corpus needed.

Also, calculate inflation-adjusted monthly needs post-retirement.
That gives clarity on savings and investment targets.

Evaluate Loan Terms and EMI Pressure
Check the interest rate on your loan.

Check tenure remaining and EMI amount.

If the loan is a home loan, interest rate may be low.
If personal loan, then rate may be very high.

EMI strain also matters.
If EMI is too high, financial stress will impact investments.

Should You Use Savings to Prepay the Loan?
The answer depends on loan rate versus investment return.

Let us assess both sides carefully.

Benefits of Loan Prepayment
Interest burden reduces immediately.

Loan tenure comes down if EMI is constant.

Less stress from outstanding liabilities.

More mental peace and freedom.

This is very helpful when targeting early retirement.

Limitations of Prepaying Entirely Now
You reduce your liquidity buffer.

No savings left for emergency or investing.

Retirement fund building gets delayed.

You need to strike a balance.
Don’t overpay and lose growth time.

12 years is your golden period to build wealth.
Once retired, no fresh income may come in.

Suggested Strategic Approach
Do not use full Rs. 30 lakh for loan prepayment.
Instead, follow a dual strategy of part-prepayment and part-investment.

This gives you control, growth, and flexibility.

Step 1: Create Emergency Reserve
First, keep Rs. 6 lakh aside in liquid funds.

This covers 6-8 months of household costs.

It also covers health, job, or life emergencies.

This amount gives you safety and liquidity.

Step 2: Partial Loan Prepayment
Use Rs. 12 lakh to prepay the loan now.

This brings down principal and interest burden.

Keep EMI amount the same, reduce tenure.

Check with your bank for exact numbers.
Focus on tenure reduction, not EMI reduction.

This builds pressure-free freedom for later years.

Step 3: Begin Long-Term Investments
You will now have Rs. 12 lakh available from savings.

Start investing this over the next 12 to 18 months.

Use Systematic Transfer Plan (STP) from liquid fund.

The investment should focus on long-term growth.
We suggest a mix of actively managed mutual funds.

Why Actively Managed Mutual Funds?
They are managed by expert fund managers.

They outperform in both bull and flat markets.

They help manage risks in volatile times.

Please do not invest in index funds.

Index funds just mirror the market blindly.

They cannot protect during market corrections.

They give average returns, not goal-focused returns.

Actively managed funds give tailored strategies.
They are ideal for someone targeting early retirement.

Avoid Direct Plans Without Expert Help
If you invest in direct plans without guidance:

You miss out on rebalancing help.

You may pick wrong funds and lose time.

You might panic during market falls.

Invest through a Certified Financial Planner and MFD.
They track your funds and tweak them when needed.

Future Surplus Allocation Plan
Now we plan how to use your income going forward.

Increase investments every year by 10% to 15%.

Avoid lifestyle inflation, focus on corpus creation.

Prepay loan further with yearly bonuses.

Aim to close the entire Rs. 45 lakh loan
within the next 5 to 6 years.

This frees up large income chunks for retirement building.

Long-Term Investment Portfolio Structure
After you are debt-free, investment can accelerate.
Target the following portfolio structure:

60% in diversified equity mutual funds.

30% in hybrid or balanced advantage funds.

10% in short-term debt and liquid funds.

This portfolio gives growth, safety, and liquidity.
It also protects your retirement income planning.

Retirement Goal Calculator
Your retirement corpus must support 30+ years of life.

Use future value estimates, not current expenses.

Include lifestyle, medical, and unexpected costs.

Work backward from age 50 to know how much to save.
That gives you an annual savings target.

Stick to it with discipline.

Risk Management Plan
You must protect your assets and income.

Take health insurance of Rs. 10 lakh minimum.

Add a super top-up of Rs. 25 lakh.

Hold term insurance till age 60.

Nominate all your investments properly.

Keep one joint holder for each major asset.

Make a Will once you cross age 45.
Also, review insurance and goals every 3 years.

Tax Planning and Cash Flow Monitoring
As your investments grow, tax planning becomes critical.

Equity mutual funds: LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%.

STCG taxed at 20%.

Debt funds taxed as per income slab.

Plan redemptions carefully to reduce tax outgo.
A Certified Financial Planner will guide with tax-smart withdrawals.

Track monthly cash flows with a simple Excel sheet.
Avoid unplanned EMI burdens or impulse purchases.

Monitor and Review Every Year
Review your investment performance every 6 months.

Evaluate any underperforming schemes.

Rebalance asset mix if markets shift.

Reassess loan status every Diwali.

Annual reviews bring control and direction.
Your financial plan must adjust with age and market.

Finally
Your goal of retiring at 50 is realistic.
But it needs focused planning and timely action.

Your savings, loan, and income must work together.
A dual approach of prepaying and investing is ideal.

It gives freedom from debt and freedom to grow.

Work with a Certified Financial Planner to review every step.
Stay consistent, avoid distractions, and build your vision patiently.

With 12 disciplined years, you can achieve early retirement.
Start today. Stay invested. Stay focused.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Asked by Anonymous - May 13, 2025
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Hello Sir - I am 52 years old and I have taken a break from my career. I currently have around 6 Crores worth of savings - 2 Crs in Equity and 4 Crs in FD. In addition, I have 2 residential houses and a farm plot all totalling around 4 Crores. No loan exposure. Anticipated expenses in future - daughter's higher studies in Europe after 6 years. Can you please advise me on the ideal portfolio construction.
Ans: You have taken smart and timely financial decisions so far.

Your present financial standing is strong and commendable.
No loans, good asset mix, and clarity on future needs.

Let’s now structure your investment portfolio with long-term clarity.
We will look at stability, growth, liquidity, and future goals.

Understanding Your Current Position
You have Rs. 6 crores in financial investments.

Rs. 2 crores in equity.

Rs. 4 crores in fixed deposits.

Additional Rs. 4 crores in real estate.

No loan liabilities.

Future key goal: Daughter’s higher studies in Europe in 6 years.

Your priority is to protect capital, generate growth, and stay liquid.
Your strategy should also aim at tax-efficiency and simplicity.

Key Investment Objectives
Preserve your existing capital base.

Provide for daughter’s overseas education.

Build a steady long-term wealth creation portfolio.

Maintain enough liquidity for emergencies.

Balance growth with lower downside risk.

Keep taxation under control with efficient planning.

Suggested Asset Allocation
Let us now assess an ideal mix.

20% in Fixed Income instruments.

60% in Actively Managed Mutual Funds.

10% in Emergency and Ultra Short-Term Funds.

10% in Gold and Sovereign Gold Bonds.

This structure is balanced, growth-oriented, and liquidity-ready.
You already have real estate, so no fresh allocation there.

Repositioning Your Existing Portfolio
You already hold Rs. 4 crores in FDs.
FDs are safe but returns barely beat inflation.

Consider breaking Rs. 2.5 crores from FDs.

Reinvest in better-performing asset classes.

You have Rs. 2 crores in equity.
We assume this is in direct equity or past mutual fund investments.

Shift from direct equity to actively managed mutual funds.

They offer professional fund management.

Diversification across sectors brings better long-term results.

Helps reduce stock-specific risks.

Please avoid index funds.

Index funds blindly follow the market.

They lack flexibility and active monitoring.

They fail to outperform in volatile or sideways markets.

Actively managed funds offer better risk-adjusted returns.

If you are currently investing in direct funds, be cautious.

Direct plans lack personalised advice.

Choosing wrong funds can affect returns heavily.

Regular funds through an MFD with CFP credential offer guidance.

Continuous monitoring and rebalancing are also provided.

In your case, a Certified Financial Planner can help align the portfolio
with your family’s unique life goals and risk capacity.

Detailed Portfolio Construction Plan
1. Fixed Income Allocation – 20%
Allocate Rs. 1.2 crores to debt mutual funds.

Choose high-quality short-term or corporate bond funds.

Keep the duration under 3 years for safety.

Avoid FDs for long term due to lower returns.

Debt funds are more tax-efficient after 3 years.

Be mindful of the new tax rule:
Debt fund gains are taxed as per your income slab.

So, debt funds offer better post-tax returns only
if held with smart timing and product choice.

2. Actively Managed Mutual Funds – 60%
Allocate Rs. 3.6 crores gradually in equity mutual funds.

Choose a blend of multi-cap, flexi-cap, and large-mid cap funds.

Add some exposure to thematic or sectoral funds for growth.

SIP route is ideal for phased exposure.

This diversified equity allocation brings long-term wealth creation.
You also reduce timing risk with regular investments.

The mutual fund mix should be carefully curated
based on your risk profile and goal horizon.

Please ensure a Certified Financial Planner monitors this portfolio
and rebalances every 6 to 12 months.

3. Emergency and Contingency Allocation – 10%
Keep Rs. 60 lakhs in ultra-short term and liquid funds.

This covers 24+ months of monthly household expenses.

Provides quick access for health and personal emergencies.

Avoid using this for investments or lifestyle spends.

This fund should remain untouched except for real emergencies.

4. Gold and Sovereign Gold Bonds – 10%
Invest Rs. 60 lakhs in Sovereign Gold Bonds.

They offer 2.5% annual interest plus gold value appreciation.

Held for 8 years, they are tax-free on maturity.

Ideal for diversification and long-term safety.

Avoid physical gold due to purity and storage risks.
Avoid gold ETFs due to expense ratio and no added interest.

Special Planning for Daughter’s Higher Studies
This is a clear and high-value goal.
Timeline is 6 years, so you can take some calculated risk.

Start a separate mutual fund portfolio for this goal.

Allocate Rs. 1 crore gradually into hybrid and balanced funds.

Use 3-4 year SIP/STP mode to reduce risk.

In the fifth year, begin shifting to ultra-short-term debt funds.
This ensures capital safety before the actual outflow.

Avoid touching this portfolio for any other purpose.
Mark this as “Dedicated for Education Purpose” for clarity.

Real Estate Holding Review
You already own two houses and one farm plot.
This is already 40% of your net worth.

No need to invest further in real estate.

Maintain only one house for self-use.

Other properties can be retained for legacy or rental income.
Do not consider real estate for cash flow or liquidity.

Keep property papers and title clear.
Maintain up-to-date valuation documents and insurance.

Key Risk Management Steps
Take a Rs. 25 lakh family floater health insurance.

Add super top-up for extra cover.

Keep your term insurance active till age 60.

Ensure proper nominations in all investments.

Make a registered Will and keep it updated.

Joint holding in major investments ensures easy access.

Risk management avoids surprises.
This is as critical as choosing good investments.

Tax Management & Compliance
Use the new capital gains tax rule wisely.

Equity MF LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term capital gains on equity are taxed at 20%.

Debt MF gains are taxed as per your slab.

Plan redemption dates carefully to reduce tax outgo.

Keep a simple tracker for each investment and its tax impact.
A Chartered Accountant can assist you every March for tax planning.

Review and Monitoring
Review the portfolio every 6 months.

Check for underperformance in any scheme.

Rebalance based on market changes or life changes.

Avoid panic-based decisions during market falls.

Periodic reviews are key to financial health.
A Certified Financial Planner can help simplify this review.

Finally
Your current standing is financially strong.
You have saved well and kept liabilities away.

A structured investment plan will now build on this base.
You can now enjoy peace of mind with clarity and control.

Your daughter's education can be fully supported.
Your own future lifestyle can be secured.

This 360-degree solution focuses on growth, safety, and simplicity.

Keep investing with discipline.
Stay guided with professional help.
Keep all financial documents well organised.

Wishing you lifelong financial freedom and happiness.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Hi Shalini ji I was in a serious relationship for 6 years with a boy whom I met on the 1st day of my college. He was from a different caste. Hence when my parents got to know they disapproved of it very strictly so I knew it wasnt going to work that easily. After sometime they started asking to get married. It was an ultimate pressure while we both were preparing for some government exams. I went through utter confusion and I got stuck between trying to study and at the same time thinking about my future with him. I was pressurised by my family including my brother and parents to leave him. Meanwhile I decided to not to carry it forward because I couldn't leave my parents for whole life to be with him because it was either him or my family. I lost all the focus towards my studies due to this decision and also started talking to some other boy (he was from my own caste accidently) whom I met accidentally at an exam centre for comfort. I got a brief moments of happiness with him. I confide my pain in him. Suddenly something happened in my family ,between my parents. And my mother started acting like you can choose your own partner for life because somehow she lost trust on my father. She even was comfortable with my brother's marriage with the one whom he loves. Now I feel completely betrayed because for them I left love of my life and got into another relationship with the boy I met at an exam center ( which now I feel was a hasty decision as I felt alone and depressed). Now no one talks about my real love and what i think about it for the future. I am in a complete state of repentance. I feel like I betrayed him. Now when i think of getting back to him I hesitate a lot because I think that I took a wrong decision due to the pressure and under stress. The person I am with now, I feel is not what I wanted as a partner and I feel that he is not mentally supportive. I wnat to leave him as well. What should I do now to be happy?
Ans: 1. Happiness is in your hand
2. You sound like an adult, over 21 and someone who knows what is right and what is not - so take action
3. If you are not happy in your current relationship, come out of it.
4. If you wish to reconnect with your earlier partner do so, but keep in mind he may not be single and if he is he will not be how you knew him, as in he will come with his own experience of life.

all the best.

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