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I'm a social drinker, but I want to stay healthy and hydrated. What steps can I take?

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i take alchohal 4 to 5 times a week,as far my health check up ok,how do iastay healthy hydrated sir

Ans: Four to five days a week but how much alcohol every day?

I am not sure about your age and for how long you are drinking? The liver and other organs are affected over a period of time. The changes are also determined by family history and genetic factors.

My advise would be to reduce alochol consumption and preferably, stop completely.
In some countries, alcohol bottles carries the warning that it can cause liver cancer; very simialr ways the cigarette packs have warnings.
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Centre for Health: The Specialty practice
Safdarjung Enclave, New Delhi
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