Is Pressure from In-Laws About Having a Baby Ruining Your Family Gatherings?

My husband and I met through a matrimonial site in 2015. He send me request and called me over phone. At that time,I was doing as govt teacher job residing in an area which is 300 km away from my city. He met me at my rented house and proposed for marriage. He asked my age but I hesitated to tell my age as I was almost 40 years then. He told me that it would not matter if I would be older than him. He was also about to 4o then. I didnt tell my age age, as I wanted to get married, because I had my younger sister to marry. He was working in a different state that time. He sent his father to our home to fix marriage. His father asked my age but because of shame, I could not tell my real age. I told them Iwas 36. We were married in 2016 April. By that time my job was transferred to my ho.e city. So I was at my in laws home during 2016 and 2017. My inlaws i.e my father in law and my unmarried sister in law were never supportive to me. They always treated me as outsider. As my husband and me were livi g apart because of job we couldnot plan for baby. We both were pretty older to conceive naturally, so I contacted an ivf specialist. The doctor told that I have less chance to conceive naturally as my egg quality is not good. It was not impossible though. But since we were living apart, he suggested me to go for donor ivf. I was broken for a moment as I wont be able to give birth my own child. But I had to make my husband a father. So I went for do or egg ivf. In June 2018 a beautiful baby girl was born. I was very happy to get her. But pI noticed his father started to drink alot after her birth. He got tranfer of his job in 2019 and he took me from his ho.e to company quarter in home city in 2019 August. It was okay initially, but he drank a lot which I couldnot bear as l was from a totally non drinker family. He even said he could leave me but not drink. In 2020 hecame to know my real age from my matriculation certificate. He was seen upset, I apologise to him for not telling him my real age. I also told him about my and our family condition at that time. He cuddled me and said that he was not that kind of person. To be mentioned here, he is 6 month younger than me. But gradually his behaviour was changing, always treat badly at very very small things. In 2021 he again hot temporary transfer to a different place which is 500 km away from our homè. During this time he totally cut co tact with me. When I was having Corona and was hospitalized with my 3 years he didn't come to visit us. In 2022 January he was back home. He took my mother to stay with us. From March 2022 he started asking for mutual divorce. I was shocked. Since I didnot agree to that he filed a divorce case against me in 2023 August. Now It has been about one year, we are in concillation process. We are still living together. We are having physical also. Sometimes he becomes good but he always attend the concelling and says that he wants divorce for sure. I dont want divorce as my daughter loves him so much. I dont want to break the family, he is providing food, my daughter's school fees etc. I also do a job, so I dont need money from him. Only I wantvto stay as family.Is there any way to change his mind ? My job is contractual, so I dont have job security. He gets a handsome salary like 1.5 lacs per month with all medical and other facilities. Please suggest, how can I change his mindset or what may cause him to divorce me. I trust him. He also trusts me. He has mentioned only age criteria for divorce.

Hi M 45 years and my wife is 41 years old. My wife is willing to take chance for Children. We got married in 2018. Due to her sarcastic behavior, we were living separately for 4 years. She came back 5 months before. But considering age, financial challenges, future expenses and her sarcastic behavior m afraid of taking this chance/risk. How can I convince my wife to avoid pregnancy now. Request your guidance.

I am 31 years old and have been married for 6 years. My relatives keep pressuring me and scaring me, saying that I haven’t had a child yet and that I should have one now. However, we are not financially prepared at the moment. We have just bought a house, and the loans have recently started, which exhausted all our savings for the down payment. My husband’s family had a very weak financial background. They had nothing, and he struggled a lot, even living in someone else’s house to complete his education. Only he knows how hard it was. Now, his salary has improved, and I am also employed. Additionally, we are entirely responsible for my in-laws, as my husband’s elder brother neither got married nor provides any support for the parents. We are under a lot of pressure right now, but everyone just keeps asking us when we are going to have a child. I’ve seen how my husband struggled with limited finances when the family was financially weak, and I don’t want to show such hardships to our children. On top of that, I am overweight and focused on losing weight to ensure I can be healthy. I feel very stressed and confused, but my husband is fully supportive of me.

I am a 31-year-old woman, married for 5 years, with a 3-year-old daughter and a 1-year-old son. I got married in 2019 at the age of 26, while my husband was 28. Both of us are entrepreneurs and have been running a coal business. Unfortunately, when COVID hit in 2020, our business faced significant challenges, and we have struggled to recover since then. As a result, we moved in with my in-laws. During this transition, I had my daughter and son. We've been actively trying to start a new business, but it hasn't quite come together yet. My husband recently found a job that he loves, although it doesn't pay well enough to allow us to move out. He seems content in this position because it's close to home and aligns with his passion. However, I feel frustrated because when I suggest he look for a higher-paying job to improve our situation, he is hesitant since he’s focused on pursuing what he loves. Living with my in-laws has been challenging, as our relationship has had its difficulties from the start. I'm concerned that they are unintentionally affecting my children's perspective on parenting, and they aren't able to care for the kids regularly so I can explore job opportunities, including remote work. I often feel trapped and hopeless but recognize that leaving this situation isn’t viable financially. Returning to live with my parents is also not an option due to the complicated dynamics there. Despite these challenges, I want to find a way to navigate my feelings of isolation and make progress. I would appreciate any advice or constructive suggestions on how to improve our situation and create a more supportive environment for my family and myself. Thank you.