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Dr Aarti Bakshi is a psychologist licensed by the Rehabilitation Council of India.
A school counsellor, she has worked for 15 years with young adults.
She has two PhD degrees -- developmental psychology from Global Institute of Healthcare Management and clinical psychology from Singhania University.
She is on the CBSE panel for counsellors and special educators. She collaborates with SAAR Education to help children develop life skills.
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Lakhbinder Question by Lakhbinder on May 24, 2023Hindi
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Hello Mam, my son is 17 years old and just completed his +2 class but his score is low. He is careless in studies though we are much concerned with his studies for last three years and push him to get good marks so he can make good out of his life. but i feel that he is low in confidence and also do not give his 100%. This is the peak time to make the career but still i do not see any significant change in his behaviour and routine. I scared a lot now that whether he will be able to make a good career and be successful in life. what should i do to make him confident, determined and focused so that he do good in life. Please advise..

Ans: Dear Lakhbinder,
Marks support but not destroy a future. Find his interest and allow him to do a course in that interest. It will support him immediately. Motivation and family support helps a young person feel calmer and helps him work towards his interest.
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Hello Sir. My Son has got offer from follwing University.. 1)University of Padua - Italy (BSC - Information Technology) - 3 years Course 2)University Of Strathclyde - UK (BSC - HON Computer Science) - 4 yrs 3)Caledonian University of Glassgow - UK (Bsc Hons Computing). 4 yrs 4) National College of Ireland (BSC - HON Computer Science Engg) - 4 yrs We are confused to select the university / country
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