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Dr Karthiyayini Mahadevan has been practising for 30 years.
She specialises in general medicine, child development and senior citizen care.
A graduate from Madurai Medical College, she has DNB training in paediatrics and a postgraduate degree in developmental neurology.
She has trained in Tai chi, eurythmy, Bothmer gymnastics, spacial dynamics and yoga.
She works with children with development difficulties at Sparrc Institute and is the head of wellness for senior citizens at Columbia Pacific Communities.... more
prabagaran Question by prabagaran on Mar 07, 2023Hindi
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i am 65 year old CHF patient for last 5 years with type 2 diabetic (under control). can my CHF be reversed ?

Ans: What is the reason for the CHF?
If it is due to end organ damage as part of circulatory disturbance then it is difficult to reverse but if it is due to Metabolic disorder, then correcting the Metabolic cause will help to reverse the condition
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