My 13 YO is addicted to junk food. He weighs 64 kg and is borderline obese. He used to be good at sports but now that he goes to tuition and extra classes there is no time for exercise. He doesn't eat his tiffin but saves his pocket money to buy chips and order junk food on his way home or when he steps out of the house. If we don't give him pocket money, he still manages to get it through his friends. How can we stop these habits? I am really worried about his health

Ans: What if the real issue isn’t the fights themselves, but the pattern they keep following? Every argument seems to have the same players, the same reactions, and the same outcome. But if nothing changes, where does that leave you? When emotions take over, who holds the power in the conversation - you or the reaction? If external voices are shaping your marriage, how much space is left for your own voice?
You can’t control how others behave, but you do control how you respond. If the same approach keeps leading to conflict, what would happen if you changed the way you engage? Would setting boundaries feel different if they came from a place of clarity rather than frustration? Would communication shift if the goal was to understand rather than to win?
The question isn’t just how to stop the fights - it’s how to break the cycle. Where do you start?
Wishing you success,
Aamish Dhingra
ICF-PCC Certified Life Coach
Co-Founder, Cocoweave Coaching International, Delhi