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Riki Question by Riki on Apr 11, 2023Hindi
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Hello madam/sir, I have a question in my mind. I work in a bank. I donot like to talk much with anyone, while other colleagues are free among themselves. Does this emit any sense of ego, or haughtiness or the likes from me? How do others perceive my behaviour? I do reply their questions, wherever possible. Or else i prefer to be in me. Their questions sometimes are more of spiral in nature. Please help.

Ans: Dear Riki,
Building healthy workplace relationships is critical for success and smooth working. While you are a quieter person, do make an effort to have a few meaningful conversations with your colleagues - it builds better likeability quotient.
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hi , I am a 40 year old man with 2 kids and wife , aged parents .Financially and health wise i am doing good and working in a reputed mnc. My relationship with parents , wife ,kids and siblings is in good spirits . however i am an introvert and don't have many friends .while i had friends in childhood and youth however they have moved in there life .i want to have an improved social life and also have joined a course to improve social skills and more strong relationship socially and at work . As course suggest to approach people , however i still don't approach/talk to people when opportunity is there .i also tried to have more positive attitude towards other people ..however still sometimes i start criticizing them in my mind...and sometimes i feel that approaching /talking may belittle me in front of them,,,, and talking /approaching opposite sex is even more difficult ... any suggestion to improve on this part and how i can improve my social life and get/find company of like minded people .
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Two things to understand here:
1. You are an introvert and you are happy being one
2. You are a forced introvert as you are unable to break the walls that you have put around you.

If you belong to the first category, enjoy the state of bliss as is. But from what I gather, you seem to falling under the second category wherein you want to expand your social circle and be a part of activities etc.
Then you have to put yourself out there.
1. Do understand that as much you want to be engaged with like-minded people, even these people will at some point in time think different from you.
2. Do accept people for who they are and that way you will come from a non-judgemental space while engaging with them.
3. Do connect with people who are totally different from you and it will help you expand your mind to be curious about them.

If this is a difficult thing to do...think....What if one of your children came to you with the same problem that you have now? What would you tell them to do?
Also, get into circles on social media that discuss topics which interest you. Join a gym or a hobby class and that is an avenue to make new friends irrespective of gender.
To add more friends, you need to be friendly as well...so open your heart and mind...

All the best!

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I am working as Branch Manager in Bank. My nature is more talkative and also due to my job many customers are meeting me. This fact increases my talkative nature and due to this though customer is satisfying my working time get reduced and I can't do my office work. Please advice about how to overcome this.
Ans: It's great that you're aware of the impact your talkative nature has on your work efficiency. Here are some strategies to help you manage your talkative tendencies while balancing customer satisfaction and your office responsibilities by establishing clear boundaries for your interactions with customers. While it's important to provide excellent customer service, set limits on the length and depth of conversations to ensure you can prioritize your office work. Allocate specific time slots during your day for customer interactions and office tasks. Use techniques like time blocking to schedule dedicated periods for meeting with customers and focusing on your administrative duties. Identify your most critical office tasks and prioritize them based on importance and urgency. Focus on completing high-priority tasks during designated office hours, and schedule customer meetings around these priorities. Delegate certain customer interactions or administrative tasks to your team members or support staff. Empower your team to handle routine inquiries or transactions, freeing up your time to focus on strategic priorities. When engaging with customers, practice active listening to understand their needs and concerns effectively. Summarize key points and address their inquiries efficiently to prevent conversations from veering off-topic. Clearly communicate your availability and office hours to customers. Set realistic expectations regarding response times for inquiries or follow-ups, and inform customers of alternative points of contact for urgent matters. Implement visual cues or signals to indicate when you're available for conversations with customers and when you need uninterrupted time for office work. For example, use a "Do Not Disturb" sign or closed office door during focused work sessions. Reflect on your communication habits and identify triggers or patterns that contribute to excessive talking. Practice self-awareness and mindfulness techniques to manage impulsivity and maintain focus during work hours.

Consider participating in workshops, seminars, or training programs focused on time management, communication skills, and customer service excellence. Develop strategies and techniques to enhance your effectiveness in managing customer interactions and office responsibilities.

By implementing these strategies and techniques, you can strike a balance between providing excellent customer service and fulfilling your office duties effectively. Remember that managing talkativeness is a skill that can be honed over time with practice, self-discipline, and a proactive approach to improving your work habits.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 08, 2026Hindi
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I recently started dating my girlfriend, and naturally I wanted her to feel special and comfortable, so I've been spending quite a lot on outings, gifts, food, cabs, and small surprises - almost like treating her like a princess. I genuinely enjoy doing these things, but at the same time I'm also starting to worry about my own finances and limited pocket money. Sometimes I even end up borrowing money from friends just to keep up the same level of spending. Now I'm confused because I don't want the relationship to become too dependent on money or expensive treatment from my side. I also have a small fear in my mind - what if she slowly gets used to this lifestyle and keeps expecting the same all the time? How do I maintain a healthy balance between being caring and generous in a relationship while also staying financially practical and not putting pressure on myself?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It is great that you have been spoiling your girlfriend with gifts, outings, etc. I am sure she appreciates them. But in a healthy relationship, the material things matter less than the effort and thought you are putting behind them. If you are in a solid relationship, your partner won't mind even if you are not giving her expensive gifts or taking her out to expensive restaurants. Moreover, what you are feeling right now is a healthy realization. Couples often confuse the initial bonding as something that needs constant spending of money. That does make your partner happy, but that is not exactly what makes her fall in love with you.

Now realistically, the biggest sign that your approach needs adjustment is that it's getting heavy on your pockets and you are borrowing money to keep up the experience. This is where it needs to be checked because this approach is not sustainable. Relationships are about emotional safety and comfort, not a financial performance. Too many expensive gestures can lead a couple to lose sight of the actual connection. Here's a healthier balance: cut down on the luxury; instead of an expensive restaurant, go for a cup of tea, maybe. See how she responds to the scaling down. If it really affects your relationship, it was never strong to last. Ideally, it should not matter. Don't build romance on financial stress. Moreover, if she ever mentions that you don't do the grand things you once did, it doesn't immediately mean she is materialistic. Sudden cutdown can feel like losing attention. Just communicate the financial aspect of it honestly. Let her know that as much as you loved doing them for her, it was really difficult to maintain, but are still doing everything but maybe in a smaller scale that fits your budget. There's nothing wrong in that, please remember that.

Hope this helps.

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