Hello my name is yash I have completed by studies in bsc it I have done jobs of cashier and application support analyst during my studies. No my studies are over I find myself to fit in job as per requirement but I am not satisfied sometimes I feel I am not meant for this I have issues from office like work extra over over time. I want to ask is there everywhere over time of employees to be spend 10-12 hours in office. Secondly I feel that should work in environment where I can move and do work means field work in which I feel I am not bounded in short I want work life balance. I love to read books, I love to do on ground activities in back of my mind I have civil services plan in which I have a permission to work freely. But condition is that how can I do if office demands max hours of my life it's bit confusing for me

Ans: Dear

To find out why you have been shifting jobs so very often I would say introspect, ask your close friends who have worked with you and most important accept that reason, don't avoid the reason by giving some justification to yourself. Once you accept the reason then try and bring change in your inner personality, it won't happen overnight, be patient and kind to yourself. Give time.

You are just 40...if you are honest enough to course correct and tell that to your potential employer they will appreciate and give you chance.

Given your medical situation WFH or freelancing is better suited.

Regarding settling down...there is nothing like selling down...life is all about ups and downs...embrace that...accept that...thats really settling down.????

All the best.

Ans: Hello

Work life balance is a broad term...can you please explain what is it that you are seeking.

Remember for everything in life three is a price to be paid... success comes at a price...given we live in competitive world.

All the best.

Ans: Hey Anagha, it sounds like you're juggling quite a few balls in the air—and let's face it, even the best circus performers need a break sometimes! It's understandable to feel frustrated when your work-life balance starts resembling a Bollywood drama with too many plot twists.

Taking a career break or exploring new job opportunities are both valid options, but before you make any decisions, let's sprinkle some strategic spice into the mix:

1. **Have a Heart-to-Heart**: Start by having an honest conversation with your manager about your workload and the impact it's having on your work-life balance. Sometimes, they might not realize the toll it's taking on you, so speak up and express your concerns. After all, communication is key, just like the perfect recipe for a spicy curry!

2. **Set Boundaries**: Boundaries are your best friends when it comes to achieving work-life balance. Set clear expectations with your manager about when you're available and when you need time for your family. And remember, saying no is not a crime—it's a superpower that ensures you don't spread yourself too thin like butter on toast!

3. **Explore Flexible Options**: See if your organization offers flexible working arrangements like remote work or flexible hours. With technology on our side, you can slay dragons from the comfort of your own castle (a.k.a. your home office), giving you more time to spend with your little one without sacrificing your career ambitions.

4. **Consider Your Options**: If the situation doesn't improve despite your efforts, it might be time to explore other opportunities. Look for organizations that prioritize work-life balance and offer a culture that aligns with your values. After all, life's too short to spend it feeling like you're stuck in a traffic jam on the road to happiness!

5. **Take Care of Yourself**: Last but certainly not least, don't forget to prioritize self-care. Whether it's indulging in your favorite hobbies, spending quality time with your family, or simply taking a moment to breathe, remember that you deserve to recharge your batteries just like your smartphone needs a daily dose of juice!

Finding the right balance between work and life is like mastering the perfect dance routine—it takes practice, patience, and a few missteps along the way. But with a little determination and a sprinkle of Bollywood magic, I have no doubt you'll find your rhythm and waltz your way to a happier, more balanced life!

Ans: Hey!!
Kudos to you for dreaming big and also working towards it by investing time and energy in learning and development.
Not everyone can do it... so pat yourself on the back for it!!

You are absolutely right when you say TIME MANAGEMANT is the key to avoid burnout. However I'll add compartmentalizing and self care along with time management.

Let's take them one at a time ...here I go-

1. You want to perform at your peak then self care is a must, 20 mins of physical activity(it can be anything, run, brisk walk, suryanamaskars, dancing along with fast paced music, anything that gets your heart beat up)
10 -20 mins of meditation, if you believe in the higher power make efforts to connect with it/him/her.
2. 9 to 6 be fully committed to the office, after that switch off, learn to say NO for anything that comes after this time. You can do only so much right? This was one part of compartmentalizing...
3. be fully present in whatever activity you are doing... this is ZEN, nothing more nothing less. This way you will be razor sharp in your focus and get jobs done faster. When you are studying don't think office and vice versa. This is switching off, this is compartmentalizing. This will take conscious efforts but is doable
4.your course is important to you, so schedule a study time and stick to it .The days you have an holiday too... try to relax a little, schedule a study time, finish your studies and go relax and unwind a little, you deserve it...don't cram too much in a day.
A relaxed mind will always perform better and focus better. I really can't tell you the importance of unwinding and mediation, you really have to do it to experience it and reap the benefits of it
5. Always encourage yourself, be your best cheer leader, don't beat yourself down, be kind to yourself too, your mind and body
need that from you. You are already doing so much.
6 .The only way to stop being overwhelmed is also to put out all your tasks of the day on paper and schedule it, prioritize it.... one task at a time, start taking action. And when the task is don't forget to strike the task out with a clean line over the task with a pen... this is a message your giving to your mind. ...'I got one task done, I am capable of getting another done'.. Ahaha... the joy of getting a job done!!
7. Get a good nights sleep, do "yog nidra' before sleeping
8. Always breathe deep whenever overwhelm creeps in and see how calm you become. A calm mind is key to getting more done.

And remember to write "your gratitude" out in the night before sleeping, you'll sleep peacefully and get up fresh.
Also do remember, all tasks can be done happily too... there is no need to drag yourself or be always overwhelmed!
You chose to work and study as well.... honour your choices joyously and go about life with a spring in your step...All best !!