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Archana Deshpande, the founder of TransformMe Life Skills Coaching, is an image consultant, soft skills trainer and life coach.
She has been working with individuals and corporate organisations for more than 10 years during which she has helped professionals and students improve their soft skills, build confidence and enhance self-esteem.
An engineer from the PDA College of Engineering, Gulbarga, Archana had a successful career at Reliance Communications. But she has always been interested in teaching and training people. So she pursued a postgraduate diploma in teacher’s training at Pune’s Symbiosis Institute of Management Studies followed by teaching assignments in schools at Visakhapatnam and Mumbai.
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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 19, 2024Hindi
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Hi Madam My daughter is in class IV in KV central school in Delhi. I wish to understand, if KV being bilingual in medium of instruction and when compared with other Pvt school passed out at time of school completion, is there likely hood of her being lagging behind in terms of personality and confidence in terms of language fluency and overall personality when compete for jobs in good corporates and for her overall career growth due to less exposure. Further, what more can I do for her confidence building now and in near future. Further, do you feel that school change or any other solution necessary for same. Pls help.

Ans: Hi!!

I feel that KVs have the best curriculum in terms of overall development of a child. But I really don't know how good this school is, you and your daughter are the best judge for this.
You can take a call whether to put her in a private school based on your goals in life and your budget.
Invest in a school which is invested in your child. School going kids will surely be influenced by the kind of environment they grow and the kind of company they keep. I believe that the confidence in young children comes from their parents.
You be confident about your decisions, she'll grow up being a confident girl. If you are under confident somewhere then see what you can do to raise your confidence, she'll learn to do it too.
You can get a coach to coach her on confidence building and grooming once she is a little older. For now be a confident parent and coach her, she is watching you. You feel you must change the school , then change it...make informed choices, and see how your daughter will bloom where ever she is!!
All the best...
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