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yogen Question by yogen on Oct 04, 2023Hindi
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Hi, I am 48 years old, job less from last 6 months, due to tech. change, My life is very unstable, I have change 18 jobs in last 8 years, I got divorce in 2011, after of married life of 3 years, now I am trying to re married from last 5 years of did't get good profile, I am very tense, as I have discussed my plam or kundly from some experts pandits, but did't get success. I have 25 yrs of experience but my luck is not with me, every time I am not stay in my job, I don't know why, I am very honest and cool person, and I have not good friend circle, not doing any smoking and drinking, l like to sit slient not talk more, may be this is a problem. pls suggest.

Ans: You need to introspect more. You say that you cannot find fault in yourself for changing 18 jobs in 8 years? I think that there has to be something for such a thing to happen. Please do some soul searching and get to be more positive in your outlook and approach to life. Go to a counsellor who will guide you. Please do not sit at home and remain silent. All the best.
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Hello Sir, I am 43 years, I have around 2 cr in stock market, 1cr in government bonds and mutual funds, a flat in Bangalore worth 70 lakhs and recently I sold around 1.6 cr worth stocks and savings to purchase a house in the outskirts of a two tier city where I am currently residing. Was it worth investing in this property? I have taken a break from my job
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Was Buying the Property a Good Decision?

Owning a house offers emotional comfort and stability.

It also lowers rent cost and gives more space.

But property is not a flexible investment.

It is hard to sell fast when money is needed.

Property needs repairs, tax payments and legal care.

Financial investments do not have such burdens.

Your earlier financial assets were more liquid.

You had Rs.?2 crore in stocks and Rs.?1 crore in bonds and mutual funds.

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Properties in outskirts grow slowly and depend on area development.

This growth is not guaranteed.

You must check if the area has good infrastructure plans.

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Equity mutual funds grow faster over time.

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Rs.?70 lakhs flat in Bangalore plus Rs.?1.6 crore new house.

That’s over Rs.?2.3 crore in property.

Stock and mutual fund holding is now Rs.?2 crore approx.

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Financial assets give compounding and flexibility.

Too much in real estate may hurt long-term goals.

You may face difficulty accessing funds in emergencies.

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During Career Break, Liquidity is Vital

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You must protect cash flow till income resumes.

Emergency fund should be 12 months’ living cost.

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You could rent in outskirts instead of buying.

Renting keeps your money invested in mutual funds.

You could have earned higher returns with flexibility.

Money in mutual funds can help meet multiple goals.

Renting avoids repair, tax and legal costs.

Ownership is not always necessary.

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Mutual funds give professional fund management.

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Regular mutual fund plans offer expert support.

A Certified Financial Planner can help choose better funds.

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They do not beat the market in tough times.

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Focus on active funds with proper advice.

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Continue asset review every 6 months.

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Your decision to buy the house brings peace, but lowers growth.

It’s fine if emotional security is your key goal now.

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Property is hard to manage, and slow to grow.

Your asset allocation needs rebalancing toward financial investments.

Start investing again when income resumes.

Reduce dependence on physical assets.

Trust actively managed mutual funds via regular plans.

Seek professional guidance to ensure your long-term success.

You’ve done well so far. With a few changes, you can go further.

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Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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