I am a 45 year old energetic and enthusiastic man, I was working overseas until 2020, Now I am not able to find the job of my discipline. I am a worried man, with lots of responsibilities over my shoulder. How can I overcome the worries and get in to my enthusiastic mode of working and earning well for my family and myself.

Ans: It sounds like you’re at a point where, after years of relentless focus on your studies and now your career, you’re experiencing a sense of aimlessness and burnout. This is not uncommon, especially for someone who has been driven by external goals for so long without taking much time for personal exploration and self-care.

Firstly, it’s important to acknowledge and appreciate the significant achievements you’ve made. Coming from a lower middle-class background and earning a position in an MNC with a substantial salary is no small feat. Recognizing this can help provide a sense of pride and accomplishment, which can be a foundation for building your next steps.

You mentioned that you feel like your brain is exhausted, which suggests that burnout might be a factor. Years of intense focus and hard work without much variety or relaxation can lead to this feeling. It’s essential to give yourself permission to rest and recuperate. This doesn’t just mean taking time off work, but also engaging in activities that truly relax and rejuvenate you.

Reflecting on your journey might help clarify why you’re feeling this way. During your studies, you had a clear goal and a structured path. Now, with more freedom and less immediate pressure, it’s natural to feel a bit lost. Your current routine seems monotonous and unfulfilling, which could be contributing to your sense of aimlessness.

Exploring your interests can be a fruitful way to reignite your enthusiasm for life. Think back to your childhood before the intense focus on studies began. What activities or hobbies did you enjoy? Revisiting these can help reconnect you with your passions. Alternatively, you might want to explore new interests. This could involve taking up a new hobby, joining clubs or groups, or even traveling. Stepping out of your comfort zone, even in small ways, can open up new perspectives and opportunities.

It’s commendable that you want to address your personal issues before considering a relationship. This self-awareness will serve you well. Setting personal goals can be helpful, but it’s important that these goals are meaningful to you and not just tasks to complete. Goals related to health, personal growth, or even learning new skills can provide a sense of purpose. However, ensure these goals are flexible and enjoyable, rather than adding more pressure to your life.

Your parents’ suggestion to get married might be well-intentioned, but it’s important to follow your own timeline. If you feel that taking more time to understand yourself will benefit you in the long run, then that’s a valid and important choice.

Lastly, professional support can be incredibly valuable. A therapist or life coach can provide you with strategies to manage your feelings of burnout and help you rediscover your enthusiasm. They can also assist in exploring your interests and setting meaningful goals.

In summary, taking time to rest, exploring your interests, setting meaningful goals, and possibly seeking professional support can help you navigate this phase of your life. By doing so, you can regain your sense of purpose and enthusiasm, leading to a more fulfilling and balanced life.

Ans: Dear Yuvraj,
I do see a lot of youngsters jumping into the bandwagon of start-ups without realizing the twists and turns in it. It's not about churning the next best revolutionary idea but it comes with a mindset that understands perseverance, resilience and a lot of compromises. Now, maybe you already know that, but at a certain point, the demands go beyond all of this where a failure would mean to start all over again OR complete change of the idea and back to the drawing board OR a feeling that joining a start up was a wrong move, and all these can be frustrating.

Now, I do not have all that information, so I can assume that maybe you are just tired from all of it and seek a break. Not interested in your passions could mean that you are possibly tired. So, take a break from it all and actually figure out if the start-up scene is actually right for you. And there is nothing wrong in admitting that it isn't, right? At least you won't learn that a few years down the line and regret wasting time...

But if you come back from the break, feeling rejuvenated, then you know that you can get back into the start-up with renewed vigor. Either case, that break will give you some reflection time. During the break, connect with a mentor or a coach who can actually help you dig deep down and get to the bottom of this...Motivation is just a step away provided you do something to wake it up...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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