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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 26, 2023English
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मेरी एक प्रेमिका है जो हमारे रिश्ते के पहले सप्ताह के भीतर मेरे साथ अंतरंग होना चाहती थी, हालांकि मैं अचंभित था, लेकिन आखिरकार मैंने हार मान ली। ऐसी मुलाकातें नियमित हो गईं। लेकिन समय के साथ मुझे एहसास हुआ कि वह अपने कई अन्य पुरुष मित्रों के साथ भी अंतरंग हो जाती है। मैंने उसे ऐसे ही एक कृत्य के बीच में पकड़ भी लिया था। मैंने उसका सामना किया और उसने इसे आंशिक रूप से स्वीकार कर लिया और कहा कि वह इसे दोबारा नहीं करेगी। लेकिन जब से मेरा उस पर से भरोसा उठ गया है. मैं एकतरफा रिश्ता तोड़ने की योजना बना रहा हूं।' लेकिन चूंकि मैं भावनात्मक रूप से अभी भी अपराधबोध से ग्रस्त हूं, इसलिए निश्चित नहीं हूं कि ऐसा करना सही है या नहीं। कृपया सलाह दें।

Ans: प्रिय अनाम,

विश्वास किसी रिश्ते के सबसे महत्वपूर्ण पहलुओं में से एक है। उसने जो किया वह धोखा था और अब उस पर भरोसा न कर पाना पूरी तरह से स्वाभाविक है। यदि आप रिश्ता तोड़ना चाहते हैं क्योंकि अब आप अपनी प्रेमिका पर भरोसा नहीं कर सकते, तो यह ठीक है। इसमें अपराध बोध का संकेत है क्योंकि आप इंसान हैं, लेकिन इसकी कोई ज़रूरत नहीं है। आप यहां गलत नहीं हैं. उसने आपका भरोसा तोड़ा और अब आप अलग होना चाहते हैं. यह आपकी पसंद है, जैसे धोखा देना उसकी पसंद थी।

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<p><strong>मैं महेश हूं और मैं पिछले 4 साल से रिलेशनशिप में हूं और हम शादी करने की योजना बना रहे थे। लेकिन अचानक चीजें बदल गईं. <br />मेरी गर्लफ्रेंड ने काम करना शुरू किया और उसी दौरान उसकी मुलाकात एक लड़के से हुई और उसने कहा कि वह व्यक्ति उसका दोस्त है और उससे बात करते समय उसे अच्छी वाइब्स मिलती हैं। <br />मैंने कहा कि आपको हर किसी के साथ अपना दोस्ताना व्यवहार सीमित रखना चाहिए और उस व्यक्ति के साथ घूमने-फिरने से बचना चाहिए। उसने बातों को सकारात्मक तरीके से लेने की बजाय बातों का खुलासा करना शुरू कर दिया और एक दिन मैंने उसे उस व्यक्ति के साथ लिफ्ट लेते हुए देखा। <br />जब मैंने उस चीज़ के बारे में पूछा तो उसने कहा कि मैं तुम्हें ठेस नहीं पहुँचाना चाहती थी इसलिए मैंने तुम्हें इसके बारे में कुछ नहीं बताया क्योंकि तुम बुरी तरह प्रतिक्रिया करोगे। उसके बाद चीजें बदल गईं और हम दोनों के बीच अच्छे रिश्ते नहीं रहे।' क्या मुझे बस समाप्त करना चाहिए या कुछ समय तक इंतजार करना चाहिए? </p>
Ans: <p>प्रिय एमबी,</p> <p>उस बुद्धिमान वार्तालाप को लाने का समय आ गया है, जो खुला, मुखर और ईमानदार होगा।</p> <p>उसे बताएं कि आप कैसा महसूस करते हैं; बिना किसी आलोचना या मांग के उसके जवाब की प्रतीक्षा करें।</p> <p>इसके अलावा, अपने आप से पूछें कि क्या आप अधिकारवादी और ईर्ष्यालु हैं और क्या आपकी कल्पनाशीलता आपको असुरक्षित बना रही है!</p> <p>चाहे जो भी हो, कोई भी रास्ता तय करने से पहले उसके साथ बैठें और खुलकर चर्चा करें। संचार बहुत सी चीज़ों का समाधान करता है; इसलिए कृपया इसे बुद्धिमानी से उपयोग करें।</p> <p>शुभकामनाएं!</p>

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मैं पास में रहने वाली एक महिला के संपर्क में आया, जिसके पति और बच्चे हैं, लेकिन वह कहती है कि वह भी मुझसे प्यार करती है। मैं भी उसके साथ सब कुछ साझा करता था और उसे और उसके बच्चों को जो भी संभव हो उपहार देता था। लेकिन बाद में मुझे पता चला कि वह एक बीमार महिला है और मोहल्ले के हर आदमी, बदमाश और हैरी के साथ उसके शारीरिक संबंध हैं। हैरानी की बात यह है कि मोहल्ले के सभी निवासी इस गंदी महिला से अच्छी तरह वाकिफ हैं, लेकिन वह सिर्फ गपशप पर ध्यान देती है। बल्कि मुझे कहना चाहिए कि वह हिस्टीरिया की मरीज है, जो हर किसी के साथ यौन संबंध बनाने की रुग्ण इच्छा रखती है। क्या मुझे उससे रिश्ता तोड़ लेना चाहिए!
Ans: प्रिय अनाम,
तुमने अभी तक ब्रेकअप क्यों नहीं किया? तुम किन संकेतों का इंतज़ार कर रहे हो?
(सिर्फ़ एक सुझाव: उस महिला के जीवन का चुनाव उसका अपना है...तुम्हारा या किसी और का इससे कोई लेना-देना नहीं है। उसे लेबल लगाने या नाम टैग देने से दूर रहो...साथ ही, हो सकता है कि सुनी-सुनाई बातें सच न हों या हो सकता है...)

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 08, 2025
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Me and my girlfriend we both are in relationship from about last 2 years (almost). After such a long time I got to know that she had 2 relationships before me that too she didn't told I got to know it by third person she was sexually involved too (not intercourse but yes other things with one of them)... When I asked her that why you didn't told anything to me before she said she was scared that if she'll tell it to me so I'll leave her and she really did not wanted that... She was scared to loose me. And she was still in contact with that guy and when I asked her that why you were still in contact with him (it's been around 3 years they got separated) so she says that she is like that only... She can't deny anyone because of her soft hearted nature but she did not had any feelings for him. She also said that once she even went to meet him when he requested to meet and also on the same she claims that her soft hearted nature has done that she wasn't able to deny. I loved her too much but now all these things are hurting me like anything. (She is my first relationship before her i never had anyone)
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that you are hurt and the complexities of the hearts might be difficult sometimes to grasp. The first reason for your sorrow, her past relationship, and the fact that she was physically intimate with them is not completely justifiable. Though I understand that you feel hurt because she did not disclose it to you, still it should not matter so much as to ruin your present relationship. And whether she will open up about such sensitive details is actually up to her. It has nothing to do with how much she loves you or trusts you. Please understand that.

Now coming to the next thing, the fact that she is still in touch with them and has even met one of them, that is slightly concerning. It would have been okay if she did that openly- please understand that I am not saying she should have asked for your permission, but rather discuss the same with you. Moreover, in a relationship, it is also important to understand how much your partner is comfortable with- goes for both men and women. If you are uncomfortable with her relationship with her exes, she should consider that. I would have said the same if the table was turned. I suggest you have a clear conversation with her and express how you feel about this situation- depending on how she reacts and how the conversation goes, you both can think about the next step.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 17, 2025
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My daughter got 96.99%tile in jee mains and 96.4% in 12th what college she can gets
Ans: Here is, How to Predict Your daughter's of getting admission into NITs | IIITs | GFTIs – A Step-by-Step Guide

Providing precise admission chances for each student can be challenging. Some reputed educational websites offer ‘College Predictor’ tools where you can check possible college options based on your percentile, category, and preferences. However, for a more accurate understanding, here’s a simple yet effective 9-step method using JoSAA’s past-year opening and closing ranks. This approach gives you a fair estimate (though not 100% exact) of your son's admission chances based on the previous year’s data.

Step-by-Step Guide to Check Your Admission Chances Using JoSAA Data
Step 1: Collect Your Daughter's Key Details
Before starting, note down the following details:

Her JEE Main percentile
Her category (General-Open, SC, ST, OBC-NCL, EWS, PwD categories)
Preferred institute types (NIT, IIIT, GFTI)
Preferred locations (or if she is open to any location in India)
List of at least 3 preferred academic programs (branches) as backups (instead of relying on just one option)
Step 2: Access JoSAA’s Official Opening & Closing Ranks
Go to Google and type: JoSAA Opening & Closing Ranks 2024
Click on the first search result (official JoSAA website).
You will land directly on JoSAA’s portal, where you can enter your details to check past-year cutoffs.
Step 3: Select the Round Number
JoSAA conducts five rounds of counseling.
For a safer estimate, choose Round 4, as most admissions are settled by this round.
Step 4: Choose the Institute Type
Select NIT, IIIT, or GFTI, depending on your preference.
If she is open to all types of institutes, check them one by one instead of selecting all at once.
Step 5: Select the Institute Name (Based on Location)
It is recommended to check institutes one by one, based on your preferred locations.
Avoid selecting ‘ALL’ at once, as it may create confusion.
Step 6: Select her Preferred Academic Program (Branch)
Enter the branches he is interested in, one at a time, in your preferred order.
Step 7: Submit and Analyze Results
After selecting the relevant details, click the ‘SUBMIT’ button.
The system will display Opening & Closing Ranks of the selected institute and branch for different categories.
Step 8: Note Down the Opening & Closing Ranks
Maintain a notebook or diary to record the Opening & Closing Ranks for each institute and branch you are interested in.
This will serve as a quick reference during JoSAA counseling.
Step 9: Adjust herr Expectations on a Safer Side
Since Opening & Closing Ranks fluctuate slightly each year, always adjust the numbers for safety.
Example Calculation:
If the Opening & Closing Ranks for NIT Delhi | Mechanical Engineering | OPEN Category show 8622 & 26186 (for Home State), consider adjusting them to 8300 & 23000 (on a safer side).
If the Female Category rank is 34334 & 36212, adjust it to 31000 & 33000.
Follow this approach for Other State candidates and different categories.
Pro Tip: Adjust his expected rank slightly lower than the previous year's cutoffs for realistic expectations during JoSAA counseling.

Can This Method Be Used for JEE April & JEE Advanced?
Yes! You can repeat the same steps after your April JEE Main results to refine your admission possibilities.
You can also follow a similar process for JEE Advanced cutoffs when applying for IITs.

Want to Learn More About JoSAA Counseling?
If you want detailed insights on JoSAA counseling, engineering entrance exams, preparation strategies, and engineering career options, check out EduJob360’s 180+ YouTube videos on this topic!

It is advisable to have more back-ups instead of relying only on JEE/JoSAA.

Hope this guide helps! All the best for your daughter's admissions & bright future!

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Asked by Anonymous - May 17, 2025
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Hello Sir, my son has scored 92.4 percentile in JEE Main. Could you please tell where he can get admission?
Ans: Here is, How to Predict Your Son's Chances of Admission into NITs | IIITs | GFTIs – A Step-by-Step Guide

Providing precise admission chances for each student can be challenging. Some reputed educational websites offer ‘College Predictor’ tools where you can check possible college options based on your percentile, category, and preferences. However, for a more accurate understanding, here’s a simple yet effective 9-step method using JoSAA’s past-year opening and closing ranks. This approach gives you a fair estimate (though not 100% exact) of your son's admission chances based on the previous year’s data.

Step-by-Step Guide to Check Your Admission Chances Using JoSAA Data
Step 1: Collect Your Son's Key Details
Before starting, note down the following details:

His JEE Main percentile
His category (General-Open, SC, ST, OBC-NCL, EWS, PwD categories)
Preferred institute types (NIT, IIIT, GFTI)
Preferred locations (or if he is open to any location in India)
List of at least 3 preferred academic programs (branches) as backups (instead of relying on just one option)
Step 2: Access JoSAA’s Official Opening & Closing Ranks
Go to Google and type: JoSAA Opening & Closing Ranks 2024
Click on the first search result (official JoSAA website).
You will land directly on JoSAA’s portal, where you can enter your details to check past-year cutoffs.
Step 3: Select the Round Number
JoSAA conducts five rounds of counseling.
For a safer estimate, choose Round 4, as most admissions are settled by this round.
Step 4: Choose the Institute Type
Select NIT, IIIT, or GFTI, depending on your preference.
If he is open to all types of institutes, check them one by one instead of selecting all at once.
Step 5: Select the Institute Name (Based on Location)
It is recommended to check institutes one by one, based on your preferred locations.
Avoid selecting ‘ALL’ at once, as it may create confusion.
Step 6: Select his Preferred Academic Program (Branch)
Enter the branches he is interested in, one at a time, in your preferred order.
Step 7: Submit and Analyze Results
After selecting the relevant details, click the ‘SUBMIT’ button.
The system will display Opening & Closing Ranks of the selected institute and branch for different categories.
Step 8: Note Down the Opening & Closing Ranks
Maintain a notebook or diary to record the Opening & Closing Ranks for each institute and branch you are interested in.
This will serve as a quick reference during JoSAA counseling.
Step 9: Adjust Your Expectations on a Safer Side
Since Opening & Closing Ranks fluctuate slightly each year, always adjust the numbers for safety.
Example Calculation:
If the Opening & Closing Ranks for NIT Delhi | Mechanical Engineering | OPEN Category show 8622 & 26186 (for Home State), consider adjusting them to 8300 & 23000 (on a safer side).
If the Female Category rank is 34334 & 36212, adjust it to 31000 & 33000.
Follow this approach for Other State candidates and different categories.
Pro Tip: Adjust his expected rank slightly lower than the previous year's cutoffs for realistic expectations during JoSAA counseling.

Can This Method Be Used for JEE April & JEE Advanced?
Yes! You can repeat the same steps after your April JEE Main results to refine your admission possibilities.
You can also follow a similar process for JEE Advanced cutoffs when applying for IITs.

Want to Learn More About JoSAA Counseling?
If you want detailed insights on JoSAA counseling, engineering entrance exams, preparation strategies, and engineering career options, check out EduJob360’s 180+ YouTube videos on this topic!

Hope this guide helps! All the best for your son's admissions & bright future!

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My son secured 95.03% in Jee mains.. Any chances getting csc or ece IIITs in general category
Ans: Kamalakar Sir, Here is, How to Predict Your Son's Chances of Admission into IIIT for ECE Branch – A Step-by-Step Guide

Providing precise admission chances for each student can be challenging. Some reputed educational websites offer ‘College Predictor’ tools where you can check possible college options based on your percentile, category, and preferences. However, for a more accurate understanding, here’s a simple yet effective 9-step method using JoSAA’s past-year opening and closing ranks. This approach gives you a fair estimate (though not 100% exact) of your son's admission chances based on the previous year’s data.

Step-by-Step Guide to Check Your Admission Chances Using JoSAA Data
Step 1: Collect Your Son's Key Details
Before starting, note down the following details:

His JEE Main percentile
His category (General-Open, SC, ST, OBC-NCL, EWS, PwD categories)
Preferred institute types (NIT, IIIT, GFTI)
Preferred locations (or if he is open to any location in India)
List of at least 3 preferred academic programs (branches) as backups (instead of relying on just one option)
Step 2: Access JoSAA’s Official Opening & Closing Ranks
Go to Google and type: JoSAA Opening & Closing Ranks 2024
Click on the first search result (official JoSAA website).
You will land directly on JoSAA’s portal, where you can enter your details to check past-year cutoffs.
Step 3: Select the Round Number
JoSAA conducts five rounds of counseling.
For a safer estimate, choose Round 4, as most admissions are settled by this round.
Step 4: Choose the Institute Type
Select NIT, IIIT, or GFTI, depending on your preference.
If he is open to all types of institutes, check them one by one instead of selecting all at once.
Step 5: Select the Institute Name (Based on Location)
It is recommended to check institutes one by one, based on your preferred locations.
Avoid selecting ‘ALL’ at once, as it may create confusion.
Step 6: Select his Preferred Academic Program (Branch)
Enter the branches he is interested in, one at a time, in your preferred order.
Step 7: Submit and Analyze Results
After selecting the relevant details, click the ‘SUBMIT’ button.
The system will display Opening & Closing Ranks of the selected institute and branch for different categories.
Step 8: Note Down the Opening & Closing Ranks
Maintain a notebook or diary to record the Opening & Closing Ranks for each institute and branch you are interested in.
This will serve as a quick reference during JoSAA counseling.
Step 9: Adjust Your Expectations on a Safer Side
Since Opening & Closing Ranks fluctuate slightly each year, always adjust the numbers for safety.
Example Calculation:
If the Opening & Closing Ranks for NIT Delhi | Mechanical Engineering | OPEN Category show 8622 & 26186 (for Home State), consider adjusting them to 8300 & 23000 (on a safer side).
If the Female Category rank is 34334 & 36212, adjust it to 31000 & 33000.
Follow this approach for Other State candidates and different categories.
Pro Tip: Adjust his expected rank slightly lower than the previous year's cutoffs for realistic expectations during JoSAA counseling.

Can This Method Be Used for JEE April & JEE Advanced?
Yes! You can repeat the same steps after your April JEE Main results to refine your admission possibilities.
You can also follow a similar process for JEE Advanced cutoffs when applying for IITs.

Want to Learn More About JoSAA Counseling?
If you want detailed insights on JoSAA counseling, engineering entrance exams, preparation strategies, and engineering career options, check out EduJob360’s 180+ YouTube videos on this topic!

Hope this guide helps! All the best for your son's admissions & bright future!

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Asked by Anonymous - May 17, 2025
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Hello sir, I have secured 98 percentile in mains this year... Please help me selecting the best college. (I'm highly interested in CSE)
Ans: Here is, How to Predict Your Chances of Admission into NIT or IIIT or GFTI for CSE Branch – A Step-by-Step Guide

Providing precise admission chances for each student can be challenging. Some reputed educational websites offer ‘College Predictor’ tools where you can check possible college options based on your percentile, category, and preferences. However, for a more accurate understanding, here’s a simple yet effective 9-step method using JoSAA’s past-year opening and closing ranks. This approach gives you a fair estimate (though not 100% exact) of your admission chances based on the previous year’s data.

Step-by-Step Guide to Check Your Admission Chances Using JoSAA Data
Step 1: Collect Your Key Details
Before starting, note down the following details:

Your JEE Main percentile
Your category (General-Open, SC, ST, OBC-NCL, EWS, PwD categories)
Preferred institute types (NIT, IIIT, GFTI)
Preferred locations (or if you're open to any location in India)
List of at least 3 preferred academic programs (branches) as backups (instead of relying on just one option)
Step 2: Access JoSAA’s Official Opening & Closing Ranks
Go to Google and type: JoSAA Opening & Closing Ranks 2024
Click on the first search result (official JoSAA website).
You will land directly on JoSAA’s portal, where you can enter your details to check past-year cutoffs.
Step 3: Select the Round Number
JoSAA conducts five rounds of counseling.
For a safer estimate, choose Round 4, as most admissions are settled by this round.
Step 4: Choose the Institute Type
Select NIT, IIIT, or GFTI, depending on your preference.
If you are open to all types of institutes, check them one by one instead of selecting all at once.
Step 5: Select the Institute Name (Based on Location)
It is recommended to check institutes one by one, based on your preferred locations.
Avoid selecting ‘ALL’ at once, as it may create confusion.
Step 6: Select Your Preferred Academic Program (Branch)
Enter the branches you are interested in, one at a time, in your preferred order.
Step 7: Submit and Analyze Results
After selecting the relevant details, click the ‘SUBMIT’ button.
The system will display Opening & Closing Ranks of the selected institute and branch for different categories.
Step 8: Note Down the Opening & Closing Ranks
Maintain a notebook or diary to record the Opening & Closing Ranks for each institute and branch you are interested in.
This will serve as a quick reference during JoSAA counseling.
Step 9: Adjust Your Expectations on a Safer Side
Since Opening & Closing Ranks fluctuate slightly each year, always adjust the numbers for safety.
Example Calculation:
If the Opening & Closing Ranks for NIT Delhi | Mechanical Engineering | OPEN Category show 8622 & 26186 (for Home State), consider adjusting them to 8300 & 23000 (on a safer side).
If the Female Category rank is 34334 & 36212, adjust it to 31000 & 33000.
Follow this approach for Other State candidates and different categories.
Pro Tip: Adjust your expected rank slightly lower than the previous year's cutoffs for realistic expectations during JoSAA counseling.

Can This Method Be Used for JEE April & JEE Advanced?
Yes! You can repeat the same steps after your April JEE Main results to refine your admission possibilities.
You can also follow a similar process for JEE Advanced cutoffs when applying for IITs.

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Hope this guide helps! All the best for your admissions!

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