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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 13, 2024
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Hi Anu ji, I am married since 2002 and have a single son who is 21 years. I like and love another lady who is also married and has 2 sons. We both are not happy in our respective married life. We also both love each other and have gone far ahead in our relationship n want to get married. My wife has caught me several times but i cant forget my girlfriend. what should i do

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Be honest with your wife and tell her exactly how you feel. There is no point playing around with two women and hurting both of them. Make a choice and stick to it...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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मेरी उम्र 36 साल है. मेरी शादी को पिछले 5 साल हो गए हैं और हमारा एक 4 साल का लड़का भी है। हालाँकि कॉलेज के दिनों में वह मेरी गर्ल फ्रेंड थी, लेकिन कॉलेज के बाद हमारा ब्रेकअप हो गया क्योंकि हमारे बीच कई मतभेद थे। तभी मेरी मुलाकात एक लड़की से हुई जो मुझसे बहुत प्यार करती थी। इस दौरान उसका भी कुछ रिश्ता था लेकिन मैंने कभी इस बारे में पूछा या जानने की कोशिश नहीं की. लेकिन आखिरकार फिल्म जैसी स्थिति में मैंने अपनी पिछली प्रेमिका से शादी कर ली, क्योंकि हमारे परिवारों ने हमारी शादी तय कर दी थी। दिन-ब-दिन हमारे मतभेद बढ़ते जा रहे हैं और हमारे मन में एक-दूसरे के लिए कोई प्यार या सम्मान नहीं है और सिर्फ बच्चे के लिए मैं अपना रिश्ता जारी रख रही हूं। मुझे बीच-बीच में दूसरी लड़की की भी बहुत याद आती है। मेरी शादी के बाद से मैं उसके संपर्क में नहीं हूं।' लेकिन उसे भूल पाना मेरे लिए संभव नहीं है. मुझे क्या करना चाहिए ? कृपया सुझाव दें
Ans: किसी विवाह चिकित्सक के पास जाएँ; आपको जोड़ों की जरूरत है’ निश्चित रूप से परामर्श. हो सकता है कि शादी एक गलती रही हो, लेकिन अब आपका एक बच्चा है और आप पर अपने बेटे का दायित्व है कि कम से कम कोशिश करे और चीजों को सुव्यवस्थित करे। अंतत: यदि कोई पूरी तरह से टूट जाता है तो आपके पास कोई विकल्प नहीं बचता है, लेकिन पहले चीजों को बचाने का प्रयास करें। और इसके लिए आपको अपने पूर्व के बारे में सभी धारणाओं को अलग रखना होगा। कम से कम वर्तमान के लिए.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 03, 2024English
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सबसे पहले मैं विदेश में रहता हूँ। मेरी शादी 2009 में हुई थी और मेरे एक बच्चा है और बाद में वर्ष 2017 में विदेश में ही मेरा तलाक हो गया क्योंकि मैं एक नए प्रेम संबंध में आया और 1 साल बाद शादी की, मेरे कोई बच्चे नहीं थे, मेरी वर्तमान पत्नी मेरे अतीत के बारे में जानती है और इसके अलावा हम बच्चा पैदा करने की कोशिश कर रहे हैं लेकिन मेडिकल स्थिति और मधुमेह के कारण मैं असमर्थ हूं और मुझे नकारात्मक बातें सुननी पड़ती हैं, वह अच्छी तरह से काम कर रही है और स्वतंत्र है लेकिन इन सबके कारण मैंने एक और लड़की से दोस्ती की और उसके प्रति एक भावना विकसित की और उसके साथ संबंध भी बनाए, वह जानती है कि मैं शादीशुदा हूं लेकिन अपनी प्रेमिका को नहीं छोड़ सकता, मैं उससे शादी करना चाहता हूं, हमारे बीच अच्छी बातचीत भी थी लेकिन कई बार हम इस मुद्दे के कारण लड़ते हैं कि मैं शादीशुदा हूं अभी तक तलाक नहीं हुआ है और इसके अलावा वह मेरी पहली शादी के बारे में भी नहीं जानती है मैं 42 साल का हूँ और मेरी पत्नी की उम्र 41 साल है, लेकिन लगता है कि मेरी उसमें रुचि खत्म हो गई है और वह अक्सर झगड़ती रहती है। वह मेरे साथ नहीं रहती क्योंकि मैं 3 साल से घर से दूर रहता हूँ और हर साल 1 बार घर जाता हूँ। मेरी नई गर्लफ्रेंड 35 साल की है, लेकिन मैं उसे खोना नहीं चाहता। हम लगभग 5 से 6 देशों में साथ में नैनी ट्रिप पर गए हैं। मैं मानसिक रूप से तनाव में हूँ कि क्या करूँ, कभी-कभी मुझे लगता है कि मैं अपनी जान दे दूँ।
Ans: प्रिय अनाम,
मैं यहाँ पर निर्णयात्मक नहीं लग रहा हूँ...लेकिन आप वास्तव में किस बात को लेकर तनाव में हैं? ऐसा लगता है कि आप तनावपूर्ण होने पर बिना किसी काम के एक रिश्ते से दूसरे रिश्ते में कूद रहे हैं।
क्या आपको कभी ऐसा लगा कि जब दो लोगों के बीच चीजें खराब हो जाती हैं तो कुछ प्रयासों से चीजों को ठीक किया जा सकता है? इसका उत्तर भागकर किसी दूसरी महिला की बाहों में चले जाना नहीं है।
जब चीजें असहज हो जाती हैं तो संभावित 'पलायनवाद' का एक स्पष्ट पैटर्न होता है...इसलिए, रुकें और पुनर्मूल्यांकन करें कि आप किससे भाग रहे हैं, आप किस आराम की ओर भाग रहे हैं और यह वास्तव में आपकी मानसिक स्थिति में कैसे मदद कर रहा है...
अपने और अपनी पत्नी के लिए सही काम करें...दूसरे रिश्ते में कूदने से पहले अपनी शादी का ख्याल रखें; आपको उसमें भी कुछ गलत ही लगेगा...इसलिए, कृपया रुकें और जाँचें कि वास्तव में क्या हो रहा है...

शुभकामनाएँ!
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Asked by Anonymous - May 23, 2024English
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नमस्ते अनु! मेरी उम्र 46 साल है। मैं शादीशुदा हूँ और मेरी दो बेटियाँ हैं। मुझे 8 साल पहले मुझसे 3-4 साल छोटी एक महिला से प्यार हो गया था। वह अपनी शादी से खुश नहीं थी और उसने तलाक ले लिया क्योंकि मैंने उसे उसके दुख से उबरने में मदद की थी। हम दोनों के बीच बहुत अच्छा रिश्ता था। अब वह मुझसे मेरी पत्नी को तलाक देने और उससे शादी करने के लिए कह रही है। मैं अपनी पत्नी और उससे बहुत प्यार करता हूँ, क्योंकि वह भी मुझसे बहुत प्यार करती है और मैं भी। अब क्या करूँ क्योंकि मेरी पत्नी उसे स्वीकार नहीं करना चाहती और न ही वह मेरी पत्नी को स्वीकार करना चाहती है।
Ans: प्रिय अनाम,
कोई भी पुरुष आपकी जगह पर नहीं रहना चाहेगा; गंभीरता से!
अब, आप इस झंझट में कैसे फंस गए, यह कोई भी अनुमान लगा सकता है...लेकिन अपने परिवार की खातिर (आपके लिए सब कुछ ठीक चल रहा है), ऐसा निर्णय लें जो सभी के लिए सबसे अच्छा हो; कम से कम लंबे समय में। (मेरे लिए आपके लिए निर्णय लेना नैतिक रूप से सही नहीं है)।

यह दोनों महिलाओं के लिए अनुचित हो सकता है और आपको इसके परिणाम भुगतने होंगे...
अब, मैं आपको या आपने जो किया है, उसके बारे में नहीं आंक रहा हूँ, लेकिन आप स्पष्ट रूप से जानते थे कि दूसरी महिला से प्यार करना एक विकल्प था...साथ ही, अब वह आपसे जो अपेक्षा रखती है, वह आपके लिए असहज है।
क्या उसे आपसे कभी यह संदेश मिला कि अगर वह अपने पति को तलाक देती है, तो आप भी अपनी पत्नी को तलाक देंगे और उसके साथ मिल जाएंगे?
प्यार से ज़्यादा, यह मांगों के साथ ज़रूरत बन गया है...

निर्णय लें, उस पर टिके रहें और दोनों में से किसी एक को इससे उबरने में मदद करें! आप उन दोनों के लिए इसके लिए ऋणी हैं!

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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Feb 26, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 15, 2025
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I am 46 years old male married for the fast 17 years. I have one son. My wife loves me very much. She is highly posessive about me since our marriage. I fell in love with my collegue who is a widower and 25 years of age with a daughter. She only started communicating and talking to me a lot. I was not having any kind of feelings towards her as I was overloaded with work. I got transferred to other place. There work pressure is not there. Now, I am in love with that widower. I told this to my wife also. She was shocked. After hue and cry, now my wife is back to normal and warned me to stay away from that girl.But I am not able to forget that girl. I called her over phone four to five times for a couple of times. It seems, now that girl is not interested in me. When I was with her, I never confessed that I love her. Now when I got transferred, i am keeping whats app messages which are visible only to her. I dont know whether she is not understanding this one, she is not responding. I dont want to cheat my wife and at the same time not able to forget that girl also. Please suggest me what to do.
Ans: Hello sir,
This is actually mid life crisis that you are going through, because of which you think you are having feelings for your colleague. Now that you have been transferred to a new place wirh new surroundings, take this as an opportunity to build new healthy relationships around you. You should start giving more quality time to your wife. She has given you a second chance. You should take it well and forget about your past as your colleague has also moved on now. I hope this will help you with your problem.
Take care
Dr Upneet kaur
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Career Counsellor - Answered on May 06, 2025

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Sir , i got 67000crl rank and 20000obc rank in jee mains . I also got 18000 rank in vit. I am also going to write cusat, met and bitsat , i think i might not crack jee advance . i am hoping to pursue mechanical or electrical, Could sir kindly tell me its scope. From my current options which college should i choose among GFTI,s North east nits, VIT, MET, BITSAT for me to develop a good career
Ans: Rohan, considering your JEE performance, disregard BITSAT as it requires a minimum score of 250 out of 390 for admission into Mechanical Engineering or Electrical branches. Designate CUSAT as your primary selection if your Home State is Kerala and you qualify for OBC Category consideration. Compile a list of 4-5 esteemed colleges affiliated with CUSAT that possess commendable placement records. Secondly, prioritize GFTIs and North East NITs over alternatives such as VIT and MET. Regarding GFTIs and NITs, it is prudent to examine the placement records of the past three years and assess them prior to selecting preferences in JoSAA. Consider MET as your final alternative. Here is a step-by-step guide for predicting your chances of admission into NIT, IIIT, or GFTI following the JEE Main results.

Step 1: Collect Your Key Details
Before starting, note down the following details:

Your JEE Main percentile
Your category (General-Open, SC, ST, OBC-NCL, EWS, PwD categories)
Preferred institute types (NIT, IIIT, GFTI)
Preferred locations (or if you're open to any location in India)
List of at least 3 preferred academic programs (branches) as backups (instead of relying on just one option)
Step 2: Access JoSAA’s Official Opening & Closing Ranks
Go to Google and type: JoSAA Opening & Closing Ranks 2024
Click on the first search result (official JoSAA website).
You will land directly on JoSAA’s portal, where you can enter your details to check past-year cutoffs.
Step 3: Select the Round Number
JoSAA conducts five rounds of counseling.
For a safer estimate, choose Round 4, as most admissions are settled by this round.
Step 4: Choose the Institute Type
Select NIT, IIIT, or GFTI, depending on your preference.
If you are open to all types of institutes, check them one by one instead of selecting all at once.
Step 5: Select the Institute Name (Based on Location)
It is recommended to check institutes one by one, based on your preferred locations.
Avoid selecting ‘ALL’ at once, as it may create confusion.
Step 6: Select Your Preferred Academic Program (Branch)
Enter the branches you are interested in, one at a time, in your preferred order.
Step 7: Submit and Analyze Results
After selecting the relevant details, click the ‘SUBMIT’ button.
The system will display Opening & Closing Ranks of the selected institute and branch for different categories both Home State (HS) i.e. State you belong to & also Other State (OS).
Step 8: Note Down the Opening & Closing Ranks
Maintain a notebook or diary to record the Opening & Closing Ranks for each institute and branch you are interested in, separately for HS & OS Categories for a quick reference.
This will serve as a quick reference during JoSAA counseling.
Step 9: Adjust Your Expectations on a Safer Side
Since Opening & Closing Ranks fluctuate slightly each year, always adjust the numbers for safety.
Example Calculation:
If the Opening & Closing Ranks for NIT Delhi | Mechanical Engineering | OPEN Category show 8622 & 26186 (for Home State), consider adjusting them to 8300 & 23000 (on a safer side).
If the Female Category rank is 34334 & 36212, adjust it to 31000 & 33000.

Follow this approach for Other State candidates and different categories.
Pro Tip: Adjust your expected rank slightly lower than the previous year's cutoffs for realistic expectations during JoSAA counseling.

Can This Method Be Used for JEE April & JEE Advanced?
Yes! You can repeat the same steps after your April JEE Main results to refine your admission possibilities.
You can also follow a similar process for JEE Advanced cutoffs when applying for IITs.

Want to Learn More About JoSAA Counseling?
If you want detailed insights on JoSAA counseling, engineering entrance exams, preparation strategies, and engineering career options, check out EduJob360’s 180+ YouTube videos on this topic!

Hope this guide helps! All the best for your admissions!

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Nayagam P

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Career Counsellor - Answered on May 06, 2025

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what are the college options i can look up to at 91.8% in jee and 1.21 lakh crl
Ans: Valerica, Providing precise admission chances for each student can be challenging. Some reputed educational websites offer ‘College Predictor’ tools where you can check possible college options based on your percentile, category, and preferences. However, for a more accurate understanding, here’s a simple yet effective 9-step method using JoSAA’s past-year opening and closing ranks. This approach gives you a fair estimate (though not 100% exact) of your admission chances based on the previous year’s data.

Here is, How to Predict Your Chances of Admission into NIT or IIIT or GFTI After JEE Main Results – A Step-by-Step Guide.

Step-by-Step Guide to Check Your Admission Chances Using JoSAA Data
Step 1: Collect Your Key Details
Before starting, note down the following details:

Your JEE Main percentile
Your category (General-Open, SC, ST, OBC-NCL, EWS, PwD categories)
Preferred institute types (NIT, IIIT, GFTI)
Preferred locations (or if you're open to any location in India)
List of at least 3 preferred academic programs (branches) as backups (instead of relying on just one option)
Step 2: Access JoSAA’s Official Opening & Closing Ranks
Go to Google and type: JoSAA Opening & Closing Ranks 2024
Click on the first search result (official JoSAA website).
You will land directly on JoSAA’s portal, where you can enter your details to check past-year cutoffs.
Step 3: Select the Round Number
JoSAA conducts five rounds of counseling.
For a safer estimate, choose Round 4, as most admissions are settled by this round.
Step 4: Choose the Institute Type
Select NIT, IIIT, or GFTI, depending on your preference.
If you are open to all types of institutes, check them one by one instead of selecting all at once.
Step 5: Select the Institute Name (Based on Location)
It is recommended to check institutes one by one, based on your preferred locations.
Avoid selecting ‘ALL’ at once, as it may create confusion.
Step 6: Select Your Preferred Academic Program (Branch)
Enter the branches you are interested in, one at a time, in your preferred order.
Step 7: Submit and Analyze Results
After selecting the relevant details, click the ‘SUBMIT’ button.
The system will display Opening & Closing Ranks of the selected institute and branch for different categories both Home State (HS) i.e. State you belong to & also Other State (OS).
Step 8: Note Down the Opening & Closing Ranks
Maintain a notebook or diary to record the Opening & Closing Ranks for each institute and branch you are interested in, separately for HS & OS Categories for a quick reference.
This will serve as a quick reference during JoSAA counseling.
Step 9: Adjust Your Expectations on a Safer Side
Since Opening & Closing Ranks fluctuate slightly each year, always adjust the numbers for safety.
Example Calculation:
If the Opening & Closing Ranks for NIT Delhi | Mechanical Engineering | OPEN Category show 8622 & 26186 (for Home State), consider adjusting them to 8300 & 23000 (on a safer side).
If the Female Category rank is 34334 & 36212, adjust it to 31000 & 33000.

Follow this approach for Other State candidates and different categories.
Pro Tip: Adjust your expected rank slightly lower than the previous year's cutoffs for realistic expectations during JoSAA counseling.

Can This Method Be Used for JEE April & JEE Advanced?
Yes! You can repeat the same steps after your April JEE Main results to refine your admission possibilities.
You can also follow a similar process for JEE Advanced cutoffs when applying for IITs.

Want to Learn More About JoSAA Counseling?
If you want detailed insights on JoSAA counseling, engineering entrance exams, preparation strategies, and engineering career options, check out EduJob360’s 180+ YouTube videos on this topic!

Hope this guide helps! All the best for your admissions!

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Radheshyam

Radheshyam Zanwar  |1603 Answers  |Ask -

MHT-CET, IIT-JEE, NEET-UG Expert - Answered on May 06, 2025

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Dear Sir, as my son Inter bord got 91% but in Jee mains 1st attempt got 50% and 2nd attempt got 70%, but he was not eligible for Advance, and he was wrote other college exams as (IIIT Hyd + VIT+TSEAPCET) in that VIT got results as 1.20 Lakh rank and he was eligible for Round of Category of 5th for VIT-AP & VIT-Bhopal, and expecting results for IIIT Hyd and also waiting for other Exams as (COMEDK + MIT + BITS), he was sincerely trying the efforts private college entrance exams, but the results which is not satisfy for him, and getting disappoint, but I was giving the motivation for other exams and do the hard work and focus on, BITS & IIT-Hyd also very tuff and more competitive, as i need to think for the negative side, if he could not get any cut of marks, what is the next option....? I request you pls give any other alternate suggestions for which is alternate engineering university for the course of (CSE AI & ML), my son interested in CSE course only
Ans: Hello Rakesh
First and foremost, I would like to commend your son for his earnest efforts in preparing for a range of engineering entrance examinations. His dedication is commendable, even if the outcomes so far haven't aligned with expectations. As you’ve mentioned, he has not yet been able to meet the required cutoff, which understandably may lead to feelings of disappointment or frustration.
However, the journey isn't over. Significant opportunities still lie ahead with BITSAT and IIIT-Hyderabad, both of which are known to be less about difficulty and more about testing strategic thinking and conceptual clarity. It appears that your son may be facing challenges in effectively managing the vast syllabus or might not yet have identified the right approach to tackle these competitive exams. Understanding how to study smartly for such tests often makes all the difference.
It’s important to maintain a positive outlook and avoid negative assumptions at this stage. You haven’t mentioned your financial circumstances, but if your son is determined to pursue fields like Computer Science, Artificial Intelligence, or Machine Learning, and if merit-based options don’t materialize, admission through the management quota could be a viable alternative. This route is typically available in reputed private engineering colleges, though it comes with a higher financial commitment.
Before considering this option seriously, I would recommend waiting for the results of all the remaining entrance exams. At the same time, it would be wise to proactively visit a few reputed institutions to inquire about the availability of management quota seats, associated costs, and relevant terms and conditions. Many parents secure such seats early on, anticipating the challenges their child might face in clearing competitive cutoffs.
Stay optimistic, there are still several promising pathways ahead.
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