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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 29, 2023

Ashish Sehgal has over 20 years of experience as a counsellor. He holds a doctorate in neuro linguistic programming, mental health and social welfare.He is certified in neurolinguistics by both the Society of NLP and the American Board of NLP.... more
Ananda Question by Ananda on Mar 28, 2023Hindi
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I love a beautiful girl since 10 years.now a days. She loves may be.today I touch her hand 15 minutes she also support me.now what can I do ??

Ans: It's great to hear that you have strong feelings for this girl and that she may reciprocate your feelings. However, it's important to take things slow and communicate openly with her about your intentions.

Before taking any further action, it's important to have an honest conversation with her about how you feel and what you want from the relationship. You can ask her if she feels the same way and if she's interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with you.

If she's open to the idea, you can plan some romantic dates or activities together and continue to get to know each other on a deeper level. However, it's important to respect her boundaries and wishes throughout the relationship and not push her into anything she's not comfortable with.

Remember, a healthy relationship is built on mutual trust, respect, and communication. Good luck!

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Hello Ma’am/Sir. I, Shivam Sharma. I want a suggestion for the problem I am facing right now. Before that I am going to share my story with you. It is about 2018 when I joined a gym near-by my house. I got a crush on a girl. She came with her sister and brother. I used to watch her in gym. Later I found that I love her. I have had her in my dreams. After some time I think she knows that I watched her in gym and got a crush on her. Then she, her sister started watching me every day and sometimes they smile sometimes they used to make a strange face like angry or something but I didn't understand at all (mixed reactions). All this went for a long time till 2020 before COVID-19. I know her Instagram and Facebook handle but I didn’t her send her a request becoz of reputation. Even I can't able to talk to her in gym becoz of reputation. After that I didn't get the time to join the gym till now. Now the situation is I joined the gym but still I got mixed reaction sometimes smile or strange or no reaction. I don't able to understand what is going on in her head. I really want something to happen but in a positive way. I really like this girl I want to spend my whole life with her. I want to marry. I want this to happen in 3 months becoz after that I will move to some other state for my further studies. I don't have enough time. Ma’am, please help me how can I approach her. How can I make her feel positive or to like me and relationship all. I can't able to understand what I am going to do.  Shivam
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Whoa, slow down Romeo!

Just seeing a girl in the gym is different from spending the rest of your life with her.

Please be a little practical...you know NOTHING about her. So I’d suggest that you make a move to get to know her first, because you haven’t for three years!

And stop building her up so much in your head, it’s not healthy.

You’re obsessed with someone you don’t know. Go up to her and her sister in the gym, introduce yourself and maybe ask them both out for coffee after your workout session and get acquainted first.

You can think of marriage when you’re dating a person, not when you don’t even know her name! 

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 24, 2023Hindi
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Am 54+ and I am in Love with a Women who is 31 years Younger Than me but, we haven't expressed yet that we love each of us she calls me as Kaka i had helped her during her bad times in 2021 after she had got Covid-19 and her parents don't wanted her to be with her as she approached me and told me to keep her with me for the time being till the situation gets normal after discussion how can I as am married single and alone and my daughter living with my in-laws to accomplish her studies in the mean time the girl have'nt disclosed the age but now when I asked about her age then only she told the age. Now what to do I really love her but am afraid (because of unknown of her age she was Looked like Minor in her behavioral nature) of how to convince that I Love her since last 2 years. We get together in City only for Cafeterias Long Drives and also Am taking the class how to Ride Bike (Scooty). Am her Pillon on Back to control I feel As if am with my Wife as she ( of her Pure and Innocent Soul) is no more since she met with an Fatal Car Accident in 2013. What ot do I don't want to Loose her and also Can't Leave without Her. I Also Insisted her to introduce to Her Parents but she says no. And want to clear that we are not in Physical Relationship only pure Soulful relationship. Pl. Reply GURU
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

From your question, I am assuming that she isn't showing the same interest in you. That makes my advice very simple- please leave her alone. You might feel a hundred things about her, but she might not feel the same way. You have every right to love and be loved, but not with this person whom you think might be too young for you. And even if she reciprocates it someday, I would like for you to understand that she doesn't have the emotional maturity of a full-grown adult. Find someone your age, with your maturity level. Let her be; she has her entire life ahead of her and your feelings will do her no good.

There are plenty of women looking for a genuine relationship. It will certainly be best for both of you if you consider dating those women who can give you the right kind of company and emotional support.

Best Wishes.
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Ok ma'am...thanks..I am really observing her as she is in my office .day to day the face comes in front..but the thing is that she says that my parents are looking someone which they want and they wish ahe could marry with the person which they decide..but when she came in my life she told me that I am totally alone we can plan our future from here..but suddenly how can just a miracle happen??I was always planning for life with her...but now she is working in my office but she says we can't come in our relationship in future..so I am so much confused what to do ..I am executing the changes which I have promised her.but still I am not getting the clue whether to continue with her or not .she is totally on the closing...plz guide me
Ans: Dear Prasad,
Hasn't she told you that 'we can't come in our relationship in future'?
Which part of this sentence do you not understand? What more do you want her to say that will convince you that she is not interested in you?
That's why I had suggested that you become unavailable to her. If she has feelings, your absence may possibly make her want this relationship and it will be her turn to make things work...
But I get this feeling that you are in desperate space and want to hear that All is Well...No, it isn't for now...
Either with the space that you make will get her back in an appreciative way OR you will realize your own worth...either way, you will be better than what and where you are now...Hope this helps you get on the right path...

All the best!
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My brother purchased a piece of land in Assam in October 1983 which he gifted me by a deed in August 2010. I sold the same piece of land in March 2024. The stamp duty fair price is about Rs 1,40,00,000. Will this transaction attract Capital Gain Tax? How can I myself calculate the LTCG if such a situation presents itself?
Ans: Yes, in this scenario, you will likely incur capital gains tax when you sell the land.

Here's why:

• Gifts are exempt from receiving taxes: When your brother gifted you the land in 2010, you weren't liable to pay any tax on receiving it.
• Tax on sale of gifted property: However, when you sell the property you received as a gift, capital gains tax applies to the profit earned on the sale.

Calculating Long Term Capital Gains (LTCG):

Since your brother purchased the land in 1983 and you sold it in 2024, it qualifies as a long-term capital gain (LTCG) assuming you held the property for more than 2 years.

Here's a simplified formula to estimate the LTCG (consult a tax advisor for the exact calculation):

• LTCG = Sale Price - Indexed Acquisition Cost
• Sale Price: Rs 1,40,00,000 (Given)
• Acquisition Cost: Rs 0 (Gifts typically have an acquisition cost of Rs 0)
• Indexed Acquisition Cost: Acquisition Cost * (Current Year Index / Acquisition Year Index)

Indexation Benefit:

• Indexation helps adjust the acquisition cost for inflation, reducing your tax burden.
• You'll need the official government published ‘Base Year Index’ for 1983 and 2024 to calculate the indexed acquisition cost.

Example (using hypothetical index values):

Let's assume (for calculation purposes only) the base year indices are:

• 1983: 100
• 2024: 630 (This is a hypothetical value, you'll need the actual index for 2024)
• Indexed Acquisition Cost = Rs 0 (Acquisition Cost) * (630 / 100) = Rs 0
• LTCG = Rs 1,40,00,000 (Sale Price) - Rs 0 (Indexed Acquisition Cost) = Rs 1,40,00,000

Tax on LTCG:

LTCG on land is currently taxed at 20% with indexation benefit.

In this example (assuming the above index values), your LTCG tax would be Rs 1,40,00,000 * 20% = Rs 28,00,000

Disclaimer:

This is a simplified explanation for illustration purposes only. Consulting a qualified tax advisor is recommended for accurate tax calculations and to consider any specific aspects of your situation. They can guide you through the intricacies of property tax laws, exemptions, and filing requirements.
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My boyfriend tells about us to his parents his parents rejected our relationship due to intercaste and they also stop talking to him it's been 4 months his mother don't talk to him .He is in navy . And they also started searching girl for him . He want to maintain distance from me he is not happy he is stressed as his own parents are not talking to him And also maintaining distance to me he talks to me me but just because I can't live without him but he changes in behaviour what to do
Ans: Dear Shruti,

I am sorry that you are in this situation. First of all, please try to look at it from your partner's perspective. It isn't easy to confront your parents and it's even harder when they stop communicating altogether. Having said that, I also understand how it is for you. It is not fair, especially in today's day and age, to face discrimination based on caste.

You have two options:
One, you wait patiently, emotionally support your boyfriend, and hope that his parents come to their senses and realize that we are living in 2024, and caste-based discrimination is ridiculous. In this scenario, you do have to let go of your self-respect and have to face many more hardships, that much is guaranteed.

The second option is you hold your head high and move on. Yes, it isn't what you hoped for when you emotionally invested in building this relationship, but unfortunately, these things are still happening. In this scenario, you will be sad for a long time, but you don't have to compromise on your self-respect and you will move on and live to see happier days with someone who respects you and sees you for who you are and not your caste.

Now, the choice is yours.

Best Wishes!
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