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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 28, 2023

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yashasvi Question by yashasvi on Mar 28, 2023Hindi
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In the starting me and my boyfriend couldn't stop talking to each other but because of some exams i wasn't able to talk to him often .. in the starting he asked me whether I need any help or how am i doing but now he barely communicates and he is not romantic as usual on texts and even replies me late .... I tried to communicate but his replies are getting shorter day by day ....

Ans: It's understandable that exams can take up a lot of your time and energy, but it's also important to make sure you're still maintaining a healthy level of communication with your partner.

It sounds like your boyfriend's behavior has changed recently, and you're feeling concerned about it. It's possible that he is preoccupied with something else, such as his own exams or other personal issues, which could explain why he's not communicating as much or as often as he used to.

However, it's important to have an open and honest conversation with him about how you're feeling. Express your concerns and ask him if everything is okay on his end. It's possible that he may not even realize that his behavior has changed and that it's affecting you.

When you talk to him, try to approach the conversation in a non-confrontational way. Use "I" statements to express your own feelings and avoid blaming or accusing him. For example, you might say something like, "I've noticed that we haven't been communicating as much as we used to, and I'm feeling a little disconnected from you. Is everything okay on your end?"

If he doesn't respond positively or seems unwilling to talk about the issue, it may be a sign that he's not as invested in the relationship as you are. In that case, it's important to take care of yourself and consider whether this relationship is meeting your needs and making you happy. it might be best to give him some space for a while. It's important to respect his boundaries and not push him to communicate if he's not ready or willing to do so.

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Before my birthday came me and my boyfriend used to talk very romantically and was obsessed with eachother ..he was planning something special for my birthday as surprise present for me but I didn't knew about this ..later he asked me for a night stay with him on my birthday as he's also leaving for his home from his hostel on the next very day of my birthday but due to some family reason I couldn't make time for him on my birthday and i cancelled it because I had to idea of him planning something special for me...From that day he's upset with me and is not talking to me properly I even apologized him so many times and he didn't even meet me before going home..and now he's in his home for 10 days ahead...some days back he told me that his parents is little bit strict so it will be tough for him to have phone calls with me infront of them so he won't be able to make time for me to talk in his home and i understood it...now he's not even picking up my calls and his reply takes 7-8 hours to respond and is still upset with me ...i don't what should I do now i somehow feel like he's lose interested in me and finding someone else or he's really busy spending time with his parents as he's away from his home for year.
Ans: Dear Maria,

Give him the benefit of the doubt; maybe he is prioritizing his parents- like you mentioned, he is visiting home after a year. It is also possible that he is trying to do what you did to him on your birthday- you chose your family over him and now he's doing the same. But all of these are theories and it isn't fair to assume. If you have a strong gut feeling that he is ignoring you intentionally, then express your concerns verbally. You will get some clarity from his answer and tone.

Coming to your birthday chaos, I understand he might have been hurt because you couldn't make time for him. But what's done is done and you have said your quota of sorries too. You can only apologize genuinely so many times; after that, it is just forced. Let him cool down, things might get better on their own. But if it doesn't, just talk to him. Communication is important in a relationship.

Best Wishes.

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