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Ajmal Question by Ajmal on Feb 28, 2023Hindi
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Hi, my son is 10 years old and from last 3 to 4 months he is not going to school. As soon as he step into the School his stomach starts paining. We have done Sonography twice. He is not acting also for not going to school. We can fee his severe pain when we insist for School or tuition. My family is thinking that some negativity he is facing from. We also shown to 2 religious gurus they also tried. Please advice.

Ans: I can understand your concern for your son's health and education. It sounds like he is experiencing a lot of physical discomfort when he has to go to school, and this is making it difficult for him to attend. It's good that you have already taken him to a doctor for a sonography and have sought advice from religious gurus, but there might be other options to consider as well.

One possibility is that your son may be experiencing anxiety related to going to school. Anxiety can manifest in physical symptoms like stomach pain, and it can be difficult for children to understand and express what they are feeling. It might be helpful to talk to your son and try to understand what is causing his anxiety. You can also seek the help of a counselor or therapist who can help your son develop coping skills to manage his anxiety.

Another possibility is that your son might be experiencing bullying or other negative experiences at school that are causing him distress. It's important to talk to your son's teachers and school staff to find out if there are any issues that might be contributing to his discomfort. They might be able to provide additional support or resources to help your son feel more comfortable at school.

Finally, it's important to continue to monitor your son's physical health and work with his doctor to rule out any underlying medical conditions. If your son continues to experience pain or discomfort, it's important to seek medical attention and follow up with any recommended treatments or interventions.

Overall, it's important to be patient and supportive with your son during this time. By working together with your son, his school, and his healthcare providers, you can help him overcome his difficulties and feel more comfortable and confident in school.

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Hi, my son is 10 years old and from last 3 to 4 months he is not going to school. As soon as he step into the School his stomach starts paining. We have done Sonography twice. He is not acting also for not going to school. We can fee his severe pain when we insist for School or tuition. My family is thinking that some negativity he is facing from. We also shown to 2 religious gurus they also tried. Please advice.Ans: I can understand your concern for your son's health and education. It sounds like he is experiencing a lot of physical discomfort when he has to go to school, and this is making it difficult for him to attend. It's good that you have already taken him to a doctor for a sonography and have sought advice from religious gurus, but there might be other options to consider as well. One possibility is that your son may be experiencing anxiety related to going to school. Anxiety can manifest in physical symptoms like stomach pain, and it can be difficult for children to understand and express what they are feeling. It might be helpful to talk to your son and try to understand what is causing his anxiety. You can also seek the help of a counselor or therapist who can help your son develop coping skills to manage his anxiety. Another possibility is that your son might be experiencing bullying or other negative experiences at school that are causing him distress. It's important to talk to your son's teachers and school staff to find out if there are any issues that might be contributing to his discomfort. They might be able to provide additional support or resources to help your son feel more comfortable at school. Finally, it's important to continue to monitor your son's physical health and work with his doctor to rule out any underlying medical conditions. If your son continues to experience pain or discomfort, it's important to seek medical attention and follow up with any recommended treatments or interventions. Overall, it's important to be patient and supportive with your son during this time. By working together with your son, his school, and his healthcare providers, you can help him overcome his difficulties and feel more comfortable and confident in school. Now condition of my son got more worsen now we cannot talk to him if we talk his head start paining you can't talk to him in any manner anything we met Psychiatrist many time he suggested to some medicine of no use. He is not ready to meet doctor, not moving out of house.
Ans: He needs counseling and psychiatric consultation
You should also do tests to rule out milk protein allergy and gluten sensitivity.. Your pediatrician can prescribe these

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Hi Mam, Hope you are doing well. I am very worried about my son who is now 12.5 years old and studying in 7th standard in a very reputed school. Since childhood, he has no interest in studies, unless we doesn't seat in front of him, he doesn't study. Every teacher from his kindergarten days upto now has the same complaint that he is doesn't pay attention in class and the result is he doesn't get good marks in the exam. When we scold him for studies, he does it for that particular time only and then get back to his non-interest mode again and start to run from studies. He will play video games, goes to play around with his friends, he will find some or the other reason for not doing studies or homework. The irony is that he is not interested in any sports or any other kind of activities. In every summer holidays, we make him to join some sports or music classes, but there also he doesn't show interest and do things just for the sake of showing. From last year, we have started sending him to tuitions also, but no change in attitude. This year we have found a teacher of his reputed school who is retired and taking tuitions, we are sending him to her and she is charging a big amount for tuitions. please guide how can we change his attitude and make him more serious in any activity he does as he doesn't have interest in anything (we have observed doing everything we can).
Ans: Hello Sunil!!

I am doing great, thank you for asking, God bless you!

I can totally understand when you say you are worried.

Your son is 12.5, he will soon be a teenager. There will be different challenges, I want you to read up on parenting a teenager and be ready to handle him well.

The problem as I see it is that everyone of you, his teachers included have made studies like a burden for him.... and subjected the young child to a lot of anxiety, he just wants to run away form it....
"Every teacher from his kindergarten days upto now has the same complaint that he is doesn't pay attention in class".... this statement of yours... it is the teacher's duty to ensure the child listens to him/her, how can she start labeling a child like this. From a young age your son has been conditioned to believe that he is not not good in studies, he doesn't focus and he doesn't sit in one place. All my sympathies are with your son...every child comes with immense potential and it's our duty as parents and teachers to nurture the child.

The following is what I propose so that we bring him back to loving to learn ( not score marks, that should never be the barometer)-
1. Love your child the way he is now
2. Give him lot of positive strokes
3. Have one on one sessions for any activity you plan for him... let him choose the activity, empower him
4. choose a teacher, who can get along with him and help him develop a positive attitude towards studies and life in general
5. look for a school where they nurture him... not just a reputed one...less number of students and a teacher who is invested in her/ his students,

If you can connect with me, I can help him. Have had many a students in this kind situation.
This is my website..
https://transformme.co.in/

Loads of best wishes to the whole family..

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