Hello.
I want my crush back.
He has a lot of issues and actually I really don’t know if he loves me or not.
He confessed about I love you but after drink.
He is also have one crush.  They both are good friends.  But what about me?

Ans: Dear Pspk,

Smoking and drinking are bad habits, but if they aren't highly addicted to them, breaking up might have been a bit extreme. But I understand that it might have been unacceptable for you at the moment.

Coming to the present issue in hand, if he is ignoring your texts, there is a chance that he has moved on, or maybe he is still angry with your decision. Give it some time; if he still does not contact you on his own or replies to your message, it might be time to accept the reality- he doesn't want to patch up. Like you decided to leave when you did not like his habits, and he respected it, you have to respect his choice to remain separated. Not all relationships are meant to work.

Focus on yourself; hang out with your friends; talk to people close to you. And most importantly, give it some time. One more small tip, if you happen to get back together, please discuss his smoking and drinking habits and how the two of you will deal with them. Neither of you should have to settle for the other. Find a middle ground.

Best Wishes!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It is very difficult to tell what’s going on in someone’s mind, or how feelings change suddenly; it is unfair but it’s very common. If he has clearly mentioned that he does not want anything romantic with you, it is best to not pursue. I understand that it has hurt you, and maybe somewhere, it has also hurt your ego, but it is best to respect his boundaries. Coming to responding to his message- since he has thanked you for your help, it would be decent to reply; you can do it with a simple “you are welcome.” But I won’t force you to do it; if you think that he doesn’t deserve it, then you can avoid it. But if you are wondering if he wants you back, as an onlooker, I didn’t see any indication of that. Then again, as I mentioned, it is difficult to tell what’s going on in someone’s mind. If you want clarity, you should have an open discussion and ask him about it. That much explanation he owes you.

Hope this helps

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand it must all be very confusing but I would suggest not jumping to conclusions. You think he doesn’t like you, but he might be thinking the same since you did not respond to him properly the next day. That could have triggered his current behavior. If you have feelings for him or if you even miss him as a friend, I would recommend you to clear the air with him. Just talk it out- you can explain how things got a little heavy the other day and that’s why you didn’t speak to him nicely and apologize if that made him feel bad. If even after that he continues to avoid you, then you will have better clarity.

Hope this helps.