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Bibhanshu Question by Bibhanshu on Jul 16, 2024Hindi
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My wife died in 2021 during second wave of covid 19 after inspection of my technocrat daughter born 1996 for marriage. My son is also Technocrat from IITDelhi like his only sister born 1998. Should I ask them to marry now or wait for next few more years? They lost their Grand fathers &mother from 2010till2022. Family members want to see their issues after marriage not adopted ones. What's your view&any offer from your end? ?? ???? ??? ?? ?? ??????

Ans: Dear Bibhanshu,
Both your children are grown up and can take their own decisions. You can only be a guide without forcing anyone's decision on them.
Family for whatever reason will want to see grandchildren etc, BUT that is no reason to marry, right?
Guide your children and let them have the freedom to choose what's best for them...

All the best!
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I am really delighted to know reasons of happiness by your timely answer near birth anniversary of my late wife Sobha Choudhary, Proud mother of Technocrats
Ans: Dear Bibhanshu,
Thank you for sharing. It definitely feels good to know that I was able to step in and help and at a time that is very important to you and for you. Here's wishing you and your loved ones the best in life!

All the best!
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