Why I feel like my friends don't consider me as a friend as same as I consider them

Ans: Hey cheer up, if you are giving importance to relationships, you are in a great space, you are doing the right thing. The quality of your life is based on the quality of your relationships and the choices you make. In my life coaching classes I have to teach some people to focus on relationships...you are not one of them, so good going.
After reading all that you have to say, these are my conclusions-
1.your friends are good, but they roast you and it hurts- the roasting is good as long as it doesn't hurt, a little bit of leg pulling is alright among friends. So when it hurts, you need to draw boundaries. Get on a one on one chat with the friend whose remarks hurt you, tell her/him that it is "not ok" and that "it hurts", "it makes you feel underconfident"( whatever you genuinely feel). You have to be assertive communicator( someone who respects others and also themselves), here!!
2. You want to mingle with ppl who have a growth mindset, do that, join groups that have this as their agenda. You know this set of friends can't give you that, so you look elsewhere.
3. You said "you are not good at talking and hence joined this set of extroverted friends", has this solved your prob? Have you become better at talking? If yes, then continue to meet them...if NO then time to let go....continue to meet them for other reasons, you yourself said that they are real and won't let go of you at your lowest, then they are real friends. Continue to nurture these friends but don't relay on them for your needs of growth and good communication skills.
4. you said, "I thought i can work hard on my own and reach the top", this is still right, ask for help where you need, develop your personality and soar high.

All the very best to you

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You must have heard of: "Change is the only thing that is permanent."
Apply this into every aspect of you life and you will find that it's true. Are you the same as you are yesterday? No, some thought or learning will make you do something different today.
Similarly, each individual have their own experiences that they must apply into their lives; this may appear as a big change if you are part of their life as well. It may seem like they are ignoring you, rejecting you, judging you etc etc...
None of this is true but YES, they are changing and accepting it is what will keep your mind sane. This is a generic way of looking at it.

Now, if you feel that some incident must have triggered them, then that is something you will know; when in doubt, ASK! Ask them if anything you said or did caused them to feel hurt and if YES, apologize. So no one is leaving you, they are just responding to their dynamic situations in life OR are simply hurt by something.
One will require acceptance from you and the other will require you to work with them to set things right...So, you can steer things to actually make things better.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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