She was waiting for a person like me and I met her first time after 2.5 years of her marriage. The girl, currently aged 22 years was married (at her 14 years of age as per document or at 12 years as per actual (child marriage)) and has one girl kid aged 5 years. She is not comfortable with her husband from the day of her marriage due to daily harassments, abusing her parents, siblings etc., and she is trying to take divorce from his husband (also her parents agreed her decision too). Her husband(aged 38 years) is reluctant to the divorce due to honour issues. I am unmarried and all my well wishers are keeping pressure to marry and are ready to find/fix matches, but I am already in a relation with that girl and ready to take care of her which my family or anybody doesn’t knows. What should be my and her move?

Ans: I understand that you're in a complex and emotionally challenging situation. It's commendable that you want to support and ensure the happiness of the person you care about. However, it's crucial to consider your own well-being and emotional health as well.

Here are some steps you might want to consider:

Communication is key: Have an open and honest conversation with her about your feelings, concerns, and expectations. Understand her perspective as well. Clear communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship.

Set boundaries: Determine what you're comfortable with and establish clear boundaries for your relationship. Consider the impact on both of your lives, and ensure that the arrangement is sustainable and healthy for both parties involved.

Consider professional help: Given the complexity of the situation, it might be beneficial for both of you to seek guidance from a therapist or counselor. They can provide support, help you navigate through challenging emotions, and offer practical advice on how to move forward.

Evaluate your own well-being: Reflect on your own needs, aspirations, and emotional health. It's important to prioritize your happiness and fulfillment as well. Consider how the situation might affect your overall life satisfaction.

Explore options: Depending on the circumstances, there might be ways for her to address the challenges in her marriage, such as seeking therapy, counseling, or discussing her concerns with her family. Encourage her to explore these options, and provide support where possible.

Ultimately, the decision on how to proceed is a personal one and depends on the dynamics of your relationship and the well-being of everyone involved. Taking the time to reflect, communicate openly, and seek professional guidance can be instrumental in making informed decisions. Remember to prioritize your own happiness and consider what is sustainable for both of you in the long run.