Turning 50 and Stuck in a Toxic Relationship: Can I Find Happiness?

 Hi Anu Mam, I am married for 4 and half years now and have a 3 YO daughter. It was an arranged marriage and the families were not familiar before.My husband started behaving very rude to me since my delivery. He verbally abused me a lot and finally I felt something was not right and opened up to my parents, that I cannot live with him, after 3 years of the marriage.My parents supported me and took care of my daughter and me for a year, after which my husband's family convinced me to move back in with him. When I came back to him I realised he has been cheating on me with his colleague since before my delivery. When I probed the issue further, without his knowledge, I got to know that he was a polygamous person for 10 years before marriage. And this shook me. I also got to know he is meeting one of his female friends after work hours, lying to me. He used to lie to me that he's going out for work and talk to his other female friend on phone for an hour or so, once every 2-3 days.He watches porn every day.I slowly realised he was just exploiting me for his physical needs.Our relationship turned cold within 3 months of restarting it.I was not happy being with him. I knew he was still cheating me, but he never obliged when I confronted.I could not let him even touch me.Finally, out of his frustration, he physically attacked me in front of our daughter, tried to strangulate my throat, but by god's grace I could save myself.That day, 30th of August 2021, I left that place with my daughter and came back to my parents.I filled a domestic harassment complaint against him, for which we're attending counselling sessions now.I cannot think of a life with him anymore.I have made up my mind to file an FIR against him soon.I must say I'm at peace now.But I still have a lot of anguish whenever those thoughts cross my mind. Is there a way where I can make peace with my past?

I am married women (38 yrs, having 2 kids) living in an abusive relationship for 11 yrs now. My husband is alcoholic and don’t work from past few years and gets violent and abusive many times and my kids suffers also. I am a sole earner now and manages all alone with very less paying Job but my husband harasses me by saying that I am having affairs with each male in my office just because I share everything. There is no emotional bond, no communication, just blames, abuses and violence, once its reached the police also but I refuse to take it further. From past many years he is just sleeping at home and drinking and nothing else. But, few months back I got attached to my collegue and he is also in similar relationship and it’s a pure and organic bond. I don’t doubt his intentions also as he is caring and understanding personality and he says once he is divorced he want to be with me. I can feel pure vibes and his genuineness so trusts him as he is always pushes me to grow in terms of Jobs, health, kids, family. Slowly but surely, I am getting attached to this person but he very politely tells me to have patience and maintain dignity. He is not the one who will take advantage of me which I believe strongly but at the same time I also know he needs to settle his divorce also and I can’t be dependent on this. I don’t know which way to go but definitely I wish to wait but at the same time I am unable to stay within my current relationship, which was in fact a love marriage but I never knew that he drinks so much and life will turn into hell. My kids also have to face this trauma and I really wants to get out of this relations. Please guide me.

Dear sir, I am a widow of 44 yrs reputed officer and I am also working at a reputed post. I have a daughter also. 2 yrs back I gave a matrimoni adv on a online site for remarriage. I received a call from an Sr. Scientist. I was serious about this because he was a nice educated fellow and working as scientist, his case of divorce was in process, which he told that it is going to over soon. After around two months talk over the phone I liked the person and I met him. I liked him, later I invited him at my place as well as I also visited his place we came close to each other physically. Every thing was going fine he shared so many things about his family and wife as well as I also shared. Everything was going on fine suddenly he changed his nature and started avoiding and ignoring me. He told me that I will bring you my home nicely. Now we have fought. I am telling home to meet face to face. he is threatening me and me that if you will meet me and co e toy place will ruin you. Now he is running from me and telling go away and blocked me from all social media. He has used me and left me after wasting my two years. I am at a juncture of life that after my daughter I will be alone. Now after this cheating i have got so scared that not able to belive on any one. What should I do? Should I meet him once at his place? Should I tell all story to his father? I feel depression and anxiety. What should I do pl suggest.