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Ramya Question by Ramya on Oct 23, 2024Hindi
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Hi mam, I want to tell and help me regarding one issue mam iam in love with my man since 3 yrs and we r in the same career stream of CA and our career is going good ...but we have only one issue age difference he is 2 yrs younger to me .....i told my parents firstly they didn't accept but ...they accepted but iam afraid of my man parents how will they react , will they accept love or not how to convince them pls guide me mam

Ans: Dear Ramya,
By being afraid, you will only be fearful and make more stories in your head. Speak to his parents together and simply say the truth...
How would you know if they will or will not accept until you actually tell them about your relationship? After that you can bother about things if they don't go your way and how to deal with them...first things, first...talk to them...

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I understand that you are in a challenging situation. If you want to convince your parents, the first thing is to acknowledge their concerns. It is normal for parents to be worried about their child's future. You mentioned your partner is comparatively less educated than you and works as a driver; while every profession is equally important and as long as he is honest and hardworking and puts food on the table, he is doing well, parents can find the financial situation a little concerning. Instead of avoiding or being defensive about these concerns, address them. Let them know how you plan on tackling these differences in your relationship. Emphasize his character, personality, and all the qualities that drew you to him. Tell them how you have been in a stable relationship for 4 years, despite all the odds. In today's day and age, that is a huge thing. Convincing them would also require you to show that you are mature enough to make this decision so have the discussion once you and your partner have a solid plan and have the nitty-gritty all sorted.

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