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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 27, 2020

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
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S Question by S on Oct 27, 2020Hindi
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I saw your helpline and thought of asking for help. I m a sales guy aged 50 and recently joined a company.

It is neither a MNC nor a middle sized organisation. Considering the fact that this is new organisation i need to prove my worth.

There is tremendous pressure to perform. There is absolutely no support from the company people to send quotations etc which they take their sweet time and they give reasons like Covid -19 etc for the delay and they do not expect us to give reasons for failure.

If u look at it from my perspective , I have joined in the month of Feb 2020 wherein March-April and may were locked down months.

Just now the business has started signs to improve. Instead of supporting the team they keep on finding little faults which does not motivate but de-motivates me.

A colleague before me has already been sacked after 5 months and I am not sure when my turn will come. I feel it may be next month too.

I have not tried to reason out with them or they may say I am trying to give reasons for my failure.

On top of that I have been reporting to 4 bosses who just write to me as per their whims and fancies. Plz let me know what best I can do to survive this time frame.

I am just keeping mum bcoz there are no jobs available in the market and I am doing my best, In fact as this is an automotive industry it takes time to materialise and everywhere is there is a slowdown in business. I would not like to give reasons but still it becomes difficult to survive. Plz advice and help.

Ans: Dear SK, I can only imagine the agony that you are going through and I have been coaching many people on this since the time the lockdown began.

None of us knew what the Pandemic would mean and what it would do to our businesses or work or home. It has managed to create new situations that we have no idea of how to handle.

This has caused a lot of anxiety and strain and we have perhaps begun to imagine the worst.

But what if I tell you that the situation is changing and so will the situation at your office?

Will you be inclined to believe that?

Even the top management is behaving in a wayward manner as this is all new to them; especially working from home for many and not much facetime which I guess as a Sales guy you are used to.

Since the response from the markets are not so good, it is bound to show up as a poor performance on your record, this is a valid concern…but to go into work, everyday keeping this in mind may not be effective even with the smallest of tasks as the anxiety keeps you on the edge not doing much but worrying to save your job.

Also, what happened to your colleague may not happen to you. So why focus all your energies on something that may not happen?

Instead, simply focus on ‘realistic’ targets that are achievable at this time.

Also, since you have joined only early this year, I do feel, it is imperative for you to know really your hierarchy and reporting structure. If there are conflicts at the top and you are bearing the brunt, either you need to roll up your sleeves and ace the politics that possibly others are facing too or simply do what you can.

Step back and observe what is going on and for this, you need to be a little calm to understand the WHY of 4 bosses!

It may all but be an imagined stress and it might just need a bit of a tweak to be in a better rapport with each of them.

Sometimes, what is little, becomes big in the mind as it is cluttered with a lot of if and buts with either lack of information or simply creating stories out of apprehensions and fears.

Please take care of your health and this helps keeping the mind in a better space to deal with what is going on.

Ultimately, tell yourself: “NOTHING IS WORTH STRESSING OVER SO MUCH. Everything falls into place, once I take charge!”

Take charge and take care of your health. Best wishes.

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I am 42 years old and working round the clock in my current job. Its a tough life. Company is not giving me options to learn skill nor doing anything to reduce my pressure. Due to covid, finding a new job is very difficult in my field. Due to constant pressure i have lost interest in work and dont want to work. There is a burnout.its tough situation to handle. Need ur help/ advice in this situation.
Ans: It sounds like you are experiencing burnout from your job, which can be a serious issue if left unaddressed. Here are some steps you can take to help manage your situation:

Take a break: If possible, take some time off work to recharge and focus on self-care. Even a short break can help you feel refreshed and more motivated to tackle your job responsibilities.

Set boundaries: It's important to establish clear boundaries between your work and personal life. Try to limit working outside of regular hours and avoid checking emails or taking work calls during your free time.

Seek support: Talk to a trusted friend or family member about your situation. Sometimes just having someone to listen and offer support can make a big difference.

Find ways to cope with stress: Consider incorporating stress-reducing activities into your daily routine, such as meditation, exercise, or spending time in nature.

Explore career options: While finding a new job may be difficult in your field right now, it's important to consider your long-term career goals and explore other options that may be available to you.

Consider seeking professional help: If you continue to struggle with burnout, it may be helpful to seek professional help from a therapist or counselor who can offer additional support and guidance.

Remember, burnout is a serious issue that can have negative effects on your mental and physical health. It's important to take steps to address it and prioritize your well-being.

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Sir, i have completed my bachelors (BCA) in India in an engineering college and wishes to pursue my masters in a foreign country.My family is'nt well off so iam looking into schlorships.can you suggest some courses with good scope. Also which countries are best for IT field that provide great schlorship oppurtunities.
Ans: As far as Scholarships for Abroad Universities are concerned, you should have good scores from the entrance tests (whichever will be applicable according to the University's admission criteria), good past academic records, your extra and co-curricular activities, additional certifications, your Statement of Purpose (SOP), Letter of Recommendation etc. Those who have gained work experience of a minimum 2-3 years after graduation get preference in admission.

And most of the Universities do not provide 100% scholarships. You will have to bear some expenses (depends upon which University / College you get admission into & what all expenses only it will cover?) .

As you have mentioned that your parents NOT well-off financially, it is suggested to work for 2-3 years, earn some money and also gain work experience, then go for further education abroad.

Before approaching any Professional Abroad Education Consultant, do a thorough research about the Countries/Universities/Programs, shortlist those which you think will be most suitable, apply to 5-6 top Univerities offering Scholarships and finalize one best University/College for you.

All the BEST for Your Bright Future.

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