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RM Question by RM on Aug 23, 2022Hindi
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Respected Anu Madam, Your advice will be of great importance and valuable to me.
I really appreciate your answers and I want to take your valuable guidance.
I sincerely request you to take time to go through lengthy mail. Please oblige and help.
Madam, I got married in 1995.
My wife though well-educated often gets into her parents' shoes and never found to be satisfied with me. Unlike me, she 
was from a well to do family.
Based on my education and job, I got married to her. Most of the time she used to spend time at her parents' place, 
say around 5 months in a year. Rest of the period also hardly we used to be together -- maximum 4 to 5 times a month.

In 1997, we were blessed with a daughter. In 1999 she had a miscarriage.
In 2002 I went to the USA, but could not sustain and came back in September 2002.
In April 2003, she had hernia surgery, wherein she was diagnosed as HIV positive.
When I got tested I was negative. I was told that during the 1999 abortion, there was a blood transfusion during which she must have got acquired the HIV.
We didn't reveal this to my family members. Our parents are aware of this dangerous health issue. But I used to suffer extremely bad in all respects.

We started living independently since 2003, and I used to take care of her in all respects.
We never had any conjugal relation since 2003 (I was 35 years old then).
Even before 2003 it was very minimal and formal.

Every now and then we used to fight during which she used to be very aggressive and nothing less than me in anyway.
As a woman she has zero tolerance level. The slightest of things would offend her.

However things kept going. In November 2015, her health got worse and irrespective of consulting doctors, it was not improving.
Her CD4 count (immunity level for healthy living) had gone down to dangerous levels of just 10%. Her liver got affected with water accumulation and she was diagnosed with TB.
At that time, by God’s grace, with great difficulty I found a doctor, who gave her a second life.
For 18 months, I helped her to get back to normal condition while I was dealing with financial and mental stress.
In 2021 during Covid also I saved her life.

In the absence of any satisfaction, happiness or love, I never neglected or ill-treated her. In fact I provided her a very comfortable life in all respects and behaved with her in a usual way.
In 2018, I sent my daughter to the US for MS as per her choice.
In 2019, I purchased a 3 bedroom flat as per my wife’s choice and consent and presently we are living in that.
I give her Rs 10,000 per month as her personal expenses apart from providing all other things.

During my wife’s treatment in 2015, I came across a divorced working woman whose father also died of HIV.
Slowly, she also understood my position, we exchanged views and became closer. ?
She was an extremely fine lady with lots and lots of love and affection.
She never expected any money or small material things from me.
I can say she is a very nice and good woman, whom any person will rarely come across.
I felt very happy with her. She also got very much attached to me because of my attitude and behaviour.
Of course I never told my wife or discussed this relationship. This
 woman is living separately with her grown up children about 30 km from my residence. But, we love each other so much and have a lot of affection for each other.
Sometimes, very occasionally, I used to speak to this woman. But I never knew that my wife was observing me.
In January 2022, my wife made a big issue out of this. She is suspecting each and every call and movement of mine and looking at me very cheaply, which I am unable to tolerate.

I did so much for her and put my life at stake to bring her back to normal life from a dangerous disease. She is just not able to understand me.
If she doesn't understand my necessities, 
how can I be happy?
Madam, now my concern is:
1. In 2015 after second woman came in my life and after observing her for about 7 years, I found her very nice, independent, amicable, tolerable, Good behaviour, hard-working and good looking lady. We never want to lose each other, and we will be mutual support to each other in future circumstances. I am 55 and she is 45. My wife is 50.
2. Because of my wife’s nagging, I cannot sacrifice the second woman. I am very much committed to her and want to support her in all respects for the rest of my life. She is the only person who understands me apart from my mother.
3. At my house, I am being treated like a paying guest by my wife. Morning tiffin and night dinner she will cook for me. There is nothing more. Days are going very heavily. Only on need basis, we will talk. There is no affection or love.
4. Being in a responsible position I feel very stressed, depressed and I am not able to execute my duties. I have five years of service left to me and I am unable to understand how to lead the life later, in case my wife survives.
5. I have not done any injustice or ill-treated my wife but in case something happens to her, what will happen to me? I have not done anything out of lust. But as a man, I too will have some feelings towards a woman. But my wife never understood this basic concept and got adjusted.
Neither she will provide me any love (since 2003) nor she will tolerate any woman in my life. Though I don’t give her any pain, I feel this is unfair and sadist.
Because of the conditions prevailing around me and as a man, I was bound to do the above. Under these circumstances please advise me what should I do, thinking down the line after 5 years of my retirement?
Your advice will be a great help to me. Kindly oblige to address the above.

Ans:

Dear RM,

Thank you for being a caring husband and being by your wife’s side no matter what.

The dilemma that you face is something that actually needs a solution from you and not anyone else.

Try describing this to anyone and they might play moral police, advice you to do the right thing, forget the other woman etc.

What is it that you want?

It seems to me like you have stuck by your wife solely out of duty and care and you want to continue to do so.

In that case, how will your wife understand the new connection with the other woman?

How will the other woman accept who you are currently?

It is really difficult to tread on two different paths and to expect either is to understand is equally a difficult ask.

The least you can do is, keep it all transparent (it might sound impossible), talk to your wife to reassure her that your friendship with the other woman is in not in anyway going to undermine her position in your life.

If this does not seem feasible, I can’t see any ecological (something that aligns to your values) way to deal with the situation.

You might not be able to pursue a relationship under the wraps with your wife knowing about it and it is not fair to either of the women.

So, choose wisely and do what seems right keeping in mind that you cannot easily live two lives separately and expect to fulfil both at the same time.

All the best!

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You’ve been sweeping the same issues your marriage has faced from the very beginning under the carpet for 15 years. Why?

And instead of addressing the issues, you decided to go ahead and have a second child?

Having a child is a joy in itself, but it is never the solution to marital woes; in fact, in most cases it only exacerbates the problem.

From everything you’ve told me, you seem to come across as an insecure husband.

I’m not saying that what you’ve told me is untrue, but you keep suspecting your wife of flirting with random men and have no proof of it.

Both sides of the family support her and let me tell you, unless she is a master of deception, no one can conceal their true nature so well from everyone else for the better part of two decades.

Maybe what you construe as flirting is simply her being friendly? Maybe you’re just not comfortable with the manner in which she interacts with other men?

Have you ever managed to prove her inappropriate relations? And when you accuse her, she blows up at you... a guilty party would not react in so volatile a manner.

I do think marital counselling is in order. And yes, maybe separately at first and then together.

Contact a good therapist and do it sooner rather than later... 15 years has been long enough!

 

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Too much of a mess, yeah?
Why they hid certain facts and what impact that has had on your marriage is something that you are experiencing. Relationships are built on trust and honesty leads to that trust. You possibly feel being misled multiple times over and it will indeed affect the mind state of your children.
Good that you have woken up to this NOW.
Are you sure that you want to end this marriage? Or is there a possibility of saving it?
If you want to end it through a legal recourse, find an able lawyer who specializes in divorce cases. She/he will advise you on annulment or mutual consent divorce or filing for one. These options come to a better choice when you seek an expert in legal matters.
In the meantime, keep your mind in a place where it is calm. Too much of muddle and constant over processing will make you have bitter thoughts and keep you engaged in stress building situations.
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I am sure if you have had the courage to understand what has been happening to you, you can surely take additional steps to safeguard your mind space and do what's right for the children as well.
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You seem to have done a lot to try and get her back. What can you do if she doesn't want to acknowledge your efforts or appreciate what family life is! One would imagine that a child in the equation may bring about a change in heart but that doesn't seem to be the case here at this moment.
Your family members are right in their mind about the way that see your wife as they have been observing how this has impacted you and your son.
Either you wait for her to come to her senses OR simply learn to live life without her. If the outside world of social media is what seems to satisfy her, no matter what you do, she will be dissatisfied and unhappy. This only means that she has to learn and appreciate what she has with you and your son.
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Sometimes people are just not ready for marriage and here your wife certainly came along with a huge baggage of unresolved issues behind her.
Marriage requires both partners to be responsible not just towards one another but take an active interest in their roles. This calls for maturity from both partners here.
Now, this was never a possibility with your spouse as she felt the marriage was a forced one. That is enough to destroy any chances of the marriage falling in place. You are also in a soup now that she has found her 'proof' that gives her a ticket out of this marriage.
The question here is: Do you want this marriage? If YES, then you will have to start down the part of proving your innocence and what led to what and how and when...If NO, then since your spouse has found her ticket to freedom, the only thing you might have to do is clearly state and not explain anything as to how things went downhill right from the beginning. Her parents may believe you or not, but that's what your decision needs. They may try to malign you in the family, just stick to your version of what happened and move on.
So, you are at that point where you need to make a decision. What is it going to be?

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I am 32 years of age I have a corpus of 40 lakhs including mutual funds,stocks,pf,insurance.I invest 65000 in sip every month with 84% in equity, 6% in hybrid and 10% in debt funds as of now with 58% in large cap,27% in mid cap and 15 % in small cap with an xirr of 17.2%. how much will my corpus grow in next 20-30 years ?
Ans: Your financial journey so far is impressive. At 32 years, a corpus of Rs. 40 lakhs reflects good planning. Your SIP of Rs. 65,000 per month and asset allocation indicate strong discipline and understanding of investments.

Your current XIRR of 17.2% is exceptional, suggesting an effective fund selection. Maintaining this momentum will help you build substantial wealth.

Growth Potential Over the Next 20-30 Years
Power of Compounding

Compounding over 20-30 years can multiply wealth significantly.
Your disciplined SIP approach amplifies this effect.
Corpus Growth Projections

If your XIRR sustains near 17%, your corpus can grow exponentially.
Over 20 years, it may cross Rs. 10-12 crores.
In 30 years, this could grow beyond Rs. 30-40 crores.
Consideration for Realistic Returns

Sustaining 17% XIRR may be optimistic in the long term.
A realistic expectation of 12-15% still ensures significant growth.
Factors Influencing Your Future Corpus
Market Volatility

Equity-heavy portfolios are prone to short-term fluctuations.
Maintain your long-term perspective to overcome these.
Asset Allocation Discipline

Your 84% equity allocation is ideal for long-term goals.
Rebalance annually to maintain this allocation.
Economic Growth and Inflation

India's economic growth supports equity performance.
High inflation demands better returns to preserve purchasing power.
SIP Increments

Increasing SIP annually can enhance corpus growth.
A 10% increment every year could add several crores.
Importance of Diversification
Large, Mid, and Small-Cap Allocation

Your 58% large-cap, 27% mid-cap, and 15% small-cap allocation is balanced.
This mix ensures stability and growth potential.
Hybrid and Debt Funds Role

Your 10% debt allocation cushions against market volatility.
Hybrid funds offer consistent returns with lower risk.
Tax Efficiency in Long-Term Investments
Equity Fund Taxation

Long-term capital gains above Rs. 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.
Factor this in when planning withdrawals.
Debt Fund Taxation

Gains are taxed as per your income slab.
Plan asset allocation changes with tax efficiency in mind.
Enhancing Your Strategy
Emergency Fund

Maintain 6-12 months of expenses in liquid or ultra-short-term funds.
Insurance Review

Ensure adequate term insurance and health insurance coverage.
Goal-Based Investing

Align specific investments to defined goals like retirement or children's education.
Periodic Review

Review fund performance and portfolio allocation annually.
Replace underperforming funds if needed.
Final Insights
Your current portfolio and discipline promise exceptional long-term results. Continue SIPs, periodically increase investments, and review portfolio performance. A realistic approach with a focus on equity can help you achieve remarkable financial milestones over 20-30 years.

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Hi my name is Mani and aged 36 i am drawing a monthly salary of 3.5lakhs. Below are my investments. I want to achieve around 10Cr by 50. Current MF potfolio:50L Shares/ETF: 10L PF: 39L US ESOP: 1.2 Crore Monthly SIP: 1.65Lkhs 2 houses: 95L & 60L I can invest upto 2.5-3lakhs montly. Closed all my loans.
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Assessment of Current Investments
Mutual Fund Portfolio: Rs 50 Lakh
This portfolio forms a significant part of your wealth.
Equity mutual funds can offer long-term growth.
Regular reviews and diversification will enhance returns.
Shares and ETFs: Rs 10 Lakh
Direct equity and ETFs require active monitoring.
ETFs have limitations, like tracking errors and passive management.
Disadvantages of ETFs:

Lack of flexibility to outperform benchmarks.
Returns are limited to market indices, missing active management benefits.
Provident Fund: Rs 39 Lakh
PF is a safe, tax-efficient retirement tool.
Growth is limited compared to equity investments.
US ESOP: Rs 1.2 Crore
ESOPs provide substantial value, but currency and company risks exist.
Diversification is essential to reduce concentrated risk.
Monthly SIPs: Rs 1.65 Lakh
A high monthly SIP reflects your commitment to wealth creation.
Fund selection and risk balance will determine growth.
Real Estate: Rs 95 Lakh and Rs 60 Lakh
While real estate offers stability, liquidity issues can be a challenge.
Rental income should align with market returns to remain beneficial.
Strategy to Achieve Rs 10 Crore by 50
1. Optimise Mutual Fund Investments
Increase allocation to actively managed equity funds.
Diversify into large-cap, mid-cap, and hybrid funds for balanced growth.
Review the portfolio with a Certified Financial Planner every year.
2. Enhance Monthly SIP Contributions
Increase SIPs to Rs 2.5-3 lakh, matching your investment capacity.
Prioritise equity mutual funds for better compounding over 14 years.
Allocate a small portion to debt funds for stability.
3. Reevaluate Direct Equity and ETFs
Limit ETFs due to their passive nature and tracking errors.
Focus on direct equity only if you have time for active monitoring.
Otherwise, shift to professionally managed equity funds.
4. Diversify US ESOP Holdings
Reduce dependency on your company’s ESOPs.
Gradually liquidate and reinvest in Indian equity and international mutual funds.
Diversification will safeguard against market volatility and currency risks.
5. Leverage Provident Fund Efficiently
PF will act as a stable component of your retirement corpus.
Do not withdraw unless essential.
6. Address Real Estate Investments
Analyse the rental yield and growth potential of your properties.
If returns are below expectations, consider selling one property.
Reinvest proceeds in mutual funds for higher returns and liquidity.
Tax Efficiency and New Rules
Equity Mutual Funds
Long-term capital gains (LTCG) above Rs 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.
Short-term capital gains (STCG) are taxed at 20%.
Plan withdrawals strategically to reduce tax liability.
Debt Funds
Gains are taxed as per your income slab.
Use systematic withdrawal plans for efficient taxation.
ESOPs and Real Estate
ESOPs will attract capital gains tax upon sale.
Real estate gains are taxed under capital gains rules.
Invest gains from property sales into mutual funds to save on taxes.
Additional Recommendations
1. Adequate Life and Health Insurance
Ensure you have term insurance covering at least 10 times your annual income.
Maintain comprehensive health insurance for your family.
2. Emergency Fund
Keep six months’ expenses in a liquid fund or savings account.
This ensures liquidity during unforeseen circumstances.
3. Monitor and Rebalance Portfolio
Regularly review asset allocation with a Certified Financial Planner.
Adjust based on market conditions and financial milestones.
Final Insights
You are on the right track with your disciplined investing approach. To ensure you reach Rs 10 crore by 50, optimise your investments, enhance tax efficiency, and diversify risks. Focus on actively managed funds, reduce dependence on real estate, and leverage your high savings potential. Regular monitoring and strategic decisions will make your goal achievable.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 22, 2024Hindi
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Hello Ramalingam Ji, I am 44 years old, working in IT and live in Bengaluru. I am unmarried at this moment. I live in a rented house. Here are my investments breakups - 1.45 Cr in Equity Shares, 5 Lakhs in MF, 27 Lakhs in PPF, 20 Lakhs in EPF, 7 Lakhs in NPS, and 14 Lakhs in FD as an Emergency Fund. I have a health insurance of 30L apart from the office provided one. My monthly in hand salary about 2.2 Lakhs. And my monthly expenses including rent, insurances, sports/gym subscription, food and others comes about 75 - 80 Thousands a month. I invest 1.1 Lakhs in equity shares, 18 Thousands in RDs to meet my certain onetime expenditures in a years such as insurances, internet payments etc. I do not have any loans. How do you think I should go about so I could purchase a house/flat as well as have enough investments using which I could live comfortably. I also want to know if at all possible to retire by 50 or 55 years? will it even makes sense purchasing a house/flat since I have no one after me. Thanking you in advanced.
Ans: You are in a strong financial position. You have diverse investments and stable income. Your disciplined approach reflects a clear financial vision.

This response provides detailed insights into buying a house, early retirement, and optimising your investments.

Understanding Your Current Financial Health
1. Investments and Emergency Funds

Rs 1.45 crore in equity is a significant achievement.

Your Rs 14 lakh emergency fund is well-planned. It ensures liquidity during emergencies.

 

2. Monthly Income and Expenses

You save and invest a substantial portion of your Rs 2.2 lakh monthly salary.

Expenses are well-balanced, leaving you with Rs 1.1 lakh for investments.

 

3. Health Insurance Coverage

You have Rs 30 lakh health insurance, which safeguards against medical emergencies.

Office-provided insurance adds additional security.

House Purchase Consideration
1. Evaluate the Need for a House

A house is not necessary unless it enhances your quality of life.

With no dependents, consider renting for flexibility.

 

2. Financial Implications of Buying a House

Buying a house requires a long-term financial commitment.

EMIs will reduce your ability to save and invest aggressively.

 

3. Alternative Options

Continue renting if the cost is reasonable and suits your lifestyle.

Investing the funds earmarked for a house can yield better returns over time.

Early Retirement by 50 or 55
1. Analyse Monthly Expenses Post-Retirement

Estimate future monthly expenses, considering inflation.

Rs 75,000 today could become Rs 1.5 lakh in 15 years.

 

2. Calculate the Required Corpus

To withdraw Rs 1.5 lakh monthly, you need Rs 4.5 crore.

This corpus ensures financial independence throughout retirement.

 

3. Utilise Current Investments for Growth

Your investments in equity, MF, PPF, EPF, and NPS must compound consistently.

Diversify your portfolio to balance growth and stability.

Investment Optimisation
1. Focus on Equity Mutual Funds

Increase your MF investments for long-term growth.

Actively managed funds offer higher returns compared to index funds.

 

2. Avoid Direct Mutual Funds

Direct funds lack professional guidance and may lead to errors.

Regular funds through a Certified Financial Planner ensure optimised returns.

 

3. Maximise NPS Contributions

NPS provides additional tax benefits under Section 80CCD(1B).

It supports your retirement corpus with equity exposure and lower risk.

 

4. Reassess Fixed Deposits

Rs 14 lakh in FDs offers safety but lower returns.

Shift a portion to debt funds or balanced funds for better inflation protection.

Emergency Fund and Risk Management
1. Maintain Adequate Liquidity

Keep six months' expenses in liquid investments like FDs or short-term funds.

This ensures quick access to funds during emergencies.

 

2. Evaluate Insurance Adequacy

Your current health cover of Rs 30 lakh is sufficient.

Ensure critical illness or personal accident cover if not already included.

Retirement Income Planning
1. Generate Passive Income

Explore dividend-paying funds for steady income during retirement.

Consider systematic withdrawal plans (SWPs) post-retirement for tax efficiency.

 

2. Ladder Your Investments

Align investments to meet milestones like early retirement and healthcare needs.

Staggered withdrawals reduce risks during market downturns.

Tax Planning
1. Optimise Tax Benefits

Maximise contributions to tax-saving instruments like PPF and NPS.

Consider tax-efficient mutual fund categories to reduce liability.

 

2. Understand Capital Gains Taxation

Equity mutual funds' LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term gains attract 20% tax, so plan redemptions wisely.

Final Insights
Early retirement and comfortable living are achievable for you. Focus on growing your corpus with equity and balanced investments. Renting a house is practical if buying doesn't align with your goals. Work with a Certified Financial Planner to optimise your investments and ensure a secure financial future.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Hello Sir, I want to invest 5k per month in mutuals fund. Am targeting 15acs in next 16years. Can you pls suggest me good fund?
Ans: Investing Rs. 5,000 per month for 16 years to achieve Rs. 15 lakhs is a commendable goal. A systematic investment plan (SIP) in mutual funds can help achieve this. Your focus should be on selecting funds that align with your risk appetite and long-term horizon.

Understanding Your Target
Your target is Rs. 15 lakhs in 16 years.
This requires consistent returns from equity mutual funds.
Equity funds are ideal for long-term goals due to their growth potential.
Investment Strategy
Focus on Equity-Dominated Funds

Equity funds have the potential for higher long-term growth.
Diversify across large-cap, flexi-cap, and mid-cap funds.
Actively Managed Funds Preferred

Actively managed funds outperform index funds over long durations.
A good fund manager can provide better returns than passive funds.
Avoid Direct Funds

Investing through a Certified Financial Planner ensures professional advice.
Regular funds with guidance offer better portfolio tracking and rebalancing.
Monitor and Review Regularly

Review your investments yearly to stay aligned with your goal.
Make changes based on performance and market conditions.
Suggested Fund Categories
Large-Cap Funds

These funds provide stability and moderate growth.
They invest in well-established companies with strong performance records.
Flexi-Cap Funds

These funds invest across large, mid, and small-cap companies.
They offer flexibility and diversification.
Mid-Cap Funds

Mid-cap funds offer higher growth potential but come with moderate risk.
Suitable for long-term wealth creation.
Hybrid Funds

These funds balance equity and debt exposure.
They provide moderate risk with consistent returns.
Tax Considerations
Equity Fund Taxation

Long-term capital gains above Rs. 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.
Short-term capital gains are taxed at 20%.
Tax-Efficient Withdrawals

Plan withdrawals strategically to minimise tax liability.
Hold funds for the long term to benefit from favourable tax rates.
Other Recommendations
Build an Emergency Fund

Set aside at least six months’ expenses in a liquid fund.
This provides financial security during emergencies.
Stay Invested for the Entire Duration

Equity investments need time to grow and overcome volatility.
Avoid premature withdrawals to maximise returns.
Disciplined Investing

Continue SIPs without interruption to achieve your goal.
Market fluctuations should not deter your commitment.
Final Insights
With disciplined investing and the right fund selection, achieving Rs. 15 lakhs in 16 years is possible. Focus on equity funds for long-term growth and consult a Certified Financial Planner for professional guidance.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP
Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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