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Kanishka Question by Kanishka on Jan 15, 2024Hindi
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Hi Ravi, I hope you're doing well. I wrote to you once earlier and your advice helped me a lot. I'm writing to you again with the ripple effect of the crisis I faced still bothering me. I was really close to a girl of a different cultural background who broke up with me recently after a nasty tiff. I'm finding it difficult to cope with it. Reading hasn't helped and neither has focusing on my career. Could you suggest any NGOs in Kolkata I could be associated with? I would love to work for them even as a volunteer. I need to tell you here, I'm 49 and I know NGOs prefer youngsters. Please let me know if there are any NGOs in Kolkata I can approach that would be willing to take me onboard. Thank you.

Ans: Dear Kanishka,

I remember you and I am glad I could help you. I am glad you are taking measures to keep yourself busy and grow as well as help those who need help. As far as NGOs in Kolkata go, I am not well-versed in that field. I suggest you do some research. I'm sure you will find many.

Best Wishes.

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Hi Anu, I am 42 yrs old male. I am a Public Health Professional and work in an International NGO on health issues based in Delhi. I have ageing parents (both suffering from cardiac illness, diabetes and hypertension) which are based in Mumbai, my immediate family (wife and two kids) stays with my parents as there is no one else to take care of them. My parents especially my father is adamant that he doesn’t want to leave his house and stay with me in Delhi. As a result my immediate family is also forced to stay in Mumbai taking care of my parents. My wife is very supportive, however as this situation is like this since last 4-5 years and we are staying in two different cities, it has now taking stall at emotionally and physically on both of us (me, my wife and my two kids). I am desperately searching for job in Mumbai, however in my sector there are not very good opportunities in Mumbai. I tried my hands in two there places for job, however to my misfortune things didnt work out. I am a mid-senior level professional and have reached this position after a lot of hard work, however the stress has started affecting my performance and overall reputation in the organization. Hence there is constant stress of performance, ability to deliver, overall situation has lowered my confidence level affecting my work further. Dissatisfied with my work, my supervisor has already started sidelining me. I am desperately started thinking of leaving the job, however financial condition doesn’t allow me to do that. With COVID-19 pandemic things has worsened, as I am stuck in Delhi even in lockdown, leaving my parents and my wife struggling in Mumbai amidst the lockdown. Even now cant visit them as stressed, whether i will carry risk of infection to my parents, wife and kids, Hence staying away, it’s been 8 months that have not met them. Not sure, how to handle this. One way I thought as looking out opportunities in Mumbai, even if at junior level, However i am trying for that, but not getting suitable opportunities. Not sure, how to handle the pressures from family (Parents don't want to shift, wife is not ready to stay away and has given time till March, there constant pressure of performance). Not sure, what to do.
Ans: Dear S, surely, this pandemic has put many at inconvenience in different ways for each of us across the planet.

What we can do is make the best of what is at this point in time. It indeed is hard to be away from family at a time like this.

I know parents in some families do find it hard adjusting to a new city at their age and having your wife care for them as logical as the decision was has begun to take a toll on the family as a whole.

It is an amazing feeling to come back home to a family after a hard day’s work where they wait with love, care and support.

Either a job in Mumbai or moving your family to Delhi are the options as it is evident that family and their love is important for you to have the security and stability.

Having said this, Lockdown 5.0 begins soon, I think fearlessly take a call, visit your family.

If you think you want to isolate yourself in the fear of COVID-10, do so…but more that all of this, do sit down as a family, COMMUNICATE, talk to your parents about how this is affecting you and obviously they care and love you enough to hear your side of the story.

And finally, do what needs to be done to make sure that your parents understand and are taken care of and your wife and children are with you as a family.

Happy decision making and be happy!

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Hi, Trust you're doing well. I'll begin with a complaint. I'm mentioning it here since there's no other platform to grumble on. My previous mail, not written to you, wasn't replied to. On top of that, my inbox is bombarded with mails with details of crises faced by others. As it is, I'm besieged with problems of my own. I don't really have the stomach to analyse crises faced by others. Coming to my issue, as was somewhat expected, the girl I would go around with has broken all contact with me after I was rude to her. Now the question is, how do I cope with it? I've managed to shrug off the feeling of guilt since she was herself very rude when I tried reaching out to her. However, I'm still missing her. How do I cope with the emptiness? Reading books isn't helping. After all, books don't talk, do they? Books can't really be a substitute to a woman's company. I'm trying to raise my earnings since at 49, I'm at the fag end of my career. Is there any way I can keep myself busy? NGOs don't take in people of my age. What do I do? Please advise. Thank you.
Ans: Dear Kanishka,
What is the point with all the distress? The more you stay in the problem, the bigger it is going to get!
If your relationship is over, then move on...yes, the emptiness takes quite sometime to get over with BUT it is possible to get a grab of your emotions ONLY if you choose to...
Focus on the time being on:
Work
Health
Family
Friends
This will give you an idea as to how much more energy you can drive into each of these to see the results that you want. Obviously, you can put in strategic thought into planning the next 10 years of your professional life. Your career ends only when you want it to end. In this digital age, the world is one big village where there are myriad opportunities. Research a bit on where your skills and experience can add value...
So, the point that I am making here is: Shift focus to the things that can change the course of your life for the better!

All the best!
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Krishna

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Workplace Expert - Answered on Mar 04, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 04, 2024Hindi
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Hi Krishna I have worked as a software engineer for last 20 years and I am exhausted and feel like quitting the software industry. Even though work is manageable, due to my experience the expectation from Leadership is high, and delivery expectations also is too much. Workplace is toxic, and too much of politics. I am an introvert and feel like doing remote jobs for lesser pay or rather quit completely and continue with my spiritual journey since I have seen lot of pain and suffering with respect to my health, marriage etc etc. I am also drawn towards spiritual life because leading a materialistic life seems meaningless. I am 45 today, I have no more interest in material life but due to obligations towards family and 1 child, I am working for money and I also need money for medical expenses because I underwent through a major health crisis 10 years back where I lost organ for surgery, this has created major imbalance in hormones leading to depression, anxiety and unable to face everyday challenges. This is also the reason due to which I cannot continue working. I have some 50k monthly as passive income and only 1 child. With some ppf, pf amount. Would this be enough for me to continue on spiritual journey and exit material and hectic IT life due to health issues and no peace in what I am doing ? Can you suggest how I can get some remote jobs that I can do if in case I need money. I am a BTech MBA graduate and managed to survive in this pressure hectic IT life for 20 years and feel like giving up everyday. I sometimes feel it was better off to lead a life without this education, engineering because all we need is 2 pair of clothes, shelter and 2 times food and for that we need to struggle so much in a city when compared to a village life. Please guide me not just from your perspective but step into my situation and understand and share your thoughts, or have you seen anyone like me and how have they managed to lead life after quitting and leading a monastic life
Ans: Dear

At the outset let me express my gratitude to you for putting up your question. It's indeed very profound.

First and foremost, your personal health is of foremost importance. Nothing should come in between that.

Secondly, money is essential but it's like the fuel not the engine.

Thirdly, work we must because it makes us fulfilled but we should not let work define our identity.

Fourthly, family commitment is our responsibility never run away from that.

Finally, spiritual journey or pursuing hobbies should not be taken up because we feel frustrated with some other things in life. They should be an end in itself.

I can feel what you are going through because many are in a similar situation like you but they don't have clarity or courage to accept that. So cheers to you for being aware of your situation and accepting it.

Here are few thoughts that I would share, however please take them as pointers and not as an advise, because we all have our own emotional disposition. That's why I believe an advise that may work for one person will not work for another because we all have our own emotional state and that defines the way we feel after taking certain decisions.

1. Slow down...you may want to ask your company to make you contractual with reduced responsibility and pay or you can take up contractual assignment with some other companies. In today's cost cutting environment companies would prefer that.

2. Talk to your spouse about your current state, let me tell you our spouse has a better feel of what we should and should not do. Moment you talk to your better half world of options will open. But more than that you will realise that you have someone in life who cares for your well being...that feeling is what we all need...someone caring for us.

3. Give up the notion of self identification through work. After salary that's the biggest drug that keeps us going in a job. We can't see ourselves outside of work as if we are born to work.

Lastly pray to God seeking guidance and clarity, trust me prayer is very powerful because it makes us calm and it's the calm mind that gives clarity.

Wishing you the very best. Trust me you will be alright soon.

With Love
Krishna
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Sir i want ur guidance. I don't know what i do i done post graduate sociology and pg diploma in women and child development still i am unemployed can u guide me for my career
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Job Opportunities After MA in Sociology

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Suppose you want to make career in pyschology; taking different undergraduate and post-graduate courses will open doors to quality work opportunities. Bachelor’s or master’s in sociology are believed to be the most popular courses. The courses’ curriculum acquaints you with the fundamentals of human behaviour and gives a deep insight into human social relationships and institutions. Below, we have discussed the scope and job opportunities after MA in sociology.

What is the Scope of an MA in Sociology?
MA in sociology is a post-graduate course that equips aspirants with the skills required to work as contemporary sociologists, and understand complex human behavior patterns. An MA in sociology aims to provide students a deep insight into various facets of society, human behavior, and different institutions prevalent in the business environment. In the next section of the article, we will explore the scope of an MA in sociology in detail.

Sociology delves deeper into the diverse interactions between society and individuals. The scope of sociology also covers the fundamental sociology of market research, visual studies, diaspora studies, etc. It also includes a wide variety of sociological methods used to study the social life of humankind.

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Here are some of the job opportunities that you can take after completing MA in sociology:

Sociology Professor
As a Sociology Professor, you can shape minds, conduct research, and contribute to academic discourse. Universities and colleges often seek individuals with advanced degrees to teach sociology courses.

Life Coach
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Sociologist
Engage in sociological research and analysis, contributing to a deeper understanding of societal structures, behaviors, and trends. Sociologists often work in research institutions, think tanks, or government agencies.

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Bridge sociology and business by becoming a Marketing Research Executive. Conduct consumer behavior studies, analyze market trends, and provide valuable insights to guide marketing strategies.

Public Relations Specialist
Utilize your sociological background in communications as a Public Relations Specialist. Shape public perception, manage organizational image, and navigate societal dynamics in the realm of public relations.

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Explore diverse opportunities in government sectors, such as civil services, research roles, or policy analysis. Sociological expertise is valuable in shaping public policies, addressing social issues, and contributing to governance.

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After your MA in sociology, you can appear for National Eligibility Test (NET) or State-level Eligibility Test (SET) and join a college or university as an Assistant Professor or Associate Professor. Alternatively, you can pursue a PhD or M.Phil to teach sociology in universities. This way, you can begin your career in primary and secondary education and child development.

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Indian administrative services (IAS), Indian police service (IPS), and Indian forest service (IFS) are some of the best job opportunities after MA sociology. Passion and dedication must be your driving force while opting for administrative services like IAS or IPS. Moreover, you must qualify for the Civil Service Aptitude Test (CSAT) held by Union Public Service Commission to begin your career in the field.

Otherwise, you can take examinations held by the State Public Service Commission after completing your graduation. You can apply for job titles like Assistant Commissioner, Sub-Divisional Magistrate, District Public Relations Officer, and more after completing the MA in sociology course.

Therapy and Counselling
You can develop a career in therapy and counselling with an MA in sociology. Those with a post-graduate or undergraduate degree in sociology can become successful counsellors and behaviour therapists in fields like education, healthcare, governance, or community services.

Suppose, you want to make a career as a therapist or counsellor, then empathy, patience, analytical skills, critical thinking ability, and interpersonal communication are the qualities you require.

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It is believed that some interesting jobs after MA in sociology are in research, and you can carve a lucrative career with the highest job satisfaction. After completing MA in sociology or similar courses, you can apply for the role of a Junior or Senior Research Fellow, Research Assistant, or Senior Research Officer across different industries.

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Excellent jobs come your way after an MA in Sociology in family and child development and welfare. The opportunities include a Probation Officer in the District Child Protection Society, a Marriage Counsellor, a Therapist or a Counsellor in a rehabilitation centre, a family or child development officer, and so on.

A few more job roles that one can undertake after completing MA in sociology are:

Gerontologists in the healthcare sector
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It's been a year since I completed my engineering in mechanical engineering. I am currently unemployed. I keep sending resume through LinkedIn, indeed, monster. I only get rejection replies. I have lost confidence in everything. What i specialised and has more interest is mechanical design and simulation, but majority companies prefer experienced candidates. For my other plans to work out i initially needed a job for money as well as for experience. It's very depressing and i am kind of letting go my dreams. I feel I am very incapable of even find a job after a course. What difference do I make with those who took a year off to clear remaining arrears.
Ans: It's understandable to feel frustrated and discouraged when facing challenges in your job search, especially when you're passionate about a specific field like mechanical design and simulation. However, it's essential to remember that setbacks are a natural part of the job search process, and they don't define your worth or capabilities. While gaining work experience may seem challenging at the moment, you can focus on enhancing your skills and knowledge in mechanical design and simulation. Consider enrolling in online courses, workshops, or certification programs related to CAD software, finite element analysis (FEA), computational fluid dynamics (CFD), or other relevant areas. Reach out to professionals working in mechanical design and simulation roles through LinkedIn or industry events. Request informational interviews to learn about their career paths, experiences, and insights into the industry. Building relationships with professionals in your field can lead to job opportunities, mentorship, and valuable advice for your career. Look for internships, co-op programs, or entry-level positions that offer opportunities to gain hands-on experience in mechanical design and simulation. While these roles may not always be advertised, reaching out to companies directly or through your network can help you uncover hidden opportunities and demonstrate your enthusiasm and commitment to the field.

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I want to purchase auto insurance for my Maruti Ertiga which I purchased two years ago. Which auto insurance policy will best look after my interests in the event of an accident which could lead to fatalities or lead me permanently disabled? I want to choose an auto insurance policy that will take care of hospitalisation as well as permanent disability.
Ans: In the unfortunate event of an accident with your Maruti Ertiga, a comprehensive car insurance policy will best serve your interests. Here's why:

Comprehensive Coverage:

• Third-party Liability: This is mandatory by law and covers any injuries or property damage caused to a third party due to an accident involving your car.
• Own Damage Cover: This protects your Maruti Ertiga from damages caused by accidents, theft, fire, natural calamities, etc.

Additional Coverage for Permanent Disability and Hospitalisation:

• Personal Accident (PA) Cover for Owner-Driver and Passengers: This add-on provides a lump sum payout in case of death or permanent disability due to an accident. You can extend this cover to include your passengers as well.
• Medical Expenses Cover: This add-on reimburses hospitalisation expenses incurred due to injuries sustained in an accident.

Here's what to consider when choosing an insurance provider:

• Claim Settlement Ratio (CSR): Look for insurers with a high CSR, which indicates a good record of settling claims promptly.
• Network Garages: Opt for an insurer with a wide network of cashless garages for repairs to ensure a hassle-free experience.
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• HDFC Ergo
• The Oriental Insurance Company
• National Insurance Company
• Bajaj Allianz General Insurance

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• Use online insurance aggregator websites to compare quotes from different providers. These websites allow you to input details about your Maruti Ertiga, your driving history, and desired coverage options. They will then provide you with quotes from various insurers, allowing you to compare prices and features.

Consulting a Financial Advisor

• Consider consulting a financial advisor who can help you assess your specific needs and recommend the most suitable car insurance policy for your Maruti Ertiga.
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