Am I Really Seeing Real Profiles on Dating Apps?

Ans: Dear A,

It is true that a small portion of deviants make it through the air-tight security that most dating apps provide, but it wouldn't be right to say that there are no genuine people who are interested in interacting or being friends. In fact, a large majority of our users are in the app seeking friendship.

Here and there, you might find some spammy profiles that got through, despite a dating app’s best efforts. Report any suspicious profile as soon as you recognize them as fake users; I assure you that most dating apps take prompt action after checking the genuinity of the report.

Here are some ways to identify a fake profile:

• While some people do not put up their own pictures due to privacy issues, there will be at least a picture of an animal, some random scenery, or wallpapers. But a profile that has a blank space for a display image is more likely a fake one.
• Beware of suspicious first messages with a user directly sharing their number.
• Let's say, you have been talking to someone. If you notice inconsistencies in their stories, it might be a fake profile. Even if they aren't one, it's best not to be in contact with people starting a relationship with lies.
• Financial talks- discussing money or asking for money- during the chatting phase is a big red flag.

Hope this helps.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand your concern. More and more people are using dating apps to look for a partner to get married to; it gives people the chance of having a brief dating life before settling down with the person. You can try it without a doubt. I only advise you to make it obvious from the beginning itself that you are looking for a serious relationship that finally leads to marriage. It will help you attract the right kind of people.

Best Wishes!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand your concerns with catfishing but let me assure you that dating apps work tirelessly to keep their platform clear of miscreants that pose as someone they are not. But even with airtight security, some scammers might make it through to the apps. Here is where user awareness comes in. Treading with caution and having your wits about you can help in such situations.

Here are some ways to identify a scammer-

• No bio. Genuine users always have a bio.
• No photo. Most users will upload two or more pictures for better chances.
• During the chatting phase, if you see your match, especially females, being too eager to share their number, it's most likely a scammer. Women usually are not keen to share personal details during the initial phase.
• Trying to steer conversations toward finances is also a red flag.

Most importantly, trust your instinct. If something feels off, unmatch. If you see suspicious activities, please report the profile. Most dating apps take reports seriously.

Best Wishes!

Ans: Meet girls in real life. Online dating apps is not the solution

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

There are several amazing dating apps in India that tailored specifically for the Indian audience. While I can't name them, I would suggest doing a little research before picking one. The right fit should cater to your needs- casual dating. Some apps are more suited for serious daters while others are focused on casual dating- the latter should be fine for you. Once you do find the right one for you, make sure to optimize your profile well to find a match quickly. A clear and recent picture as your DP and a well-written Bio will do the trick.

Best Wishes.