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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 23, 2025Hindi
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My partner and I want to explore an open relationship. We are both creative artistes in our early 30s, switching between Goa and Bangalore for work. We have been in a live-in relationship for five years, but since we are not married, we'd like to explore the possibility of an open relationship where we are not mutually exclusive to each other. The idea is exciting because it will mean more freedom for both of us. I am an introvert and he likes to flirt casually. But honestly, deep down, I'm terrified. I've had flashes of intense jealousy just imagining him with someone else, and the thought of emotional hurt is paralysing. How do we even begin to set truly healthy boundaries and clear communication rules to ensure our primary relationship remains strong, and that we protect each other from unnecessary pain? What are the biggest mistakes couples make when venturing into non-monogamy, and how do I know if I can genuinely handle the emotional complexities of this journey without losing myself?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I don’t think there are any set rules on how to explore a non-monogamous relationship. If there is, I am not entirely sure of it. What I can suggest it that you need to be honest with yourself and with each other throughout. A relationship where there are more than two people hangs entirely on trust. And have thorough conversations to understand every minute expectations and set clear boundaries. Cover these basics first. And focus on safety as well.
Hope this helps.

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,

After reading your question I understood that your partner and you have, what we call, an open relationship. As long as both partners are okay with the dynamics of it, and no one is emotionally hurt, or resisting, it should be okay. It isn't exploitation if your husband himself encourages you. You are both consenting adults and not harming each other or anyone else. As for your question, if he has a cuckold fantasy, that is something you should discuss with your husband. An open discussion is better than speculation. Also, at any time if you suspect that your husband is growing concerned about the nature of your relationship, ask him directly. It can help avoid misunderstandings.


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Hi, I need honest career guidance based on my situation. I completed my HSC in 2024 with PCB stream (no Mathematics) and scored only 45%. I was preparing for medical entrance but it didn't work out, and due to personal reasons I couldn't appear for improvement exams either. It's now 2026 and I have a 2 year gap. I now want to pursue a career in IT or Computer Science. I'm confused between BSc IT, BSc CS, BCA, and Data Science — and keep getting mixed opinions from everyone. My specific questions are — 1. Since I don't have Maths in HSC, can I appear for the HSC Maths exam as an Isolated Candidate in July–August 2026? And if I clear it, will that result be valid for 2026–27 admissions? 2. With 45% and a 2 year gap, what are my realistic college options in Mumbai? Which good colleges have lower cutoffs for BSc IT / BSc CS / BCA? 3. Given that I'm coming from Biology with no Maths background — which degree would actually be the best fit for me for real career growth, not just for getting admission? 4. Does college name or tier matter a lot in the IT field with lower percentage, or do skills and portfolio matter more? 5. Honestly, what is the smartest move for someone in my exact situation right now? I don't want to waste more time and want to make the right decision. Please guide me."
Ans: Hey, here is the point-wise reply to your question:

(1) You can appear for the HSC Mathematics exam as an independent candidate through the Maharashtra State Board in July–August 2026, and if you pass, that Maths result will generally be accepted for admissions in 2026–27 for courses requiring Maths.

(2) With 45% and a two-year gap, gaining admission to top colleges may be difficult, but you can still try mid-/lower-cutoff colleges such as SIES College of Arts, Science and Commerce, Vivekanand Education Society's College of Arts, Science and Commerce, Tolani College of Commerce, and Guru Nanak Khalsa College, depending on seat availability, especially for BSc IT or BCA.

(3) Since you come from a Biology background without Maths, BCA is usually the easiest entry into IT (as the Maths requirements are lighter), whereas BSc CS/Data Science can be more challenging because they rely more heavily on mathematics and statistics.

(4) In the IT industry, skills, projects, internships, coding ability, and your portfolio matter far more than college ranking, although attending a better college can initially help with networking and placements.

(5) The practical pathway might be: complete HSC Maths in 2026 → apply for BCA or BSc IT at reputable Mumbai colleges → focus intensively on coding skills (Python, web development, projects) during your degree, as building real technical skills will be much more important for your career than your past percentage.

However, it is strongly advised to arrange a one-to-one session with a counsellor so they can suggest more options after discussing your profile. Do not rely solely on our advice. Take our advice as a guideline only.

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