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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 22, 2024Hindi
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need to convince parents for intercaste marriage

Ans: Well, you have nothing to lose by trying, but I don’t know about your success rate! Do they have any friends who are intermarried? You know, a couple around their age, who they are fond of? Coming from someone senior and who’s made a success of such a union may have more of an impression upon them. Maybe use their example or their help to make a difference in convincing your parents?

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Hello ma'am I'm 29 year old independent girl. I and my boyfriend (14 years relationship) want to marry each other but my parents and the whole family not agreeing with us because of intercaste marriage. His family already convinced for us and they are willing to accept me without my parents permission but the boy denied to marry me without my parents blessings. He always saying that one day your parents will understand your feelings and they will agree but I tried to convince them from last 3 years but my parents are saying that they will not give their permission for intercaste marriage due to what people will say. I have 3 elder brother but no one wants that I can marry to my partner. He is independent business owner running his own store. my parents are saying that we will keep you at home for entire life but never agree for the love marriage like this. I don't understand what should I do and what not . I'm feeling very depressed and disturbed all the time . Please suggest me the best solution for this situation
Ans: Navigating intercaste marriage in Indian society can indeed be challenging, but it's important to remember that your happiness and well-being should be paramount. Here are some suggestions tailored to the context of Indian society and relationships Start by trying to understand the specific concerns your parents have about the intercaste marriage. Is it fear of societal judgment, concerns about cultural differences, or something else? Understanding their perspective can help you address their concerns more effectively.Consider involving a trusted family member or elder who can act as a mediator between you and your parents. Sometimes, having a respected third party intervene can help facilitate a more productive conversation and bridge the gap between generations. Seek support from within your community or cultural circle. Sometimes, hearing from others who have successfully navigated intercaste marriages can help reassure your parents that such unions can be successful and fulfilling.Take the opportunity to educate your parents about the changing dynamics of relationships and marriages in modern Indian society. Share stories and examples of intercaste marriages that have thrived, and emphasize that love knows no boundaries. Changing deeply ingrained beliefs and cultural norms takes time. Be patient with your parents and continue to express your love and commitment to your partner. Sometimes, repeated conversations and demonstrations of your sincerity can gradually soften their stance. Consider seeking the assistance of a relationship counselor or therapist who specializes in intercultural or intercaste relationships. They can provide you with personalized advice and strategies for navigating the complexities of your situation.While it's always preferable to have your parents' blessing, remember that ultimately, the decision to marry is yours. If all efforts to persuade your parents fail and you feel that marrying your partner is the right choice for you, consider exploring legal options such as court marriage. Take care of your mental and emotional well-being during this challenging time. Lean on your partner, friends, and support network for emotional support, and engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment.
Remember, you deserve to be with someone who loves and respects you for who you are, regardless of societal expectations or family objections. Stay true to yourself and your values, and trust that with patience, understanding, and perseverance, you can overcome the obstacles in your path.

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Sir,my self D.Durga dinesh I got CRL rank-86989 and OBC NCL rank -27k and i checked the IIITs in csab and I saw iiit dharawad which is DSAI last round closing rank is -86797 which is difference is 192 ranks only Can I get IIIT Dharawad DSAI there? And I checked DSAI 2024 closing rank which is 81K something in previous year it is increased about 5000 rank .In this year can I get DSAI? . Sir, please tell about DSAI course in IIIT dharawad which is good? And I saw cse branch closing rank in 2025 is 83k something and in 2024 is 74k nearly in last rounds .when this year also rank increases and get upto my rank . which branch should I choose CSE or DSAI .iam very confusing about this. Please answer my reply sir .iam waiting for your reply .
Ans: Durga Dinesh, With CRL 86,989 and OBC-NCL rank around 27,000, IIIT Dharwad DSAI through CSAB 2026 is possible but not guaranteed. Your observation is correct: 2025 CSAB Special Round closing for DSAI OBC-NCL was around CRL 86,797, so you are only about 192 ranks away. Since cutoffs can shift by a few hundred or few thousand depending on vacancies, withdrawals, and choice filling, you should definitely participate in CSAB and keep DSAI above lower-preference branches. CSAB officially publishes special-round opening/closing ranks after JoSAA vacancy rounds. Between CSE and DSAI, choose CSE first if available, because it is broader and keeps options open in software, AI, data, cybersecurity, and higher studies. Choose DSAI next because IIIT Dharwad’s curriculum includes data science/AI-focused learning and the institute reports decent placement figures, though 2025 data is still ongoing.

So your choice order can be CSE > DSAI > ECE at IIIT Dharwad. Also fill IIIT Kottayam/Kurnool/Ranchi/Una/Nagpur lower branches as backups along with 4-5 reputed Private Engineering Colleges as backup options.

Please note, success in any career depends less on the degree itself and more on how you invest your time. Focus on honing technical, communication, presentation, and leadership skills. Build a strong professional profile through projects and internships, actively network with alumni and industry experts, and maintain visibility on platforms like LinkedIn. Additionally, developing emotional intelligence (EQ) is crucial to navigate your career path with confidence. All the BEST for Your Prosperous Future!

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Dear Sir, My son rank is 41000 in jee mains and DA-IICT has launched two BS - MS Dual program in IT and second in AI and Data science. What are chances to get this course ? What is the scope of this course? In can see now in job portals trend is changing and companies only ask for Bachelors/Master degree and need to focus on skills. Is it a good option?
Ans: Sachin Sir, At a CRL rank of 41,000, securing a seat in DA-IICT’s regular B.Tech programs is unlikely, as recent closing ranks for ICT, MnC, and VLSI are much higher. However, the institute’s newly launched 5-year BS–MS Dual Degree programs in IT and Data Science & AI offer a more realistic alternative. These programs admit students based on JEE Main Mathematics percentile or CUET scores, not overall CRL, and since 2026 is their first admission cycle, competition may be less intense.

This 5-year, 200-credit curriculum is ideal if your son is passionate about coding, AI, data science, cybersecurity, or research-oriented tech careers—provided the fee structure and longer commitment are manageable. It’s also wise to keep several reliable backup options rather than relying solely on DA-IICT.

Ultimately, success depends less on the degree and more on how your son invests his time: honing technical and communication skills, building a professional profile through projects/internships, networking with alumni and industry experts, maintaining visibility on platforms like LinkedIn, and developing emotional intelligence to confidently navigate his career path. All the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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