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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 22, 2024Hindi
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need to convince parents for intercaste marriage

Ans: Well, you have nothing to lose by trying, but I don’t know about your success rate! Do they have any friends who are intermarried? You know, a couple around their age, who they are fond of? Coming from someone senior and who’s made a success of such a union may have more of an impression upon them. Maybe use their example or their help to make a difference in convincing your parents?

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 21, 2024Hindi
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Hello ma'am I'm 29 year old independent girl. I and my boyfriend (14 years relationship) want to marry each other but my parents and the whole family not agreeing with us because of intercaste marriage. His family already convinced for us and they are willing to accept me without my parents permission but the boy denied to marry me without my parents blessings. He always saying that one day your parents will understand your feelings and they will agree but I tried to convince them from last 3 years but my parents are saying that they will not give their permission for intercaste marriage due to what people will say. I have 3 elder brother but no one wants that I can marry to my partner. He is independent business owner running his own store. my parents are saying that we will keep you at home for entire life but never agree for the love marriage like this. I don't understand what should I do and what not . I'm feeling very depressed and disturbed all the time . Please suggest me the best solution for this situation
Ans: Navigating intercaste marriage in Indian society can indeed be challenging, but it's important to remember that your happiness and well-being should be paramount. Here are some suggestions tailored to the context of Indian society and relationships Start by trying to understand the specific concerns your parents have about the intercaste marriage. Is it fear of societal judgment, concerns about cultural differences, or something else? Understanding their perspective can help you address their concerns more effectively.Consider involving a trusted family member or elder who can act as a mediator between you and your parents. Sometimes, having a respected third party intervene can help facilitate a more productive conversation and bridge the gap between generations. Seek support from within your community or cultural circle. Sometimes, hearing from others who have successfully navigated intercaste marriages can help reassure your parents that such unions can be successful and fulfilling.Take the opportunity to educate your parents about the changing dynamics of relationships and marriages in modern Indian society. Share stories and examples of intercaste marriages that have thrived, and emphasize that love knows no boundaries. Changing deeply ingrained beliefs and cultural norms takes time. Be patient with your parents and continue to express your love and commitment to your partner. Sometimes, repeated conversations and demonstrations of your sincerity can gradually soften their stance. Consider seeking the assistance of a relationship counselor or therapist who specializes in intercultural or intercaste relationships. They can provide you with personalized advice and strategies for navigating the complexities of your situation.While it's always preferable to have your parents' blessing, remember that ultimately, the decision to marry is yours. If all efforts to persuade your parents fail and you feel that marrying your partner is the right choice for you, consider exploring legal options such as court marriage. Take care of your mental and emotional well-being during this challenging time. Lean on your partner, friends, and support network for emotional support, and engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment.
Remember, you deserve to be with someone who loves and respects you for who you are, regardless of societal expectations or family objections. Stay true to yourself and your values, and trust that with patience, understanding, and perseverance, you can overcome the obstacles in your path.

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In my earlier question reg taxability and tax treatment of SBI life Smart Wealth Builder Policy maturity gain income please read the annual premium as Rs 40,000/- in place of ' Rs.4000/-'. Please see the question and reply urgently as it will help me and many others.
Ans: Let’s now re-assess the taxability of the maturity amount from your SBI Life Smart Wealth Builder Policy, assuming the annual premium is Rs 40,000, not Rs 4,000.

? Taxability Depends on Section 10(10D) Conditions

– Life insurance policy maturity proceeds are exempt under Section 10(10D) if conditions are met.

– One main condition: Annual premium must be less than 10% of sum assured (if policy issued after 1-Apr-2012).

– You mentioned annual premium is Rs 40,000. Now check the sum assured in your policy.

– If the sum assured is at least Rs 4,00,000 or more, then 10(10D) exemption applies.

– In that case, entire maturity amount will be tax-free, no tax to be paid.

? When Tax Becomes Applicable

– If the premium exceeds 10% of the sum assured, then 10(10D) exemption is lost.

– The entire maturity amount becomes taxable under "Income from Other Sources".

– However, death benefit is always tax-free.

– Also note: From FY 2023-24, high premium policies (total annual premium above Rs 5 lakh) have additional tax rules.

– But your premium is only Rs 40,000, so these new rules will not apply.

? If 10(10D) Exemption Is Lost, Then

– You have to pay tax on maturity proceeds as per your income slab.

– Only the amount received above the total premiums paid will be treated as taxable.

– For example, if you receive Rs 3 lakh maturity and you paid total Rs 2.4 lakh premiums (over 6 years), then Rs 60,000 is taxable.

– Tax rate will be as per your applicable income tax slab.

? TDS Rules to Remember

– If the maturity amount is taxable, TDS at 5% will be deducted on income portion only.

– If you submit Form 15G/15H (and eligible), you may avoid TDS.

– But still, you will have to show the income in your ITR and pay tax as needed.

? What You Can Do Now

– Check your policy document or online account for exact sum assured.

– If sum assured is 10 times or more of annual premium (Rs 40,000), then you’re safe.

– The maturity amount will be tax-free under Section 10(10D).

– If not, calculate the taxable portion and plan to declare it in your ITR.

– Consider consulting a Certified Financial Planner for accurate reporting and reinvestment advice.

? Final Insights

– With Rs 40,000 premium, you’re likely within the tax-free zone if sum assured is Rs 4 lakh or more.

– New taxation rules on insurance do not affect you unless total annual premiums exceed Rs 5 lakh, which they don’t.

– Always keep maturity documents, premium payment proofs and policy details handy at tax filing time.

– For better long-term growth and tax efficiency, consider future investments in mutual funds through MFDs with CFP credential instead of insurance-linked investments.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Nayagam P

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 12, 2025Hindi
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My son is getting IIIT Vadodara IT, RVCE - CSE (specialization w/AI ML) and BITS - HYD Electronics and Instrumentation or MSc Nanoscience and Semiconductors at BITS Pilani. Which option would be the best? Consdering placements, college life, future scope etc. He has somwhat interest in IT related branches, Will ENI @ BITS Hyd be good? Can he get into somewhat IT related stuff through that branch? Same for Msc Semiconductor and Nanoscience @ BITS Pilani, is MSc degeee worth it? Is Dual degree (after first year a good option @ BITS?)
Ans: IIIT Vadodara’s IT programme, NBA-accredited since 2013, reports a 2024 B.Tech placement rate of 61.4%, with an average package of ?11.34 LPA and median ?9 LPA across 53 recruiters, supported by project-based learning and industry tie-ups. RVCE’s CSE (AI & ML) specialization leverages its 100% CSE placement tradition, achieving a 75% placement rate in 2024 (93% in 2023) and an average CSE package of ?19 LPA through top firms like Microsoft and Cisco, within a vibrant campus culture and active student clubs. BITS Hyderabad’s Electronics & Instrumentation offers 60 seats, practice-school internships, and around 95% placement consistency with an average ?14–15 LPA, backed by NAAC A++ accreditation and cutting-edge digital-manufacturing labs. BITS Pilani’s newly introduced M.Sc. in Semiconductor and Nanoscience, aligned with the India Semiconductor Mission and National Quantum Mission, provides interdisciplinary training in nanofabrication and device physics, strong ISRO/DRDO collaborations, but lacks placement data due to its 2025 launch; prospective dual-degree switches to B.E. are limited to top performers after the first year and are highly competitive.

Recommendation: For immediate IT alignment and strong core outcomes, opt for RVCE CSE (AI & ML); choose IIIT Vadodara IT for balanced placement and academic rigor; pursue BITS Hyderabad E&I if instrumentation and IoT appeal; join BITS Pilani M.Sc. only if committed to research and willing to navigate the competitive dual-degree pathway. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Nayagam P

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Career Counsellor - Answered on Jul 12, 2025

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Sir, for my daughter, Which is better? IIITDM Kancheepuram Smart Manufacturing or VNIT Nagpur Meatallurgical and Materials Engineering or IIIT Trichy ECE or drop an year to target IITs next year? No inclination to any specific branch, but having interest to do Masters abroad after Engineering, thanks
Ans: Sadhana Madam, Among the four pathways, IIITDM Kancheepuram’s Smart Manufacturing programme stands out for its interdisciplinary curriculum that merges advanced manufacturing processes, Industry 4.0 technologies, IoT, big data analytics, and robotics within a government-funded Institute of National Importance framework, supported by five-month industry internships and modern digital-manufacturing and CPS labs. VNIT Nagpur’s Metallurgical & Materials Engineering, a four-decade-old NIT ranked 39th by NIRF, offers a rigorous core materials-science syllabus, well-equipped failure-analysis and pilot-plant facilities, strong research projects with R&D organisations, and extensive testing and consultancy collaborations. IIIT Trichy’s ECE, under the PPP model and NAAC A+ accreditation, delivers a focused VLSI, embedded-systems, and sensor-networks curriculum with small cohorts and dedicated laboratories, along with fellowship support for overseas research aspirations and integrated national scholarships. Opting to take a drop year to aim for IIT entrance may enhance access to premier institutions but carries considerable opportunity cost and uncertain success without exceptional discipline and coaching.

recommendation Prioritize IIITDM Kancheepuram Smart Manufacturing for its cutting-edge, interdisciplinary design-and-manufacturing focus and robust experiential learning that align with overseas master’s ambitions; consider IIIT Trichy ECE next for its specialized labs and fellowship pathways; choose VNIT Nagpur MME for its deep materials-research ecosystem; avoid dropping a year unless fully prepared for the competitive rigor required to secure an IIT seat. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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