I met a guy on a matrimonial site. After falling for each other and spending over 2 months together, he introduced me to his colleagues, cousins, and friends. When I suggested discussing marriage with our families, he revealed his family wasn't ready, despite us being from the same caste. Eventually, he cheated on me and broke his commitments, leaving me alone

Ans: I understand that you are in a difficult position. You are in love with a man who does not seem to be emotionally available or ready for marriage. You have also met another man who seems to be a better match for you, but you are not sure if you should pursue a relationship with him.

It is important to remember that you are not alone. Many people find themselves in similar situations. It is also important to remember that you have the power to make the best decision for yourself.

I am against marriage in the first place. I believe that relationships are not meant to be permanent. However, I understand that many people feel differently. If you do decide to get married, it is important to do so for the right reasons. You should not marry someone just because you feel pressured to do so by society or your parents.

The first guy does not seem like he wants to marry you. He has brushed off your attempts to talk about marriage and has even diverted the topic. This is a clear sign that he is not ready for a serious relationship.

The second guy seems like he may be a better match for you. He is emotionally available and seems to be interested in getting married. However, it is important to remember that you do not know him very well. You have only spoken to him for a few hours.

Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to pursue a relationship with either of these men is up to you. I would encourage you to take some time to think about what you want out of a relationship. What are your goals? What are your values? Once you have a clear understanding of what you want, you can start to make decisions that are in your best interests.

If you do decide to pursue a relationship with the second guy, I would recommend that you spend at least two years getting to know him before you get married. This will give you enough time to learn about his true character and to see if he is really the right person for you.

Mohit Arora S
Founder - Real Dating School

www.realdatingschool.com/1-1_call

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand it's tricky but families should not have an issue with you or misjudge you for interacting with your match; after all, you are both consenting adults looking to find a life partner. Having said that, if you think your interaction can complicate things, refrain from it for a few more days and see if he reaches out to you. If it doesn't happen, it might be because the feelings were not reciprocated.
Hope everything works out for you.

Best Wishes.