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Arranged Marriage - Strong Instincts, No Response, Connected on LinkedIn: Should I Message Him?

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 27, 2024Hindi
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Hi sir, I met one guy through arrange marriage setup . I had strong instincts since I saw his bio that he is the one. Never felt like this before for anyone. After that, I didn't receive any clear answer from him or his family. I tried to connect with him on LinkedIn. He accepted my connection invite, which was really unexpected from him. Its been 15 days , I want to message him also but families were involved so I am afraid that if either his or my family got to know about this then what if they will misjudge me for directly contacting him. What should I do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand it's tricky but families should not have an issue with you or misjudge you for interacting with your match; after all, you are both consenting adults looking to find a life partner. Having said that, if you think your interaction can complicate things, refrain from it for a few more days and see if he reaches out to you. If it doesn't happen, it might be because the feelings were not reciprocated.
Hope everything works out for you.

Best Wishes.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 29, 2024Hindi
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Around 2022, I got a marriage proposal from a mutual acquaintance of a guy who us also known to my family . At that time I was in a relationship with someone else so my family told that I am currently focusing on my studies . But recently , I am single and saw his account on social media . We started chatting with each other and I realised that we are conpatible in many aspects . But after some days ... my mother started pressuring me that they will start to see marriage prospects for me. Also I felt that he also feels the same for me because how he talked to me... So out of pressure ,I asked him and told about my feelings for him and told why it will be profitable if we consider ourselves as a couple .He told that he has a lot of pressure from his family to settle for a well paying job (though he is working in a private company)and also wants to focus on his passion too. Also he had brojen his heart 2 times. Although he assured that he is not saying no and also he would think over this proposal and would give me an answer . But the next day I saw he blocked me from social media . I would have appreciated if he had an open communication with me as I had the same . Btw now he is 27 and I am 23 .
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am very sorry to hear that you had to go through this. Some people do not have the emotional maturity to say a simple no or speak their truth. He might not have wanted to make things awkward or thought he was sparing you some pain but ultimately that isn't the case. But the important thing to remember here is that his action reflects on him and what kind of a person he is; it does not highlight your worth. I know it hurts right now, but it will get better and you will find someone who loves you.

Best Wishes.

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