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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Feb 27, 2025

Dr Upneet Kaur is a medical professional and therapist based out of Amritsar.
After completing her bachelor’s degree in Ayurvedic medicine and surgery from the SKSS Ayurvedic College and Hospital, Sarabha, Punjab, in 2008, she worked as a medical officer at various multi-specialty hospitals in Punjab, handling both physical and mental patient care and clinical decision-making. She spent the next decade leading multidisciplinary teams at various levels.
Since 2022, she has been practising as a clinical psychologist and marriage counsellor.
Dr Upneet also holds an MBA in hospital management from Alagappa University, Tamil Nadu, and an MA in psychology from the Indira Gandhi National Open University.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Feb 22, 2025Hindi
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Mere jivan main ek aur purush hain.wo bahut jhut bolta hain.mere pati aur mera rishta bahut pyara hain.main baar baar is tisre rishte se nikalne ki koshish karti hu.magar wo nikalne nahi deta.har baar emotional kar deta hain.koi call nahi karta sirf raat ko chat karega .wo bhi sab physical .muje is rishte se jaldi se jaldi nikalna hain.mere dimag main physical ka itna craze nahi hain .muje please bataye main kya karu

Ans: Hello mam
Apne ye bahut acha socha ki aap is relation se nikalna chahti hain. Jis tarah aap bata rahe ho ye insaan mujhe toxic lag raha hai jo apne fayde ke liye apko fasa ke rakhna chahta hai. Is nikalna hi behtar hai. Us insaan ko aap firmly clear kar dijiye ke aap uske sath koi relation nahi rakhna chahti. And usse contact tod dijiye. Apne husband ke sath kahin holiday pe ja skte hai taaki apka dimag bhi us taraf na jaye. Kyuki waise bhi is relation ka koi future nahi hai.
Apne pe bharosa rakhiye and is toxic relationship ko chod dijiye.
All the best!
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Dr Upneet kaur
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Ans: Dear Hemant,
Nah! Bilkul nahin aur agar kabhi aisa hua bhi toh yeh zaroor jaan lena ki use aur koi mila nahin aur woh yeh jaanti hai ki aapka pyaar aapki kamzori hai isiliye koi bhi haalaat mein aap use sweekar kar lenge. Majboori hogi uski jab woh aapko chunegi, naaki yeh ki woh aap se pyaar karti hai...aur aise rishte zyaada tikte nahin.
Jab wusne saaf kahaa hai ki aapko dost maanti hai, toh is baat ko maan lijiye; yeh nah karke aapne khayaali Pulao pakaana shuru kiya hai...ki kya yeh hoga toh woh aapke paas chali aayegi...yeh nahin hoga toh woh kya aapse shaadi karegi?
Yeh sirf aapki zidd hai aur yahi zidd aapko maayusi ke alawaa kuch nahin dega.
Apni zindagi jiye, uspe dhyaan de kyonki yahi sab baatein leke baithenge toh khud ki zindagi mein aage badhne ke mauke bhi aapko nazar nahin aayenge.
Aur jahaan tak aapse paise maangne ki baat hai, toh use yeh toh zaroor pataa hai ki aap usse pyaar karte hain aur uski koi baat ko taalenge nahin...Toh paise ke liye manaa kaise karenge...Yeh jaan le ki woh aapse pyaar nahin karti aur jitni jaldi is baat ko maan lenge aap khule dil se jee paayenge. Naye dost banaye, nayi anubhavon ko aapnaaye; yeh sab tab hoga jab aap is kisse ko dimaag se hataa lenge...koshish kijiye...

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 22, 2025Hindi
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I am a 31-year-old woman, married for 5 years, with a 3-year-old daughter and a 1-year-old son. I got married in 2019 at the age of 26, while my husband was 28. Both of us are entrepreneurs and have been running a coal business. Unfortunately, when COVID hit in 2020, our business faced significant challenges, and we have struggled to recover since then. As a result, we moved in with my in-laws. During this transition, I had my daughter and son. We've been actively trying to start a new business, but it hasn't quite come together yet. My husband recently found a job that he loves, although it doesn't pay well enough to allow us to move out. He seems content in this position because it's close to home and aligns with his passion. However, I feel frustrated because when I suggest he look for a higher-paying job to improve our situation, he is hesitant since he’s focused on pursuing what he loves. Living with my in-laws has been challenging, as our relationship has had its difficulties from the start. I'm concerned that they are unintentionally affecting my children's perspective on parenting, and they aren't able to care for the kids regularly so I can explore job opportunities, including remote work. I often feel trapped and hopeless but recognize that leaving this situation isn’t viable financially. Returning to live with my parents is also not an option due to the complicated dynamics there. Despite these challenges, I want to find a way to navigate my feelings of isolation and make progress. I would appreciate any advice or constructive suggestions on how to improve our situation and create a more supportive environment for my family and myself. Thank you.
Ans: Hello mam
I am sorry to hear about the loss your business made in covid. That time was a real challange for all of us.
Lets focus on your problem now. Mam, as now you are living with your in laws, I am sure your husband must be feeling bery secure and happy. But you may have some challanges. Diffrence of opinion always occur in joint families specially when parenting of kids are involved coz they want to raise your kids according to them which can sometime create conflicts Between the family members. Tou can discuss the matter with your husband without blaming anyone and then with his help you can talk to your in laws to support a little bit so that you can also search further for a job. This will increase your satisfaction level and you ll be happy in your family.
Think about it and try this out. I am sure it will work. Plz do tell me your feedback. Take care !
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Dr Upneet kaur
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