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Saroj Question by Saroj on Nov 30, 2023Hindi
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Hi , I am married have a kid and staying happily. My brother-in-law married 3 year back .Now the problem is my brother-in-law and her wife does not have baby. They both consult doctor and the doctor told that my brother-in-law is not capable of produce child. They did not disclose this to any body. Recently I have visited my in law home .My brother-in-law wife's explain this to me. She told me that we need your help (In details she told me that she want to do sex with me for a baby ) then suddenly i got shocked. I did not expect this thing from her. She told me that she already discuss with my brother-in-law regarding doing sex with me for a baby.my brother-in-law agree on that and told her that you only discuss . They are very depressed now. By seeing this sometime i feel that i will help them but the other side i feel that indirectly i am cheating my kid and wife. I am very much love with my kid and wife. So need your suggestion what will be better for me.

Ans: Dear Saroj,
It's understandable that you are facing a challenging and sensitive situation. Have an open and honest conversation with your brother-in-law and his wife. Discuss your concerns and the potential impact on your own family. Make sure all parties involved fully understand the emotional and ethical complexities of such a decision. Reflect on your own values and beliefs. Consider how this decision may align with your principles and the impact it might have on your relationships with your wife and child Think about the potential long-term consequences for all parties involved. This includes the emotional impact on your own family, as well as the potential challenges and dynamics that may arise if a child is born as a result of this arrangement. Discuss the situation with your spouse. Open communication is crucial in a marriage. Share your thoughts, feelings, and concerns, and consider how your spouse feels about the proposal. Explore other options for your brother-in-law and his wife, such as adoption or alternative fertility treatments. These options may provide a way for them to achieve their goal without creating potential complications within your own family. Remember, it's essential to prioritize the well-being of your own family while also approaching the situation with empathy and understanding. Take the time to carefully weigh the potential outcomes and make a decision that aligns with your values and the best interests of everyone involved. If needed, seek professional guidance to navigate through this complex and sensitive situation.
Asked on - Nov 30, 2023 | Answered on Nov 30, 2023
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Hi Madam, The suggestion you have provided (such as adoption or alternative fertility treatments.) they are not at all agreed , they are afraid of the society what people will think abt them as they are stay in village and not much educate. Even they told me that they may end their life if they became child less. So i am so tensed , for that reasons i am not able to concentrated my daily life and work. and the other think the discussion with my wife i do not have courage to talk this think to her.
Ans: in this scenario i would suggest you to take some professional help (consulting some counsellor or therapist) as this will help to navigate your emotions and confusions on personal note i still recommend sharing details with your wife as not telling her and keeping secrets in your marriage is not great sign.
Asked on - Dec 02, 2023 | Answered on Dec 04, 2023
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Hi mam, I had discussed all this with my wife. She told me that she knows there problem. Brother in law wife already discussed all this with my wife briefly. I mean she knows it's before but not shared with me at all not a hint. And also taking help from me .my wife suggest her that she will approach to me . So I am in shock all this thing is running behind on with me. Even my wife did not even disagree with them. I mean she is agree with the intimacy of me with her for a baby. Now I am more confused. Whom to trust. What I will do.
Ans: Try to share your concern with your wife that how her behaviour ( knowing everything since beginning and not sharing with you) has effected you and your trust in the relation try to be more understanding rather then putting allegations on her and then explain her how this decision can impact life of you both including your child try to convenience your wife to talk to your brother in law and his wife about considering other options like surrogacy or adoption for harmony in the family. try talking to her on terms i mentioned above

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I have second marriage and staying 9 years. Now my age is 50 years, and my wife age is 40. I have one child years of years 6. I am in a managerial Position in a company. My wife is a Housewife and her behavior's, misconduct, lack of ownership towards me as well as home is always upset and irritate me. My child was born by IFV method due to her irregular period. She has got many opportunities to recover this problem and treatment also got an early-stage life. Due to lack of her understanding and knowledge, lack of own effort, irresponsible and liar nature, did not overcome her problem and therefore, we cannot go for second baby. Now me and my son also suffer from 2nd baby, though I have sufficient resource to look two children. I need to monitor all the things of my son’s health, extracurricular activity, education etc. She also neglects my mother. I feel she is very quality less and very dirty woman and talking valueless, not concern with health of own as well as other family member. Therefore, I and my wife staying in same home, but from last 4 years I have been separated from my wife and living in separate room. Sometimes I think to separate from my wife, but it may affect relation with my son as well as his mental condition. I am trying to adopt a second child also. I found she is not concern with quality, health, and economy. Therefore, I need to do home marketing, finance, monitoring home, health etc. which has already affected at my career also. Please advise me what to do? I feel my future is very dark with my wife. No emotions, no love and intimacy in the relation. I do regular walking & jogging and gardening is also my hobby.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
When you seem to have decided that your wife is not going to change, no matter what happens, you will not be able to see that change. Everything about her will be irritating and annoying.
Now you say that she could have done something to avoid IVF, but why are you not thankful that you have a child now.
Having another child as well has to be the choice of both parents. Does your wife want another baby? Just by having money to support the child is not enough. You also need to have the mental and physical ability and willingness to raise another child. Also, do you think it is wise to have another child with the current relationship challenges with your wife?
There seems to be some assumptions that you have made about your wife which could have happened due to misunderstandings and arguments over years. It is definitely from both sides. But since, you are writing in...I can only address your concerns...Obviously her lack of interest in the family also suggests that she also seems to have her challenges.
So, before anything else...first work on having a better marriage and this is a suggestion for both of you! You can eat the fruit from a tree without first planting the seed for the tree to grow.

Seek the help of a professional if you can so that both of you can first learn how to communicate with each other and then settles your differences and then you can start planning a brighter future. Continue with your exercise and always try to look for what's positive in your life. It helps to tide over challenges and have a better outlook towards life!

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Hello madam, I am 41 year old , married , my wife also same age have a daughter 4 year old. I lost my parent in the earlier age that i did not remember (when i was around 5 to 6 year old ) .After that i am grown up by my distance relative(which is now my in-law family).In my in law family only my mother in law and 2 daughter (One my wife and other my sister in law (un married , 35 year now ). So now i am staying in in law home only as i do not have any body apart from them. They are very loyal to me and take care very much as i told i am staying from childhood. I married around 10 year back and my wife first delivery is so complex one. Our doctor advice not to be proceed with any more pregnancy , it may harm her life. now mom-in-law, wife both telling me that get married to sister-in-law (just informally) I mean they want a baby by me and sister-in-law . because she is 35 year old now for make a family. sister-in-law she also agreed .frankly speaking i have physical relationship with my sister in law and the my wife knew that and she does not have any problem(she is not active in physical relation as her body is not supporting ). So need your advice in this case.
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What are you all a part of' a circus? So, if your wife might not be able to have a baby again, you are asked to marry your sister-in-law and have a baby with her? And oh, you have a physical relationship with her as well? What exactly is going on?

Marrying another person when your first marriage is still very much alive is not recognized by the Hindu Marriage Act. Informally marrying? What is this, some kind of a movie that you are all trying to enact? So, just because your wife is not physically active, you are trying to justify as to why you need to sleep with another woman just because your in-laws want it?

Please grow up all of you...move out of your in-laws house and make your own home and your family so that this intermingling does not disturb your marriage and especially your child. You DO NOT (if you are) need to feel obligated towards your in-laws because they raised you. This is not the way you need to repay them...Get a hold of your life!

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I am a second year mechanical engineering student ,wanted to do any certification courses along with my degree...can you suggest a certification course for mechanical engineering students?
Ans: Certainly! Pursuing certification courses alongside your mechanical engineering degree can enhance your skills and increase your employability. Courses in computer-aided design (CAD), computer-aided manufacturing (CAM), and computer-aided engineering (CAE) software are highly valuable for mechanical engineers. Certifications in software like AutoCAD, SolidWorks, CATIA, ANSYS, or Siemens NX can improve your proficiency in design, analysis, and manufacturing processes. Project management skills are essential for engineering professionals, especially those involved in planning and executing projects. Certifications such as Project Management Professional (PMP) or PRINCE2 can provide you with the knowledge and techniques needed to effectively manage engineering projects. Six Sigma is a methodology aimed at improving processes by reducing defects and variation. Obtaining a Six Sigma certification, such as Green Belt or Black Belt, demonstrates your proficiency in process improvement techniques, which can be beneficial for a career in manufacturing, quality assurance, or operations management. FEA is a numerical technique used to analyze the behavior of structures and mechanical components under various loading conditions. A certification course in FEA, focusing on software like ANSYS, Abaqus, or MSC Nastran, can enhance your analytical skills and understanding of structural mechanics. Courses focusing on manufacturing processes such as machining, welding, casting, or additive manufacturing (3D printing) can provide you with hands-on experience and knowledge of different manufacturing techniques used in industry. Industry 4.0 encompasses technologies like IoT, AI, robotics, and data analytics applied to manufacturing processes. Courses or certifications focusing on these emerging technologies can give you a competitive edge in the rapidly evolving field of smart manufacturing.

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What is the future of manufacturing industry in India in coming years
Ans: The Indian government has launched various initiatives such as "Make in India," "Atmanirbhar Bharat," and the Production Linked Incentive (PLI) scheme to boost domestic manufacturing, attract foreign investment, and promote the production of goods locally. These initiatives aim to enhance the competitiveness of Indian manufacturing on a global scale; hence, the future of the manufacturing industry in India appears promising, with several factors contributing to its growth potential. Ongoing investments in infrastructure development, including the construction of industrial corridors, logistics parks, and smart manufacturing hubs, are expected to improve connectivity, reduce logistics costs, and enhance the ease of doing business for manufacturers. The increasing adoption of advanced technologies such as automation, robotics, artificial intelligence (AI), and the Internet of Things (IoT) is driving efficiency, productivity, and innovation in the manufacturing sector. This technological transformation is helping Indian manufacturers compete more effectively in the global market. The Indian government has identified several key sectors, such as electronics, automotive, pharmaceuticals, aerospace, and renewable energy, for targeted growth and investment. These sectors offer significant potential for value addition, job creation, and export growth in the manufacturing industry. India's large and growing population, expanding middle class, and rising disposable incomes are driving domestic demand for manufactured goods across various sectors. Meeting this demand presents opportunities for both domestic and foreign manufacturers operating in India. The COVID-19 pandemic highlighted the risks associated with over-reliance on a few countries for supply chain operations. Many companies are now looking to diversify their supply chains and explore alternative manufacturing destinations, such as India. This presents an opportunity for India to attract investment and become an integral part of global supply chains. 

However, to fully realize its potential, the Indian manufacturing industry must address certain challenges, including infrastructure bottlenecks, regulatory complexities, skill shortages, and the need for greater ease of doing business. Additionally, there is a growing emphasis on sustainability and environmental responsibility, which manufacturers need to integrate into their operations to remain competitive in the long term.

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