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Married for 2.5 years to a man with bad habits, no morality, and financial problems. Should I leave him and care for my brother?

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 18, 2024Hindi
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Hi , I am married 2.5 years ago to a man , who is very less in education compared to me , this marriage was done as a compromise or in worries about my future as my parents are no more .. He and his family is average in all case ..cleanliness, hygeiene , social relations, religious practices , education , self respect , financial well being ... all these things are either meaningless for them or they vary poor in those . Nor even they have moral values , as they have cheated me by hiding my husband's age to me . I told them that we strongly believe in astrology and will not go without it . Still they gave me wrong information about his age and he is very elder to me .As I am well educated , employed and self dependant. So they somehow trapped me for marriage. After 3-4 months of marriage my husband was diagnosed (a type of oral cancer) caused due to consuming gutkha and ciggarettes. He lied and denied to have any disease still i started his medication . In some time I lost my job also still continued his treatment , tried to help him in his business , it made a big impact on my sqving too :( But because of his careless business practice , it didnt work for him. Also I paid many times his car's EMI . And supported in all types of expenses be it house hold , his medication or business . He has parental properties in village but they are hardly using it for their own use and wanted to use my money till now . As I now denied to give more money , now they have started looking to sell or rent / lease their property for their use . I have spent lot of money on them , I hardly believe they will try to pay it out fully to me or give some part of property for my safe future now :( I am now 43 and have no children . At other hand my brother is also alone( even being his wife and 2 sons) Wife is quarrelsome and has a history of false case of dowry on my brother and due to this my brother and my family sufferered a lot , its been 20 years now . But this has tortured my brother me and my mother a lot in past .Sis-in-law never let my nephews to stay or sit for some time with us (me or my mother ). And now as my both nephews have grown up my sis-in-law told them lie as if she was victim and , we were the culprit . Children were innocent , they didnt knew the fact , hence taking mother's side now. I thought that as my sis-in-law doesn't like us so unwillingly I decided to marry with a compromise , thinking that after my marriage all will be fine in brother's home , But nothing improved. And now my brother , after my marriage is emotionally alone at home , I feel very sorry about this . I want to go back and take care of my brother , as now he is 53 and emotionally very weak , diabetic and suffering other disease too . Sis-in-law is least interested in his health , care .. so as her children. Going back to parental (it is my father's home, so i also have legal right on that property )home and leaving husband is not so easy, .. Elder Nephew and sis-in-law can become very violent as they are always . I dont want to endanger my brother's health and if I dont go then also .. brother is taking care of him alone ..that too very casually ..how can i make all things correct . Please suggest .

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Hello! Excuse me...
Take care of yourself first before trying to save someone else.
Your brother is a grown man and knows what is to be done. Allow him to process his life's situations. By stepping into it especially in your state of mind will make things worse. Also, if you want guidance on this, kindly post another question else it will get confusing for all of us here.

First think of what you must do to make things better for yourself. Ask yourself whether you are interested in continuing the marriage. A lot of your time, money and energy has been invested in it and based on a lie. You have no clue what else they have lied about...do you want a marriage that is standing on a bed of lies? is it possible for you to trust your husband and his family all over again? What can they do so that you place trust in them again?

If this is not possible, the you are in a place where you need to make decisions about your marriage and your life in general.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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I hope things are better for you now. I have answered your question on July 22 itself...You may copy paste the link below on your browser to view the answer:
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Please keep this anonymous I am married for last 12 years and I have a daughter. After marriage I lost my father and he was 70. I have a mother and we have a house with two floors that my father constructed. I am well educated and earn well. I am 42 now. After 4 years into marriage I suffered from cancer and suffered for 2 years with treatment and surgery. Still I managed to work and earn for my family and continued to work. After I fought cancer completely and did not have any cancer left in me. I am doing fine supporting my family. My wife and inlaws started accusing me of dowry constantly there after because I am a cancer survivor and there is no guarantee of my life and I may die any moment or my illness may take me away anytime. I am working and still providing for my wife and daughter from clothing, schooling, rent, food, recreation, trips. My wife does not spend even a little for family. She hoards all the money. My mother is a widow and she gets some pension and my wife stops me from giving money to my mother. My inlaws and my wife harassed me & my mother for the house asking to give the entire house. I have another brother and sister who are also entitled to own my father's property but my inlaws and wife harass me for full claim of my father property because I fell ill. This has been constantly faced by me in the last 10 years into my marriage. I am out of my illness and I am leading a normal life for last 8 years. I also safeguarded my wife and my daughter by purchasing a property of 2 crores from the money that I earned and have given full control of the property to my wife. Still my wife and inlaws behave the same that I may die anytime and they are always behind my mother's house for complete will and ownership. I am tired of all this, even during my illness, i supported myself financially and with my savings. I have worked for 20+ years and I have spent all my earnings and savings and purchased a 2 crore land property for my wife and daughter's future. I also have health issues and medical expenses for which I have no money left or savings left. My inlaws are rich and own 2 commercial complex which gives them about 2Lac rent per month. I have never asked for them for any financial help but still they are behind me and my family for money and property which all seems too much harassment for me. I need to save money for my daughter's education and marriage. Or I am telling my wife that we can use the property that I have made for her education and marriage but she does not agree and asks me to construct a new house worth 50Lac and again she does not want to pitch in and contribute. Can you guide me on how should I handle this financial committment that never seems to end inspite of giving off everything I have to them ?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
The fact that you are sharing your story which is indeed sad tells me that you know what must be done but are hesitating to do it.
When there is no respect in a marriage and for the spouse and his needs and the issue has become money and to attain that money at all costs, that is not a marriage anymore. It only speaks of selfishness.
You are right in protecting your interests and that of your daughter. So, time to toughen up and say NO to your wife and her family. It may seem harsh to them at first, but be very assertive. You have the right to plan your finances especially when family around you have begun to act like predators.
So taking a loan is only going to bleed your finances more and if you are convinced you don't want to do that, then please don't.
Yes, there will be arguments and big fights, but do what is right by you and for you. It may seem selfish but it is only self-care and self-love. This should also help you become fitter physically and emotionally to lead a better quality life.

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Please keep my question anonymous I am married for last 12 years and I have a daughter. After marriage I lost my father and he was 70. I have a mother and we have a house with two floors that my father constructed. I am well educated and earn well. I am 42 now. After 4 years into marriage I suffered from cancer and suffered for 2 years with treatment and surgery. Still I managed to work and earn for my family and continued to work. After I fought cancer completely and did not have any cancer left in me. I am doing fine supporting my family. My wife and inlaws started accusing me of dowry constantly there after because I am a cancer survivor and there is no guarantee of my life and I may die any moment or my illness may take me away anytime. I am working and still providing for my wife and daughter from clothing, schooling, rent, food, recreation, trips. My wife does not spend even a little for family. She hoards all the money. My mother is a widow and she gets some pension and my wife stops me from giving money to my mother. My inlaws and my wife harassed me & my mother for the house asking to give the entire house. I have another brother and sister who are also entitled to own my father's property but my inlaws and wife harass me for full claim of my father property because I fell ill. This has been constantly faced by me in the last 10 years into my marriage. I am out of my illness and I am leading a normal life for last 8 years. I also safeguarded my wife and my daughter by purchasing a property of 2 crores from the money that I earned and have given full control of the property to my wife. Still my wife and inlaws behave the same that I may die anytime and they are always behind my mother's house for complete will and ownership. I am tired of all this, even during my illness, i supported myself financially and with my savings. I have worked for 20+ years and I have spent all my earnings and savings and purchased a 2 crore land property for my wife and daughter's future. I also have health issues and medical expenses for which I have no money left or savings left. My inlaws are rich and own 2 commercial complex which gives them about 2Lac rent per month. I have never asked for them for any financial help but still they are behind me and my family for money and property which all seems too much harassment for me. I need to save money for my daughter's education and marriage. Or I am telling my wife that we can use the property that I have made for her education and marriage but she does not agree and asks me to construct a new house worth 50Lac and again she does not want to pitch in and contribute. Can you guide me on how should I handle this financial committment that never seems to end inspite of giving off everything I have to them ?
Ans: I'm sorry to hear about the difficult situation you're facing with your wife and in-laws. It's clear that you have been through a lot, including battling cancer and overcoming financial challenges to support your family. It's important to remember that you deserve support and understanding from your spouse and in-laws during these trying times.

Here are some suggestions on how to handle this ongoing financial commitment and the issues you're facing:

Open communication: Have an honest and open conversation with your wife about your financial situation, your concerns, and the importance of working together as a team. Explain the financial constraints you are facing due to your health issues and medical expenses. Ensure that she understands the importance of planning for your daughter's education and future.
Seek professional advice: If necessary, consult with a financial advisor or a family counselor to mediate the discussions and help find a resolution. A neutral third party might be able to provide insights and suggestions to manage the financial matters more effectively.
Legal consultation: Since there are disputes over property and ownership, it might be wise to consult with a lawyer to understand your rights and options related to your father's property. They can help you navigate the legal aspects and protect your interests.
Support from extended family: Reach out to your brother and sister for support and understanding during these challenging times. They may be able to provide emotional and even financial support to help you and your mother.
Set boundaries: Clearly communicate with your wife and in-laws about your expectations and boundaries. Make it clear that you won't tolerate harassment or demands that are unfair or unreasonable.
Financial planning: If possible, create a financial plan for your daughter's education and future needs. Discuss with your wife how you can contribute together to achieve these goals, considering your current financial constraints.
Seek support for yourself: Going through so much stress can be emotionally draining. Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor to help you cope with the situation and manage your emotions.
Stay strong and assertive: Remember that you have been through a lot and have worked hard to provide for your family. Stay assertive in protecting your interests while maintaining respect and empathy.
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I am 39 and married for 11 years now, my husband doesn't support me financially at all. My salary is more than him but I bought house my own and paying all EMIS, looking for all household expenses and also paying school fees and other expenses for my son. My husband looks after only his parents, spend all money on them. Earlier we used to live together in inlaws house but they have spending habits for luxury, cloths, food etc even though my husband earns very less and my father in law retired with no income they were not ready to compromise on their spending habits. Whatever they had received after their retirement they entirety spent on their daughters marriages with no money left. When I got married they asked for my salary and used to give them. Mine and my husband salary was not enough for them so they sold house without informing me, I insisted them to buy at least small house but did not agree and kept on spending money on their lavish life, foreign trips, food, cloths etc. also helped daughters to buy house, maintenance and their childrens study. But did not let their son live life as ask him to pay rent for their house, household and maintenance expenses and they spend their money on their own luxury. They asked for my salary even though they have money and just spending for luxury and not even thinking for our future. When I denied to give salary, they asked me leave their house and made me difficult to live with them doing harrasment and taunts so I decided to leave and buy new house.Now I am living with my son separately, when my husband came to know about my new house he came to stay with us by not even paying single rupee to me. I asked him several time for money he only pays one or two thousand saying I don't have money at all to give you. Not taking care of son, his studies, school fees, do not help me in anything. My in laws keep doing his brain wash against me so that he will not support me financially or anyway. He always listens to his parents and sisters. There is no husband wife relationship at all between us. Not sure how to deal with it.
Ans: First, recognize and honor the strength it has taken to come this far. Buying a home, raising your son, and managing the weight of these challenges on your own are significant accomplishments that reflect your resilience and determination. That said, a marriage is meant to be a partnership, and it’s clear that your husband’s lack of financial contribution and emotional support has created an imbalance that’s unsustainable.

It’s important to look at the patterns in your relationship with clarity. Your husband’s decisions seem to be heavily influenced by his family, and this loyalty, while not inherently wrong, appears to come at the expense of his commitment to you and your shared responsibilities. The fact that he contributes so little financially and emotionally while benefiting from your efforts shows a lack of fairness and respect in the relationship. His parents’ behavior and expectations have added further strain, undermining your marriage and creating an environment of resentment.

You may want to consider having a clear and honest conversation with your husband. Express how his actions—or lack thereof—are impacting you and your son. Frame the conversation not as a confrontation but as a plea for understanding and change. However, if he remains unwilling to acknowledge or address these issues, it’s worth reflecting on what staying in this relationship means for your emotional well-being and future.

Seeking professional support, such as individual counseling, can provide you with a safe space to explore your feelings, gain clarity, and develop strategies for managing this situation. A legal consultation might also be helpful to understand your rights and options, especially if you’re considering separation or seeking financial accountability from your husband for your son’s needs.

Above all, focus on what you need to feel secure, respected, and fulfilled—not just as a wife, but as a person. Your son is observing how you handle these challenges, and by prioritizing your well-being and standing up for fairness, you’re also modeling strength and self-respect for him. Whatever steps you decide to take, trust in your ability to make decisions that align with your dignity and values. You deserve a life where your efforts are met with partnership and mutual care.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 11, 2025Hindi
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I am 34 Year old I am debt free, I have emergency fund of 5 lac in FD and my mutual fund corpus is 16 lac and stock is 1 lac and PF valued around 12 lac I am investing in mutual fund 55 k out of 70% is on large cap and 20% in mid cap and 10% in small cap fund I want to rebalance and achieve my goal of one 1 crore corpus in next 3 year please suggest where and what and how much I need to invest to achieve this short term goal
Ans: You have a well-structured financial base with Rs. 16 lakh in mutual funds, Rs. 1 lakh in stocks, Rs. 12 lakh in PF, and Rs. 5 lakh in FDs. Achieving Rs. 1 crore in 3 years is challenging but feasible with focused efforts.

Step 1: Assess Your Current Portfolio
1. Mutual Fund Allocation

70% in large-cap, 20% in mid-cap, and 10% in small-cap funds.
This allocation is conservative for a short-term aggressive goal.
2. Emergency Fund

Rs. 5 lakh in FD ensures liquidity for emergencies.
No need to divert this fund towards your goal.
3. Stock Portfolio

Rs. 1 lakh in stocks is a small percentage of your portfolio.
This provides minimal impact on your overall returns.
4. PF Balance

Rs. 12 lakh in PF is stable but offers limited growth potential.
Avoid touching this as it’s meant for long-term goals.
Step 2: Define Investment Strategy for Rs. 1 Crore
1. Target Corpus and Existing Assets

Your existing corpus: Rs. 34 lakh (MF: 16 lakh, Stocks: 1 lakh, PF: 12 lakh, FD: 5 lakh).
Required growth: Rs. 66 lakh in 3 years.
2. Achieving 3-Year Target

Focus on higher growth from equity and tactical allocation in debt.
Short-term goals need a careful balance of risk and returns.
Step 3: Portfolio Rebalancing
1. Increase Mid and Small-Cap Allocation

Mid-cap and small-cap funds have higher growth potential.
Increase their combined allocation to 40%-50%.
Reduce large-cap allocation to 50%-60%.
2. Add a Tactical Debt Component

Allocate 10%-15% of your portfolio to debt for stability.
Use short-term debt funds or ultra-short-term funds.
Avoid long-term bonds as they are interest rate sensitive.
3. Retain Equity Focus

Equity should remain the primary driver of growth.
Choose actively managed funds with consistent performance.
Step 4: Adjust Monthly Investment
1. Increase SIP Contribution

Your current SIP: Rs. 55,000 monthly.
To achieve Rs. 1 crore, increase it to Rs. 75,000 monthly.
2. Break Down SIPs

Large-cap: Rs. 37,500 (50%).
Mid-cap: Rs. 22,500 (30%).
Small-cap: Rs. 7,500 (10%).
Debt funds: Rs. 7,500 (10%).
3. Top-Up SIPs Annually

Increase your SIP contributions by 10%-15% annually.
This ensures alignment with your goal despite market volatility.
Step 5: Use Lump Sum Strategically
1. Existing Corpus

Retain Rs. 5 lakh in FDs as an emergency reserve.
Redeploy Rs. 16 lakh mutual fund corpus into rebalanced SIPs.
2. Additional Investment

If you receive bonuses or windfall income, invest in equity funds.
Avoid timing the market; invest immediately or in tranches.
Step 6: Tax Planning
1. Plan Withdrawals for Tax Efficiency

Equity LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
Plan withdrawals to minimise tax liabilities.
2. Avoid Frequent Debt Fund Redemptions

Debt fund returns are taxed as per your income tax slab.
Limit redemptions to avoid higher tax impact.
Step 7: Monitor Performance
1. Review Quarterly

Track the performance of your mutual funds every quarter.
Replace underperforming funds promptly.
2. Seek Expert Guidance

Work with a Certified Financial Planner for fund selection and rebalancing.
Professional advice ensures goal alignment and risk mitigation.
Step 8: Manage Risks
1. Avoid Overexposure to Small-Cap

Small-cap funds can be volatile.
Limit their allocation to 10%-15%.
2. Use Diversification

Diversify across fund houses and sectors.
This reduces risks associated with a single market segment.
3. Do Not Depend on Direct Funds

Direct funds lack professional guidance.
Regular funds with CFP assistance provide better support.
Step 9: Discipline and Consistency
1. Stay Invested

Avoid panic during market corrections.
Short-term fluctuations do not affect long-term goals.
2. Maintain Investment Discipline

Continue SIPs even during market downturns.
Consistency ensures wealth creation over time.
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Your Rs. 1 crore target in 3 years is achievable.

Rebalance your portfolio to include more mid-cap and small-cap funds.

Increase your SIP to Rs. 75,000 and top it up annually.

Monitor performance regularly and make data-driven adjustments.

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How I should I generate 75000 per month income increasing at 5 % every year with mix of equity and debt.
Ans: Understand Your Financial Goal
You need Rs. 75,000 monthly income in the first year.
The income should increase by 5% annually to combat inflation.
A mix of equity and debt investments can help achieve this goal.
Step 1: Estimate Required Corpus
Calculate the corpus required to generate Rs. 75,000 per month.
Consider safe withdrawal rates for long-term sustainability.
Include the impact of 5% annual increase in income needs.
Step 2: Allocation Between Equity and Debt
1. Equity for Growth

Allocate 60%-70% of your corpus to equity mutual funds.
Equity helps combat inflation and grows your wealth over time.
Choose a mix of large-cap, flexi-cap, and mid-cap funds for diversification.
2. Debt for Stability

Allocate 30%-40% of your corpus to debt mutual funds.
Debt investments provide stability and regular income.
Consider short-term bond funds or corporate bond funds for steady returns.
Step 3: Use a Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP)
1. Regular Monthly Income

Use SWP from mutual funds to get Rs. 75,000 monthly.
SWP lets you withdraw fixed amounts periodically from your investments.
2. Manage Inflation Adjustment

Increase the SWP amount by 5% every year.
This ensures your income keeps pace with rising costs.
3. Tax Efficiency

Equity SWPs are more tax-efficient due to favourable capital gains taxation.
Long-term capital gains (LTCG) above Rs. 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.
Debt fund SWPs are taxed as per your income tax slab.
Step 4: Portfolio Rebalancing
1. Maintain Allocation Ratio

Rebalance your portfolio every year to maintain equity and debt allocation.
Sell over-performing assets and reinvest in under-performing ones.
2. Reduce Risk Gradually

Shift more funds to debt as you age or near your financial goal.
This safeguards your principal while ensuring stable returns.
Step 5: Choosing the Right Funds
1. Actively Managed Equity Funds

Avoid index funds as they don’t offer active performance management.
Actively managed funds can generate better returns in dynamic markets.
2. Professional Guidance for Fund Selection

Regular plans with Certified Financial Planner guidance are beneficial.
Direct funds lack expert support, leading to potential missteps.
3. Debt Funds for Predictable Returns

Short-term and corporate bond funds are good options for debt allocation.
Avoid riskier debt funds to preserve capital.
Step 6: Emergency Reserve and Insurance
1. Emergency Fund

Set aside six months of expenses as an emergency reserve.
Keep this fund in liquid or ultra-short-term debt funds for quick access.
2. Adequate Insurance

Ensure you have adequate health and life insurance coverage.
This safeguards your family from financial burdens in unforeseen situations.
Step 7: Periodic Review and Monitoring
1. Annual Portfolio Review

Review your portfolio’s performance annually with a Certified Financial Planner.
Check if your income and growth objectives are on track.
2. Adjust for Market Changes

Adjust SWP amounts or reallocate investments based on market trends.
Ensure the portfolio remains aligned with your financial goals.
Step 8: Tax Planning
1. Plan Withdrawals to Minimise Tax

Limit withdrawals from equity funds to stay under LTCG exemption limits.
For debt funds, structure withdrawals to reduce tax impact.
2. Invest in Tax-Saving Instruments

If eligible, invest in tax-saving mutual funds (ELSS) for additional benefits.
This adds to your wealth creation while reducing tax liability.
Step 9: Long-Term Wealth Creation
1. Retain Growth Component

Avoid withdrawing the entire equity growth.
Let a part of the equity investment compound over time.
2. Build a Legacy

Ensure your investments are structured to pass on wealth to heirs.
Use nominations and wills to simplify inheritance.
Finally
Generating Rs. 75,000 monthly income with a 5% annual increase is achievable.

A balanced mix of equity and debt ensures growth and stability.

Regular review, disciplined withdrawal, and expert guidance will keep you on track.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 10, 2025Hindi
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Is i can change my invest money by smart wealth builder to mutual fund...after locking in 5 years
Ans: Current Situation
You have invested in the Smart Wealth Builder.
It has a mandatory lock-in period of five years.
You wish to explore shifting to mutual funds post-lock-in.
This decision needs thoughtful evaluation of costs, benefits, and alignment with your goals.

Step 1: Evaluate the Smart Wealth Builder Policy
1. Lock-In Period Completion

Check if the mandatory five-year lock-in period is over.
Policies often penalise premature exits.
2. Charges Involved

Review surrender charges if applicable after the lock-in.
Account for fund management and administrative fees.
3. Returns Analysis

Compare the policy's actual returns with mutual fund performance.
ULIPs often give moderate returns due to higher charges.
4. Tax Benefits Consideration

Ensure the tax implications of surrendering the policy.
Tax exemptions under Section 10(10D) apply only after specific conditions.
Step 2: Why Consider Mutual Funds?
1. Better Returns Potential

Mutual funds, especially equity funds, often outperform ULIPs.
Long-term compounding generates wealth more effectively.
2. Lower Charges

ULIPs have higher charges compared to mutual funds.
Mutual funds offer a more cost-effective growth opportunity.
3. Investment Flexibility

Mutual funds allow switching across schemes without high penalties.
You can easily diversify into equity, debt, and hybrid funds.
4. Transparency and Liquidity

Mutual funds disclose fund performance regularly.
Withdrawals are easier with no long lock-in periods.
Step 3: Transitioning to Mutual Funds
1. Plan Post-Surrender Strategy

Use the surrender value to create a diversified mutual fund portfolio.
Divide funds into equity, debt, and hybrid categories for balance.
2. Start with Systematic Investments

If the surrender value is significant, use Systematic Transfer Plans (STP).
Gradually transfer money into equity funds for risk management.
3. Choose Actively Managed Funds

Actively managed funds outperform passive funds like index funds.
Certified Financial Planners can guide you on selecting suitable schemes.
4. Taxation Considerations

Equity funds have favourable tax treatment over the long term.
Long-term capital gains above Rs. 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.
Debt funds follow your income tax slab for taxation.
Step 4: Steps for a Balanced Mutual Fund Portfolio
1. Equity Funds for Growth

Invest a major portion in diversified equity mutual funds.
Choose large-cap, mid-cap, and flexi-cap funds for better returns.
2. Debt Funds for Stability

Allocate a portion to debt mutual funds for low-risk returns.
Use short-term or corporate bond funds for this purpose.
3. Hybrid Funds for Balance

Hybrid funds offer a mix of equity and debt investments.
They provide stability while giving moderate growth.
Step 5: Benefits of Regular Funds with a Certified Financial Planner
1. Professional Guidance

Regular plans come with Certified Financial Planner support.
This ensures the selection of high-performing funds tailored to your goals.
2. Better Tracking and Management

Certified Financial Planners help monitor and rebalance portfolios.
They ensure your investments align with changing market trends.
3. Avoid Direct Funds Pitfalls

Direct funds lack personalised guidance, which could lead to wrong decisions.
Regular plans, with expert advice, offer better long-term benefits.
Step 6: Secure Other Financial Aspects
1. Build Emergency Reserves

Allocate a portion of the surrender value to an emergency fund.
This ensures financial security for unexpected events.
2. Review Life Insurance Needs

If you surrender the ULIP, ensure adequate term life insurance.
Term plans provide higher coverage at a lower cost.
3. Create Education and Retirement Goals

Use mutual funds to build separate goals for your family’s future.
Equity funds are ideal for long-term goals like education and retirement.
Final Insights
Shifting from the Smart Wealth Builder to mutual funds can be rewarding.

Mutual funds offer better growth, lower costs, and greater flexibility.

Evaluate your ULIP's surrender terms carefully before transitioning.

Seek guidance from a Certified Financial Planner for an optimised strategy.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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I am 40 years old with net savings of 3k monthly. U haven’t invested in any MF or shares till date. My daughter will turn 6 next month. I want to safeguard her future studies and teenage. I have corpus savings of 1 lakh. Where to invest
Ans: Current Financial Snapshot
Age: 40 years.
Monthly Savings: Rs. 3,000.
Corpus Savings: Rs. 1 lakh.
Daughter’s Age: 6 years next month.
Goal: Secure funds for her studies and teenage needs.
Your current savings habit is commendable. Regular investments can grow into a solid corpus.

Step 1: Define Clear Financial Goals
1. Education Costs

Focus on accumulating funds for her higher education.
Estimate the cost for undergraduate and postgraduate studies.
2. Teenage Needs

Plan for school expenses and extracurricular activities.
Allocate funds separately for these milestones.
3. Emergency Fund

Maintain Rs. 50,000 as an emergency fund.
This ensures liquidity for unexpected situations.
Step 2: Start Investing Systematically
Use a Balanced Investment Approach
1. Equity Mutual Funds

Allocate 50% of your Rs. 1 lakh corpus (Rs. 50,000).
Invest monthly Rs. 2,000 into actively managed diversified funds.
Choose large-cap, multi-cap, and hybrid funds for stability.
Advantages of Actively Managed Funds

Professional fund managers aim for higher returns.
These funds adapt to market conditions.
Investing through a Certified Financial Planner ensures expert guidance.
Avoid Direct Funds

Direct funds lack personalised advice.
Regular funds give better support through a Certified Financial Planner.
2. Debt Mutual Funds

Allocate 30% of your corpus (Rs. 30,000).
Choose short-duration or corporate bond funds.
These funds provide safety and predictable returns.
3. Balanced Funds

Invest Rs. 20,000 from the corpus into balanced or hybrid funds.
These funds combine equity growth with debt stability.
Step 3: Leverage Government Schemes
1. Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana (SSY)

Open an SSY account for your daughter.
Invest Rs. 1,000 monthly for long-term, tax-free returns.
The scheme ensures her financial security.
2. Public Provident Fund (PPF)

Allocate Rs. 1,000 monthly to PPF for steady, risk-free growth.
Use it for your daughter’s education when needed.
Step 4: Build a Long-Term Plan
1. Increase Monthly Savings

Gradually increase savings to Rs. 5,000 or more.
Allocate additional income to investments.
2. Diversify Investment Portfolio

Add gold mutual funds later for diversification.
Gold offers protection against market volatility.
3. Review Investment Progress Regularly

Review portfolio performance every six months.
Adjust funds based on market conditions and goals.
Step 5: Avoid Common Pitfalls
1. Avoid Real Estate Investments

Real estate is illiquid and requires high capital.
It doesn’t align with your immediate goals.
2. Don’t Depend Solely on Fixed Deposits

Fixed deposits have limited returns.
Mutual funds can outperform fixed deposits over the long term.
3. Avoid High-Cost Insurance Policies

Skip ULIPs or endowment plans with low returns and high charges.
Choose term insurance for life coverage and invest the rest.
Step 6: Secure Adequate Health and Life Cover
1. Health Insurance

Ensure health insurance for your family.
Coverage should include yourself, your spouse, and your daughter.
2. Term Life Insurance

Get term insurance with coverage 15-20 times your annual income.
This secures your daughter’s future in case of unforeseen events.
Final Insights
Your steady savings habit is a great start.

Investing Rs. 1 lakh and Rs. 3,000 monthly can meet your daughter’s needs.

Use equity funds for growth and government schemes for safety.

Review progress regularly with a Certified Financial Planner.

This disciplined approach ensures a bright future for your daughter.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jan 10, 2025

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I am 58 years old working with salary of Rs.1.0 Lac monthly. Having 2 sons age 32 years and 18 years of age. Elder son is still to marry. Monthly expenses 50K, Having PPF : Rs. 35 Lacs, Retirement amount : Rs. 10-12 Lacs, PF Rs. 11 Lacs, Emergency fund : 10 Lacs, Medical policy : 15 Lacs, Rental income : 30000 from house and shop, Property : Flat worth 90 Lac, 1 shop worth 30 Lacs, Insurance : Sanchay plus - Premium of Rs. 1.5 Lacs till 2029 and will get 130000 from 2031 onwards, HDFC Pansion plan – pansion starts from 2026 as Rs. 26000 per year, HDFC SL Crest – funds accumulated 7 Lacs, Savings : RD in post office : Rs. 14 Lacs, Bank 5 Lacs, Medical policy : 15 Lacs. No Loan. How should I invest Rs. 1.1 Crores on selling of Flat to get Rs. 1.0 Lac monthly ? What should I do to have stable income in future with funds growing ?
Ans: Your Current Financial Position
Monthly Salary: Rs. 1 lakh.
Monthly Expenses: Rs. 50,000.
PPF: Rs. 35 lakhs.
Retirement Corpus: Rs. 10-12 lakhs.
PF: Rs. 11 lakhs.
Emergency Fund: Rs. 10 lakhs.
Rental Income: Rs. 30,000 per month.
Properties: Flat worth Rs. 90 lakhs and shop worth Rs. 30 lakhs.
Insurance: Sanchay Plus with Rs. 1.5 lakh annual premium and Rs. 1.3 lakh yearly return from 2031.
HDFC Pension Plan: Pension starts in 2026 at Rs. 26,000 per year.
HDFC SL Crest: Accumulated funds of Rs. 7 lakhs.
Savings: Rs. 14 lakhs in RD and Rs. 5 lakhs in the bank.
Medical Policy: Rs. 15 lakhs.
Future Asset: Rs. 1.1 crore from selling the flat.
You wish to generate Rs. 1 lakh per month from this amount while ensuring stability and growth.

Step 1: Create a Diversified Portfolio
Allocate Funds Across Asset Classes
1. Equity Mutual Funds

Allocate 40% of Rs. 1.1 crore (around Rs. 44 lakhs).
Focus on actively managed diversified funds.
Choose funds from large-cap, flexi-cap, and hybrid categories for stability.
Actively managed funds have expert oversight for better performance.
Advantages of Regular Funds

Regular funds involve guidance from Certified Financial Planners (CFP).
You benefit from professional advice and fund selection.
This ensures efficient fund allocation for your goals.
2. Debt Mutual Funds

Allocate 30% of Rs. 1.1 crore (around Rs. 33 lakhs).
Invest in funds with low to medium risk.
Focus on short-duration or corporate bond funds for stable returns.
Debt funds provide regular income and lower tax impact than fixed deposits.
3. Monthly Income Plan (MIP) Mutual Funds

Allocate 10% of Rs. 1.1 crore (around Rs. 11 lakhs).
These funds aim for steady payouts with moderate risk.
4. Senior Citizens' Savings Scheme (SCSS)

Invest Rs. 15 lakhs (maximum allowed).
This government-backed scheme ensures safety and decent returns.
Payouts can supplement monthly income.
5. Fixed Deposits in Small Finance Banks

Allocate Rs. 10 lakhs to higher-interest FDs in small finance banks.
This ensures liquidity and risk-free returns.
Step 2: Plan Monthly Withdrawals
Combine rental income and investment returns to meet your Rs. 1 lakh goal.
Use SWP (Systematic Withdrawal Plan) from mutual funds.
SWP allows you to withdraw monthly while the principal grows.
Rental income (Rs. 30,000) and SCSS payouts can cover basic needs.
Step 3: Evaluate Current Insurance Plans
1. Sanchay Plus

The annual premium of Rs. 1.5 lakh continues till 2029.
Returns of Rs. 1.3 lakh per year start in 2031.
This plan should be retained due to assured future income.
2. HDFC Pension Plan

Annual pension of Rs. 26,000 starts in 2026.
Retain the plan as it supplements your income.
3. HDFC SL Crest

Current accumulated fund value is Rs. 7 lakhs.
Surrender and reinvest this amount in mutual funds.
Mutual funds offer better growth potential over time.
Step 4: Emergency and Health Security
Keep Rs. 10 lakhs emergency fund intact.
Medical insurance of Rs. 15 lakhs is sufficient.
Ensure coverage for family members, including your younger son.
Step 5: Manage Future Milestones
1. Elder Son’s Marriage

Allocate Rs. 10-15 lakhs from existing RD and bank savings.
Avoid using investment corpus for this purpose.
2. Younger Son’s Education

Start a dedicated equity mutual fund SIP.
Use the PPF corpus of Rs. 35 lakhs when needed.
Tax Implications
Equity fund LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
Debt fund income is taxed per your slab.
Plan withdrawals to minimise tax liabilities.
Final Insights
Your current financial position is strong.

Selling your flat and investing Rs. 1.1 crore can provide Rs. 1 lakh monthly.

Ensure disciplined withdrawals and regular review of investments.

Retain essential insurance plans for future security.

A Certified Financial Planner can assist in monitoring your portfolio.

Focus on consistent income and long-term growth.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

...Read more

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