
Hi Anu,
My 24-year-old son (he is a Person-with-Benchmark-Disability with UDID registration) has mild ASD, Adult ADHD (leading to serious Executive Functioning Disorder) and a few PD traits causing significant difficulties in emotional regulation, impulsivity and perfectionism. They also cause serious relationship issues for him within our family (especially with the father probably as he is perceived as the authority figure to externalise blame on), in building and sustaining social relationships outside and so on, apart from many other challenges. You are aware far more than me:). He has been under medication and cognitive behavioural therapy for nearly 13 years now. Unfortunately he is not regular with medication. Frequency of ongoing online therapy sessions for the last few years has been once a week. The approach is therapeutic relationship building, and it seems to be working moderately well though the executive dysfunctionalities seriously interfere with his actual action-on-ground on the coping strategies / techniques / suggestions received or accepted. With all this, though difficult, he has managed his life well so far with support from family, school and so on. He is intellectually brilliant, a UGC scholar, published writer etc. At the moment he is preparing for his Masters admission.
After a recent assessment, NIMHANS has recommended family therapy sessions for all of us.
Can you suggest an experienced therapist in Bengaluru specialising in family therapy covering above issues who can undertake family therapy (online / offline)? His current therapist cannot take up family therapy as well for obvious reasons. Face-to-face sessions in NIMHANS is not feasible due to time and distance issues for each member of family. Also, he might be leaving Bengaluru soon for his Masters.
TIA
Regards
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Kindly follow what NIMHANS has suggested. They know what they are saying and well, for the wellness of the family, each member must make it to the family therapy whenever sessions are scheduled. These sessions not only handle the challenge at hand but also guide each of you on how to communicate with one another in the face of challenges. So, my suggestion would be that you follow what NIMHANS has advised until the point that your son has to leave Bengaluru. A little bit of understanding within the family can go a long way on easing relationship dynamics within the family and also establish better between all of you.
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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