Hi Ma'am, I have been in a relationship for almost a decade now i.e. since graduation and now me and my bf are doing good in our respective jobs. Since we come from different religions, we have been trying to convince our family very much for last two years to let us happen and get married and in these scenarios during covid I lost my father too now that it's just me and my mom and my elder sister due to societal pressure also they were not agreeing for us but then I could feel now that his family was some how just dragging us showing fake acceptance for me but still being very orthodox but in this process me and my bf got committed to each other very seriously in terms of physical ways but now his family is completely denying the fact that they don't us to happen and are literally forcing his son to marry in their caste. On this thing, the guy is trying to make me understand with false accusations that it's not his family butine which doesn't want us to proceed since my family wanted a mutual ways of marriage and not just his culture thing or else court marriage was the last opt but my guy is saying no I can never go against my family this and that you better understand and I don't know I'm feeling very cheated that now at this stage after being this close where he should have been standing strong with me he's pushing me to set back I don't know iam so clueless I got no energy to get back to being productive in my life or something whereas this acts of his and his family's forcible nature is somehow triggering me to opt for legal methods....I need guidance it's all dark for me and feeling too used.

Ans: Hello mam. I hope you are fine and enjoying good health.
Talking about your life, i understand that it feels very lonely and weird to live a life like this. Every person has a dream that after marriage, we ll live as a couple and will enjoy.
I also understand that it may feel like a burden that you are taking care of the kids here alone and he being working there. But i think you both know that this life has been chosen by you after understanding each and every aspect.
You should take some quality time it may be on phone. Don't talk about your kids ir problems.on phone. Talk about yourself, about your day, your life, what you had today , where did you go today and all
Things will start improving slowly. He ll start missing you the same way you do.
I hope this helps
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Ans: Hello sir. I hope you are in good health.
Talking about your life, i would like to tell you one thing. Whatever your wife did it was before marriage. It was not after marriage . So it cannot be taken as cheating.
Secondly, she accepted and promised that she ll not do it again and she kept her promise.
Thirdly as per you she takes your permission wherever she goes, she informs you everything. All this she is doing just to regain trust. I think you should forget the past.
Holding on to past will bring you nothing. Pain and problems badhengi kam nahi hongi. Apne bacho pe, apni family pe and apne kaam pe dhyan de and apni life enjoy kare.
I hope this solves the problem
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Ans: Hello mam..I hope you are fine. Well, coming to your problem mam. We live in a country where it is considered very normal to interfere in each other's life. Be it siblings or children or for that matter anyone. So as per our society this behaviour is very normal for your boyfriend's mother. But on the other hand, in this era this generation is somewhat more independent and don't like interference. If she is interfering too much, your boyfriend should also feel this and he is the only one who can draw boundaries and can ask his mother to stop being controlling.
You should not directly hit this on your boyfriend. Rather talk to him regarding this in a very polite and convincing manner so that he can take care of the matter. But if he feels that her mother's behaviour is ok then also you need to discuss and convince him about your privacy. If you want to take this relationship further then you need to correct the things beforehand.
I hope this solves your problem.
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Ans: You are thinking ahead and that itself gives you a strong advantage. Planning for family responsibilities and your own retirement at the same time shows clarity and maturity. With a step-up of 10 percent every year, your plan becomes even stronger.

» Understanding your goals and time frames
– Sister’s marriage is a short-term goal of around 2 years
– Your own marriage is a medium-term goal of around 4 years
– Retirement is a long-term goal of 15 years or more
– Monthly investment capacity is Rs 20,000 for short and medium term goals
– Monthly investment capacity is Rs 5,000 for long-term retirement
– You are comfortable with gradual increase every year

» Right asset approach for short-term goal (2 years)
– Capital protection is more important than high return here
– Equity exposure should be limited because market ups and downs can hurt the goal
– Focus should be on stability and liquidity
– Use low-risk mutual fund categories with limited equity exposure
– Avoid pure equity funds for this goal
– Start moving money to safer options as the goal date comes closer

» Right asset approach for medium-term goal (4 years)
– This goal allows some equity exposure but not aggressive risk
– Balanced approach works better than full equity
– Equity portion should reduce as you reach the 4th year
– Gradual shift from equity-oriented funds to safer funds is important
– This protects the money when the goal is near

» Why index funds are not suitable for your goals
– Index funds only copy the market and cannot protect you in falling markets
– There is no fund manager decision to control risk during bad times
– In short and medium-term goals, market falls can delay marriages or force loans
– Actively managed funds try to control downside risk
– Fund managers can move between sectors and stocks based on market conditions
– This flexibility helps in protecting capital and improving consistency

» Long-term retirement planning approach (15 years or more)
– This is where equity should play a bigger role
– Long-term goals can handle market ups and downs
– Actively managed equity funds suit this horizon well
– Consistent investing and annual step-up will build strong wealth over time
– Avoid chasing last year’s top-performing funds
– Stick to quality funds with stable management

» Why regular mutual funds through a Certified Financial Planner help
– Regular funds give you ongoing monitoring and rebalancing support
– Behaviour control is very important during market corrections
– Many investors exit at wrong times without guidance
– A Certified Financial Planner helps align investments with life goals
– Cost difference is small, but guidance value is very high

» How to use the 10 percent annual increase wisely
– Increase SIP amount every year after salary revision
– First priority should be retirement SIP increase
– Next priority is medium-term marriage goal
– This keeps long-term wealth creation on track

» Tax awareness for your planning
– Equity mutual funds sold within one year attract higher short-term tax
– Selling after one year is more tax efficient for long-term goals
– Plan redemptions carefully near goal dates
– Do not redeem entire amount in one shot unless needed

» Final Insights
– You are on the right path by separating goals clearly
– Avoid index funds and focus on actively managed funds for better control
– Match risk level strictly with goal time frame
– Annual step-up will quietly do the heavy lifting
– With discipline and timely review, all three goals can be met without stress

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

Ans: You have shown good discipline by continuing this long-term policy from 2006 till maturity. Staying invested for the full term in such policies needs patience, and that itself deserves appreciation.

» Policy snapshot in simple words
– Policy start year: 2006
– Policy term: 21 years
– Maturity year: 2027
– Sum assured: Rs 3,00,000
– Type: Traditional life insurance with savings and yearly bonuses

» How the maturity amount is generally built
– The final amount at maturity is mainly made of two parts
– First part is the basic sum assured, which is Rs 3,00,000
– Second part is the accumulated simple reversionary bonuses added every year
– Some years may also have a small final bonus, depending on overall performance

» Expected maturity value by 2027
– For policies started around 2006 with a 21-year term, the bonus rates were relatively stable for many years
– Over the full policy term, the total maturity amount usually becomes around 2 times the sum assured, sometimes slightly more
– In practical terms, your maturity amount in 2027 is likely to be in the range of
– Around Rs 5.75 lakh to Rs 6.50 lakh
– The exact figure will depend on the final bonus declared in the year of maturity

» What this amount means for you financially
– The maturity value is safe and tax-free under current rules
– It works well as a lump-sum support fund rather than a high-growth investment
– The returns are steady but modest when compared to long-term inflation
– The policy also continues to provide life cover even after maturity, which adds emotional comfort

» Important planning observations
– This policy has already done its job by giving safety and forced savings
– Since maturity is close, it is wise to plan how this amount will be used before 2027
– Options can include debt reduction, children’s education support, or building a stable low-risk allocation
– Avoid keeping the entire maturity amount idle in savings for too long

» Final Insights
– Your discipline over 21 years is the biggest strength here
– Expect a maturity amount close to Rs 6 lakh, give or take
– The value lies more in certainty and peace than in high returns
– With proper reinvestment planning after maturity, this amount can still play a meaningful role in your overall financial picture

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

Ans: if its results are good then it can get back to 1075 else 755