I'm an orphan and somehow I'm financially stable. After Covid my wife also lost almost all her family members. So kind of both are orphans now.

We want at least 10 children now and this is well thought decision.

My wife is over 35 still recovering with post Caeserian trauma after our 1st child naturally our target is impossible now however best sex or ways we try.

She too is ready for anything any relationship which can give us minimum 10 children (genetically ours) and adoption we'll consider only out of love and not this or other needs, to add family beyond 10 children, if possible.

With nasty bad luck, we have no other choice except this well thought decision.

Kindly help us know how we can achieve. We're ready for any sort of extra marital or any other relationships or surrogacy etc.

Please help Anu ma'am.

Ans: Hello. First of all, you need to get a little counselling to really understand your deeper emotional state and needs and to deal with the uncertainty around having children. Then you can start trying for a baby afresh. You can also introspect, with your counsellor, on the reasons you are saying no to adopting.

Ans: in this scenario i would suggest you to take some professional help (consulting some counsellor or therapist) as this will help to navigate your emotions and confusions on personal note i still recommend sharing details with your wife as not telling her and keeping secrets in your marriage is not great sign.

Ans: Adoption has its own legalities. Particularly age of the parent wanting adoption. This is to make sure the child adopted to be settled before the adopted parent retire.
Another option could be to be a Godfather and sponsor a child's education and lufe

Ans: To approach the conversation about wanting more children with your wife, start by understanding her perspective. Consider her physical and emotional well-being, her experience with the current family dynamics, and her views on expanding the family. Pregnancy and raising children are significant undertakings, and it’s important to recognize the impact on her.
It’s essential to listen to her response carefully and with an open mind. Understand that she may have concerns or reservations, such as the impact on her health, the family’s finances, or the time and energy required to raise more children. Address these concerns thoughtfully and discuss practical solutions together.

Consider discussing the potential benefits and challenges of having more children, focusing on aspects like the joy of a larger family, the sibling relationships, and how it aligns with your shared vision for the future. Make sure to talk about the practical aspects, such as financial stability and the support system you would need.

Remember that this is a joint decision. Your wife's comfort and enthusiasm about expanding the family are crucial. Be prepared for ongoing conversations and give her time to think and express her thoughts. It’s important to ensure that both of you are on the same page and are willing to move forward together.

Ultimately, the goal is to reach a decision that reflects both of your desires and respects each other's needs and well-being. This might involve compromise and patience, but approaching the conversation with empathy and openness will help you navigate it successfully.