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MK Question by MK on Aug 05, 2022Hindi
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I want to keep it anonymous.
I am a 30 years old independent woman married for 5 months only.
My husband and I were in same college but were not friends.
He had been approaching me for getting married since 2017, but every time I had rejected his proposal, later in February, 2021 I talked to him openly and mentioned my inability to conceive if we get married.
To which his response was that he really liked me and is ready to accept me with my inability.
I made our families met and we got engaged.
During the one year of courtship period, initial 4-5 months were peaceful, but he and I were missing a bond, yet we thought may be with time we will find it.
After the initial phase as we started meeting for family functions.
He started finding flaws in me. Things like, I stare at other men when I go out, I don’t give him priority, why do I talk to any male friend beyond necessity, why do I praise my senior at office parties etc.
He started controlling me in these areas and used to get angry if I talk to my siblings late night.
I started feeling trapped and suffocated, and always under the fear that any of my action could make my husband angry.
In that anger he seemed like a very different person, someone aggressive.
We started fighting, arguing over petty things.
He wanted me to change but I was reluctant as those were very normal things for me and I started telling him that this relationship is not working.
We are two persons with different mindset and ideologies and since we are unable to reach to a solution over any issue, let’s call it off.
I tried to call this wedding off for like 6 times, but he never agreed to this stating that he loves me and he will change his attitude and will not stop me from doing anything.
Whenever I tried to break up with him he'd start crying, stating things like you are my only happiness in life, and I would die without you and all.
I involved my family into the matter and shared things with them.
They used to call my husband to make him understand my expectations from him.
In front of them my husband used to admit that he would change his behaviour.
He used to stay calm for 5-6 days and then continue with the same attitude.
Basically, it was an on and off behaviour from his side and because of that my behaviour was also affected.
I was trying to see his positive side as he had accepted me with my inability, so he must be a good person.
Somehow, after so many issues, we got married.
After marriage, we went for honeymoon, but he showed a different attitude.
He started insulting me that I stare at other people, including the waiter.
He would fight with me aggressively, and when I cry he'd calm me down stating that this fight is my fault; had I not done this he would not have fought; had I obeyed him he would not have gotten angry. Then he used to make love to me.
For 4 days this happened continuously.
On the 4th day I told him I cannot stand him and bear his mind numbing torture.
If he sees so many flaws in my character we must part our ways, and there is not point of staying together.
He agreed but later he started apologising, asking for another chance to this marriage. I agreed.
But his behaviour didn’t improve much. We used to live with his parents, he started taking active participation in local politics which used to keep him busy.
He started controlling me indirectly for visiting my moms and relatives.
He'd taunt me for not sharing my salary with his parents.
Later I found out his work is not running smooth and he is not making enough.
The issue of staring at men and shaking hands with men while greeting congratulations, was also an issue to him.
He'd remain normal as long as I did things as per his wish.
If I said or did anything opposite, he'd get aggressive and disrespectful towards me.
Love was nowhere around. He never said I am a good looking woman. My husband rarely complimented me though I get many whenever I go out.
He seemed not to be bothered about me except for the time I do something he doesn’t like.
My mom also supported him. His behaviour started taking a toll on my mental condition and I started feeling uncomfortable around him.
I stopped being physical as I was feeling emotionally detached.
The fights had broken me, my bare minimum expectations were not fulfilled.
My husband also broke relations with my family and was disrespectful to them.
Initially he had promised that I will be free to visit my mom whenever I want and he will not seek my salary ever or doubt my character, but nothing turned to be true.
After 4 months of torture, I came to my mom's place and told my husband that I cannot live with him.
I actually feel much better without him. As soon as he knew that I am leaving him he has surrendered and is admitting that he made mistakes and doesn’t want to lose me.
He says I am his only hope in life and he loves me a lot and can’t live without me.
He does the same emotional drama every time I try to part ways with him.
My family is pressurising me to give him another chance. But my trust is shattered beyond repair.
He made my cry, he pushed me into depression.
I do not respect him. He accepted me with my inability, but I feel he never liked the real me.
He is not ready to admit this fact that we have not been good for each other.
To me he seems like a male chauvinist, a dominating and controlling person.
He stays grumpy most of the time, behaves well with others but is arrogant with family members.
What do I do? I am in utter confusion, I am unable to force myself into a love-less marriage and my family and husband doesn’t understand it.
(I am a government officer and my husband runs a small business)

Ans:

Dear MK,

This is a classic case of crying out, blaming the spouse for the crying and sending her on a guilt trip, promising to do better, not following through and when she walks out, crying out again.

It's cyclical and traps you within in the loop.

He really needs to work out his stuff with a professional, else this is going to be something that you have to deal with repeatedly.

To not be able to take responsibility for his actions, shifting blame onto you, acting insecure and preventing you from leading your life the way that you are used to -- like talking to your family and friends -- are all red flags.

Step up, take charge and suggest that he goes to a professional if he wants the marriage to work.

If he doesn’t and continues the same way, you know what you must do to secure yourself and your life.

All the best!

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    Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 27, 2022

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    Hello Anu ma’am, I’m 30 years old female, working at an IT firm. I have been married for a year now. The marriage with my husband was arranged by our family members. I met him 2 months before we got married. We talked more during that period and the conversations were always pleasant and I felt care in them and finally made the decision that he is my match. Once we got married, things were good-to-okay in the first few months. I used to live with my in-laws and slowly noticed that he is moving away little by little. My connection with him started to feel weak. He and his mother would stop talking when I entered the room. I had to help more with house chores. I tried quite a lot to keep up with in-laws, husband, and work but soon sensed that mother in law and son have teamed up against me and everything I did was never satisfactory. The first thing that came up to my mind was to move out of the house with my husband and to start our relationship afresh. He didn’t like the idea and for my work reasons, I moved out and to the city where I work (which is a 3-hour drive from where he lives). This made the connection even worse. I used to go see him once or twice in a month but the relationship felt strained so I moved back within 3 months. Around this time he downloaded some dating apps on his mobile. When I asked him about it he said he downloaded out of curiosity and didn’t use it, but I can feel the change in him. Within 2 months I started to realise he’s being secretive with his phone or iPad and is spending a lot of time with them either texting or calls. I also noticed that he is talking to someone during the night while he is sleeping next to me. I felt betrayed and shattered to my core. All the things I learnt for him, all the things that I have done for him and his family, all the time and energy I have spent felt useless. When I confronted him he never accepted it and says it’s all in my head. I gave him some time leaving it aside thinking he would bounce back once he is done with it. So I asked him to move in with me so we could bond and spend time alone. We moved in together finally but things didn’t go as I expected. When I leave for work he would either go meet the woman or worse bring her home. He continued it and I ran out of patience. I talked about it with my family and his. My family supports my decision with whatever I would want to do and his family would back him up saying that they have brought their son up my utmost values and he wouldn’t do such a thing. So finally they have sent us back to our homes hoping things will be fine. He still talks to the woman every night and God knows how many times I cannot make it out in the day time. I’m sorry it’s a long read for you but I wasn’t sure what to express and what not to, for you to help me with a suggestion.I have tried to catch his act using technology but he is too clever to be caught. Trust me, I’m a tech lead at an IT firm and I have tried a lot of methods to catch him but all of them are valid-invalid proofs and he is quite a story teller to make them all look null.I feel nothing inside most of the times and simply want to come out of this but not without showing his true form. For once, I want to win. Win huge this way. If you can help me out I will be grateful for that. Please keep me anonymous if you could.Thanks a lot for reading this.
    Ans:

    Dear TK,

    Thank you for sharing so clearly; it certainly helps me guide in the best possible manner.

    If you feel that he is infidel, the there is no necessity to go around looking for proof.

    What will proving that give you?

    Even if you showed it all to his parents what is the guarantee that they will not turn it around and blame you for it?

    That you should not have moved out and that’s why he needed the comfort of other women.

    Quit focusing on proving his infidelity and focus on more what you want at this point in time.

    Do you want to continue in this marriage?

    If NO, exit in the most graceful manner because the stress from all the pulling down or Win that you are looking for is strenuous and of no use. It will only appease your EGO which anyway is short-lived.

    But of course, if you are in the process of negotiating terms during divorce proceedings; this proof maybe valuable to have a better WIN. I hope I have succeeded in differentiating both types of WINs so you get a clearer picture.

    Now coming to how you must deal with your mind space is as simple as listing down what is important to you.

    Is it dwelling on what he does or emphasizing more on what you can do?

    When it’s the latter, you will think and act in a manner that looks out for you and how you can keep yourself in an optimum mind space.

    So, start focusing on what makes you happy and stick to that.

    When you are ready to move on, make it graceful and if there seems to be a problem with negotiation, the proof that you have collected with a sane sense of mind will come in handy.

    I assume that there are no children involved but if there are, take into consideration how they will cope with any decision of yours.

    Bottom Line: Learn to live your life and focus on what’s important. I am confident that you can do this NOW.

    All the best for a beautiful mind space!

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    I want to keep it anonymous.I am a 30 years old independent woman married for 5 months only.My husband and I were in same college but were not friends.He had been approaching me for getting married since 2017, but every time I had rejected his proposal, later in February, 2021 I talked to him openly and mentioned my inability to conceive if we get married.To which his response was that he really liked me and is ready to accept me with my inability.I made our families met and we got engaged.During the one year of courtship period, initial 4-5 months were peaceful, but he and I were missing a bond, yet we thought may be with time we will find it.After the initial phase as we started meeting for family functions.He started finding flaws in me. Things like, I stare at other men when I go out, I don’t give him priority, why do I talk to any male friend beyond necessity, why do I praise my senior at office parties etc.He started controlling me in these areas and used to get angry if I talk to my siblings late night.I started feeling trapped and suffocated, and always under the fear that any of my action could make my husband angry.In that anger he seemed like a very different person, someone aggressive.We started fighting, arguing over petty things.He wanted me to change but I was reluctant as those were very normal things for me and I started telling him that this relationship is not working.We are two persons with different mindset and ideologies and since we are unable to reach to a solution over any issue, let’s call it off.I tried to call this wedding off for like 6 times, but he never agreed to this stating that he loves me and he will change his attitude and will not stop me from doing anything.Whenever I tried to break up with him he'd start crying, stating things like you are my only happiness in life, and I would die without you and all.I involved my family into the matter and shared things with them.They used to call my husband to make him understand my expectations from him.In front of them my husband used to admit that he would change his behaviour.He used to stay calm for 5-6 days and then continue with the same attitude.Basically, it was an on and off behaviour from his side and because of that my behaviour was also affected.I was trying to see his positive side as he had accepted me with my inability, so he must be a good person.Somehow, after so many issues, we got married.After marriage, we went for honeymoon, but he showed a different attitude.He started insulting me that I stare at other people, including the waiter.He would fight with me aggressively, and when I cry he'd calm me down stating that this fight is my fault; had I not done this he would not have fought; had I obeyed him he would not have gotten angry. Then he used to make love to me.For 4 days this happened continuously.On the 4th day I told him I cannot stand him and bear his mind numbing torture.If he sees so many flaws in my character we must part our ways, and there is not point of staying together.He agreed but later he started apologising, asking for another chance to this marriage. I agreed.But his behaviour didn’t improve much. We used to live with his parents, he started taking active participation in local politics which used to keep him busy.He started controlling me indirectly for visiting my moms and relatives.He'd taunt me for not sharing my salary with his parents.Later I found out his work is not running smooth and he is not making enough.The issue of staring at men and shaking hands with men while greeting congratulations, was also an issue to him.He'd remain normal as long as I did things as per his wish.If I said or did anything opposite, he'd get aggressive and disrespectful towards me.Love was nowhere around. He never said I am a good looking woman. My husband rarely complimented me though I get many whenever I go out.He seemed not to be bothered about me except for the time I do something he doesn’t like.My mom also supported him. His behaviour started taking a toll on my mental condition and I started feeling uncomfortable around him.I stopped being physical as I was feeling emotionally detached.The fights had broken me, my bare minimum expectations were not fulfilled.My husband also broke relations with my family and was disrespectful to them.Initially he had promised that I will be free to visit my mom whenever I want and he will not seek my salary ever or doubt my character, but nothing turned to be true.After 4 months of torture, I came to my mom's place and told my husband that I cannot live with him.I actually feel much better without him. As soon as he knew that I am leaving him he has surrendered and is admitting that he made mistakes and doesn’t want to lose me.He says I am his only hope in life and he loves me a lot and can’t live without me.He does the same emotional drama every time I try to part ways with him.My family is pressurising me to give him another chance. But my trust is shattered beyond repair.He made my cry, he pushed me into depression.I do not respect him. He accepted me with my inability, but I feel he never liked the real me.He is not ready to admit this fact that we have not been good for each other.To me he seems like a male chauvinist, a dominating and controlling person.He stays grumpy most of the time, behaves well with others but is arrogant with family members.What do I do? I am in utter confusion, I am unable to force myself into a love-less marriage and my family and husband doesn’t understand it.(I am a government officer and my husband runs a small business)

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    I want to keep it anonymous.I am a 30 years old independent woman married for 5 months only.My husband and I were in same college but were not friends.He had been approaching me for getting married since 2017, but every time I had rejected his proposal, later in February, 2021 I talked to him openly and mentioned my inability to conceive if we get married.To which his response was that he really liked me and is ready to accept me with my inability.I made our families met and we got engaged.During the one year of courtship period, initial 4-5 months were peaceful, but he and I were missing a bond, yet we thought may be with time we will find it.After the initial phase as we started meeting for family functions.He started finding flaws in me. Things like, I stare at other men when I go out, I don’t give him priority, why do I talk to any male friend beyond necessity, why do I praise my senior at office parties etc.He started controlling me in these areas and used to get angry if I talk to my siblings late night.I started feeling trapped and suffocated, and always under the fear that any of my action could make my husband angry.In that anger he seemed like a very different person, someone aggressive.We started fighting, arguing over petty things.He wanted me to change but I was reluctant as those were very normal things for me and I started telling him that this relationship is not working.We are two persons with different mindset and ideologies and since we are unable to reach to a solution over any issue, let’s call it off.I tried to call this wedding off for like 6 times, but he never agreed to this stating that he loves me and he will change his attitude and will not stop me from doing anything.Whenever I tried to break up with him he'd start crying, stating things like you are my only happiness in life, and I would die without you and all.I involved my family into the matter and shared things with them.They used to call my husband to make him understand my expectations from him.In front of them my husband used to admit that he would change his behaviour.He used to stay calm for 5-6 days and then continue with the same attitude.Basically, it was an on and off behaviour from his side and because of that my behaviour was also affected.I was trying to see his positive side as he had accepted me with my inability, so he must be a good person.Somehow, after so many issues, we got married.After marriage, we went for honeymoon, but he showed a different attitude.He started insulting me that I stare at other people, including the waiter.He would fight with me aggressively, and when I cry he'd calm me down stating that this fight is my fault; had I not done this he would not have fought; had I obeyed him he would not have gotten angry. Then he used to make love to me.For 4 days this happened continuously.On the 4th day I told him I cannot stand him and bear his mind numbing torture.If he sees so many flaws in my character we must part our ways, and there is not point of staying together.He agreed but later he started apologising, asking for another chance to this marriage. I agreed.But his behaviour didn’t improve much. We used to live with his parents, he started taking active participation in local politics which used to keep him busy.He started controlling me indirectly for visiting my moms and relatives.He'd taunt me for not sharing my salary with his parents.Later I found out his work is not running smooth and he is not making enough.The issue of staring at men and shaking hands with men while greeting congratulations, was also an issue to him.He'd remain normal as long as I did things as per his wish.If I said or did anything opposite, he'd get aggressive and disrespectful towards me.Love was nowhere around. He never said I am a good looking woman. My husband rarely complimented me though I get many whenever I go out.He seemed not to be bothered about me except for the time I do something he doesn’t like.My mom also supported him. His behaviour started taking a toll on my mental condition and I started feeling uncomfortable around him.I stopped being physical as I was feeling emotionally detached.The fights had broken me, my bare minimum expectations were not fulfilled.My husband also broke relations with my family and was disrespectful to them.Initially he had promised that I will be free to visit my mom whenever I want and he will not seek my salary ever or doubt my character, but nothing turned to be true.After 4 months of torture, I came to my mom's place and told my husband that I cannot live with him.I actually feel much better without him. As soon as he knew that I am leaving him he has surrendered and is admitting that he made mistakes and doesn’t want to lose me.He says I am his only hope in life and he loves me a lot and can’t live without me.He does the same emotional drama every time I try to part ways with him.My family is pressurising me to give him another chance. But my trust is shattered beyond repair.He made my cry, he pushed me into depression.I do not respect him. He accepted me with my inability, but I feel he never liked the real me.He is not ready to admit this fact that we have not been good for each other.To me he seems like a male chauvinist, a dominating and controlling person.He stays grumpy most of the time, behaves well with others but is arrogant with family members.What do I do? I am in utter confusion, I am unable to force myself into a love-less marriage and my family and husband doesn’t understand it.(I am a government officer and my husband runs a small business)
    Ans:

    Dear MK,

    This is a classic case of crying out, blaming the spouse for the crying and sending her on a guilt trip, promising to do better, not following through and when she walks out, crying out again.

    It's cyclical and traps you within in the loop.

    He really needs to work out his stuff with a professional, else this is going to be something that you have to deal with repeatedly.

    To not be able to take responsibility for his actions, shifting blame onto you, acting insecure and preventing you from leading your life the way that you are used to -- like talking to your family and friends -- are all red flags.

    Step up, take charge and suggest that he goes to a professional if he wants the marriage to work.

    If he doesn’t and continues the same way, you know what you must do to secure yourself and your life.

    All the best!

    ..Read more

    Anu

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    Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 19, 2022

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     Hello mam,(I want to remain anonymous )I want to ask regarding my relationship with my husband.We got married in 2013 and after a month and so...He started saying I shouldn't mingle with Muslim friends who were my colleagues in my office. I told him they are good people and we've never had such kind of differences. But he got angry and from here one by one he started picking fights for each and everything. Since we are newly weds, I asked if we can explore new nearby(one day trip)places during the weekend, which he didn't do. My parents lived nearby and since we used to stay at home they'd call us on weekends for lunch or dinner. He started fighting for that also. He also started body shaming me saying I have gained weight (and everyone in his home are commenting about my weight). I had only gained 3 kgs after my marriage.He said I have relationships with colleagues even after my engagement, which was not the case. Later he said I shouldn't go out for lunch meetings arranged by the company for the whole team. He said I'm wasting time in the company and there is no bright future. I tried to find a job outside but I couldn't cope up with the demeaning and exhausting behaviour in the house and non-stop workload in the office. I agree I was a bit lazy to find a new job but I couldn't do it. In 2015 I left the job and was jobless for 2 months (this happened drastically after a big fight in his hometown that too for trivial reasons). During these two months he made my life a living hell. He would fight for the smallest of things. I had to take care of the house, his younger brother and sister. There were times when we fought because I took care more of his siblings and not him (I used to wonder why he is being hostile when taking care of his family).In 2016 we started our family planning and by God's grace we had baby in 2017. Even when I was pregnant he used to pressurize me to ask my mom to come and take care of me but my mom used to work in a different city and I was thoroughly taken care by my granny and my father. He had problems with that as well. When he started fighting for this matter, I asked him to bring his mother (I knew it was not possible because it's difficult to leave the home and come take care of me) but he kept on saying weird things and insulting my mother saying she is dominating, irresponsible.After having the baby he left me in his hometown for 1 whole year saying that till I prepare myself for the interview and find a new job he will not live with me. I kept begging him, fought with him and even tried to commit suicide because I didn't want to live there anymore after 8 months. I just wanted to come back and have my family which he denied saying he has financial problems. Ultimately I had to pressurise my parents to intervene and take me and my child to their home.Whenever he felt like seeing his daughter he used to come. Otherwise he totally ignored us. My parents and I begged him to come home and stay but he refused (we had a tight financial situation so we couldn't afford a house). My father arranged a small home without any amenities to keep his house's unwanted things. My husband said he will stay there and not in my parents’ house for which I objected. Yet he stayed there for almost 6 months. Later I found a job and moved to a new house.When the pandemic hit I lost my beloved father and my job. I could have saved him but my husband did not allow me to go to my parents place even after explaining to him the situation that my parents are facing. My father did not die of Covid but due to medical negligence. He wanted me to cook and take care of his family in his hometown.He suggested my mother and brother to take leave of two months and sort out all the legal activities which they couldn't. My brother had to leave for his job overseas and mother back to her job. She used to come every three weeks and ask for my help to get things done. He got angry for that and kept on blaming me that I only take care of my family and not him. After my father's death he started insulting my mother. He even made his father to call my mom and talk cheap with her and my brother.Fast forward to now, we have been fighting non-stop and every week there will be a fight, name calling, vulgar words exchanged. He stops talking to me for months together and there has hardly been any physical or emotional intimacy. Even after I confess, cajole and plead with him to sort out our family, he agrees momentarily and again within a week there will be a new topic to fight on in such a way it goes to extremes.This roller coaster ride -- the fights in our relationship -- has affected my child immensely and sometimes for the sake of the child we plan not to divorce each other. But I'm guilty that I'm not providing my child a healthy environment. That I'm not a good wife. I'm confused whether I should continue in this relationship or quit it for the betterment of the three of us because I cannot take this emotional abuse and have my child watching me cry non-stop. Please guide me if my husband will change in future. Should I try counselling or do I divorce him? Because whenever I keep my hopes positive, he goes back to his old ways.
    Ans:

    Dear VS,

    You are married to a man who gets his self-esteem and validation by showing you in poor light, exercises control by telling you who your professional/social circle should be, makes you weak by detaching you from your parents and those who are your support system.

    Does this put things into perspective for you as to where you are in within your marriage?

    Once you fulfil the above, he might be willing to somewhat accept you, but there will be constant new demands to keep his self-esteem high. It’s all about him, him, and him.

    Does he need to visit a professional who can guide him to a better way of thinking? Yes, but that will happen only when he acknowledges his false sense of existence and flushed ego.

    If that is possible, do visit a professional who can help him ably and then he might be able to see the marriage in a new light and his contribution towards it.

    Till then, this seems to be a battle with a child who is adamant about getting one candy and then another and yet another and then crying out loud when denied.

    The child is absolutely growing up in an emotionally challenging environment and this will obviously affect his growth, both physically and emotionally.

    I am glad you have been thinking about what to do and now you know what an absolute must-have for the marriage is, to continue.

    He must change the way he thinks and acts and treats you like his partner and not someone who was married to him for his sense of validation and self-esteem.

    Be wise, watch and decide!

    All the best!

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    You have wisely parked Rs 20 lakh in debt funds and fixed deposits, which ensures stability and liquidity for your property purchase. However, investing large amounts in fixed deposits may not be the most tax-efficient strategy in the long run due to the high tax on interest income.

    Suggestions for Achieving Your Rs 2 Crore Goal
    To accumulate Rs 2 crore by the age of 50, you need a more optimised approach. Here are the steps:

    1. Review and Adjust Your Equity Allocation
    Increase Mid-Cap and Flexi-Cap Exposure: As you are still 11 years away from your goal, consider shifting a portion of your investments from small-cap and sector-specific funds to more balanced options like mid-cap and flexi-cap funds. These funds offer a balance between risk and return, providing more stability than small-cap funds while still offering high growth potential.

    Reduce Sector-Specific Fund Exposure: Sector funds can be volatile. Consider reallocating your investment in this fund to more diversified equity funds like flexi-cap or large-cap funds. These funds are less volatile and provide more stable returns over time.

    2. Reassess Your Tax-Saving Funds
    Optimise ELSS Investments: You already have multiple ELSS funds, which may result in overlapping holdings and lower diversification. You could consolidate your ELSS investments into one or two well-performing funds. This will simplify your portfolio and improve returns while still offering tax benefits.

    Consider the Lock-in: Keep in mind the 3-year lock-in period of ELSS funds. If liquidity is a concern, consider reducing your ELSS exposure once you’ve maximised your Section 80C limit.

    3. Focus on Regular Funds over Direct Funds
    Investing through a certified financial planner (CFP) in regular funds is better than investing in direct funds by yourself. A CFP can provide ongoing advice, portfolio rebalancing, and support during market fluctuations, which is crucial for reaching your Rs 2 crore goal.

    4. Build a Strong Emergency Fund
    You are already setting aside Rs 15,000 per month towards savings and your emergency fund. Aim to build a fund that covers at least 6 to 12 months' worth of expenses. Given your Rs 50,000 monthly expense, this would mean an emergency fund of Rs 3 lakh to Rs 6 lakh.

    Continue to park this money in debt funds or fixed deposits for easy liquidity. This will safeguard you from any unforeseen expenses while ensuring that your long-term investments remain untouched.

    5. Bonus Investment Strategy
    You are already investing your bonus into mutual funds as a lump sum. This is a good practice, but consider utilising this money strategically:

    Top-Up Your Existing SIPs: Rather than investing the entire bonus in one go, you could use it to top up your SIPs in your existing mutual funds. This will average your investment cost and reduce market timing risks.

    Boost Equity Allocation: If your risk appetite allows, allocate more of your bonus towards equity mutual funds. This can provide higher returns in the long run, contributing significantly to your Rs 2 crore goal.

    6. Step-Up Your SIPs Annually
    You have mentioned that you step up your SIPs by 10-15% every year. Continue with this approach, as it aligns well with your growing income and inflation. This will accelerate your wealth accumulation and keep your goal on track.

    For instance, a 10-15% increase in SIP amounts every year can make a significant difference to your final corpus. By increasing your SIPs, you will also take advantage of compounding and market growth.

    7. Debt Fund Considerations
    You have Rs 20 lakh in debt funds and fixed deposits. Once you buy your flat, this money will likely be reduced. However, after the purchase, you should maintain a portion of your savings in debt funds as part of your overall asset allocation.

    Debt funds provide stability and reduce risk, which is essential as you approach your retirement goal. A balanced portfolio of equity and debt is necessary for sustainable growth.

    8. Retirement Planning
    To achieve Rs 2 crore by the time you turn 50, you need a mix of aggressive growth in the early years and risk mitigation in the later years.

    Increase Equity Exposure for Now: As you have 11 years until retirement, continue focusing on equity funds for growth. However, once you are within 5 years of your retirement goal, gradually shift a portion of your equity investments to debt funds to protect your capital.

    Avoid Real Estate Investments: Since you are planning to buy a flat within a year, avoid additional investments in real estate. Real estate is illiquid and may not provide returns aligned with your retirement timeline.

    Maximise Provident Fund Contributions: You already have Rs 10 lakh in your PF, and this will continue growing with your monthly contributions. Provident Fund provides a safe and stable return and should remain a core part of your retirement corpus.

    9. Tax Efficiency
    As your investments grow, consider tax efficiency:

    Tax on Equity Mutual Funds: Long-term capital gains (LTCG) on equity mutual funds above Rs 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%. Short-term capital gains (STCG) are taxed at 20%. Be mindful of these taxes when planning withdrawals.

    Tax on Debt Funds and FDs: Interest income from fixed deposits is taxed as per your income slab, which is less tax-efficient than equity investments. You can reduce your tax burden by keeping longer-term investments in equity funds and shorter-term savings in debt funds.

    Final Insights
    With proper planning, accumulating Rs 2 crore by the age of 50 is within your reach. You are already on the right track with a balanced approach to savings and investments. However, minor adjustments in your mutual fund selection, better tax efficiency, and maintaining a strong emergency fund can further optimise your strategy.

    Your commitment to stepping up your investments and regularly reviewing your portfolio will help you stay on track. Be consistent with your SIPs and disciplined in maintaining your long-term focus.

    Best Regards,

    K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

    Chief Financial Planner,

    www.holisticinvestment.in
    https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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    Ramalingam Kalirajan  |6526 Answers  |Ask -

    Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Oct 07, 2024

    Asked by Anonymous - Oct 06, 2024Hindi
    Money
    Hi I am male 36 years earning Rs 90000 a month working in a government organisation. My monthly expenses are Rs 50000. I am investing in following mutual funds and Provident Fund :- Axis Bluechip Fund - Rs 1000 monthly and current value Rs 70000 Axis Mid cap Fund - Rs 1500 monthly and current value Rs 60000 Nippon India Flexi Cap Fund - Rs 1100 monthly and current value Rs 40000 SBI Nifty SMALL cap index fund - Rs 2000 monthly and current value - Rs 29000 Provident Fund - Rs 20000 monthly and current value - Rs 10 Lakhs Sukanya Smridhi Yojna for my 4 years old daughter - Rs 2500 monthly and current value Rs 118000 I have my wife, 4 years old and mother who are financially dependent on me. I have own house. No loan EMIs are going on. I wish to retire in next 10 years. Is it possible?
    Ans: At 36 years old, earning Rs 90,000 per month, and investing in mutual funds and the Provident Fund, you're building a solid foundation. With a manageable monthly expense of Rs 50,000, you are saving around Rs 40,000 per month. This surplus gives you a good start towards achieving your retirement goals.

    Your current investments include:

    Axis Bluechip Fund: Rs 1,000 monthly SIP, with a current value of Rs 70,000.
    Axis Mid Cap Fund: Rs 1,500 monthly SIP, with a current value of Rs 60,000.
    Nippon India Flexi Cap Fund: Rs 1,100 monthly SIP, with a current value of Rs 40,000.
    SBI Nifty Small Cap Index Fund: Rs 2,000 monthly SIP, with a current value of Rs 29,000.
    Provident Fund: Rs 20,000 monthly contribution, current value Rs 10 lakh.
    Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana: Rs 2,500 monthly contribution for your daughter, current value Rs 1.18 lakh.
    It is commendable that you are consistently investing in mutual funds and secured schemes like the Provident Fund and Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana for your daughter. These diversified investments provide stability and growth.

    Now, you have set a target to retire in the next 10 years. Let’s assess the feasibility of that goal.

    Assessing Your Retirement Timeline
    With a 10-year timeline for retirement, you need to ensure that your investments can generate sufficient wealth to cover your post-retirement expenses. You need to account for the following factors:

    Inflation: Prices will rise over time, and your expenses will likely increase. Even if your current monthly expense is Rs 50,000, it could double in 10 years due to inflation.

    Post-Retirement Monthly Income: After retiring, you will need a regular income to meet your living expenses, cover healthcare, and support your family.

    Longevity: You should plan for a retirement period that could last 30 years or more. This means your retirement corpus must last for a long time.

    Existing Dependents: You have a wife, a 4-year-old daughter, and a mother who are financially dependent on you. This adds additional responsibility and expense post-retirement.

    Given these factors, retiring in 10 years is possible if you carefully plan and optimize your investments.

    Recommended Asset Allocation for Retirement
    A balanced investment strategy is essential for achieving your goal of early retirement. Here’s a step-by-step approach to structure your investments:

    Equity Mutual Funds: Continue investing in equity mutual funds for long-term growth. However, I would recommend focusing on a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and flexi-cap funds.

    Actively Managed Funds Over Index Funds: You currently have an investment in an index fund (SBI Nifty Small Cap Index Fund). Index funds tend to provide market-level returns, which may not be sufficient to meet your retirement goals. Actively managed funds offer the potential for better returns because fund managers can take advantage of market opportunities.

    By switching from index funds to actively managed funds, you give yourself a higher probability of generating alpha (returns above the market average).

    Provident Fund: Continue contributing to the Provident Fund, as it provides a secure, guaranteed return and will serve as a safe portion of your retirement corpus. The EPF also gives you tax-free returns, which are crucial for long-term security.

    Increase SIPs Gradually: As your income grows or expenses reduce, try to increase your SIPs. A regular increase of 5% to 10% in SIP contributions can significantly enhance your retirement corpus over time.

    Debt Funds for Stability: While equity funds are important for growth, debt mutual funds provide stability and regular returns. As you approach retirement, start allocating a portion of your savings to debt mutual funds. They will offer a regular income stream, while also reducing risk.

    Debt funds are also tax-efficient as compared to traditional fixed deposits, especially for long-term capital gains.

    Role of Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana
    The Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana (SSY) for your daughter is a great way to secure her future education. However, you should continue monitoring the progress of the SSY account and ensure that you’re on track to meet her future education needs.

    The SSY will also give you tax benefits under Section 80C, making it an efficient investment option from both a financial and tax-saving perspective.

    This is a long-term investment, and the current contributions look sufficient for your daughter’s needs. You can gradually increase your contributions as your income grows.

    Why Direct Mutual Funds May Not Be Ideal
    It is important to be aware of the distinction between direct funds and regular funds. Direct funds come with lower expense ratios but require hands-on management. If you opt for direct funds, you must actively monitor and adjust your portfolio.

    However, investing through a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) via regular funds ensures professional advice. Your investments will be periodically reviewed and rebalanced to meet your goals. Although regular funds have a slightly higher expense ratio, they come with valuable services that can help you stay on track for retirement.

    Thus, it’s better to invest through a CFP who can guide you in adjusting your portfolio as per market trends and your financial goals.

    Consider Your Emergency Fund
    It’s essential to maintain an emergency fund that can cover 6 to 12 months of living expenses. Given your current expenses of Rs 50,000 per month, aim to set aside around Rs 3-6 lakh in a highly liquid and safe investment, such as a liquid fund or a short-term debt fund.

    This emergency fund will act as a buffer during unforeseen circumstances and help you avoid dipping into your long-term investments.

    Final Insights
    To retire in 10 years, you will need a substantial retirement corpus. This requires careful planning and disciplined investments. Here’s what you should do:

    Continue investing in mutual funds, but shift focus towards actively managed funds.

    Increase your SIP contributions as your income grows. You are currently saving Rs 40,000 per month, but try to save and invest more if possible.

    Maintain a healthy balance between equity and debt investments. While equities will give you growth, debt will provide stability.

    Keep contributing to Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana for your daughter’s future.

    Avoid direct mutual funds unless you can actively manage the portfolio. Regular funds with a CFP offer better guidance.

    Don’t forget to maintain an emergency fund.

    With these strategies in place, you have a good chance of achieving your retirement goal in 10 years. But it’s important to continuously review and adjust your plan as you move closer to retirement.

    Best Regards,

    K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

    Chief Financial Planner,

    www.holisticinvestment.in
    https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

    ...Read more

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    Ramalingam Kalirajan  |6526 Answers  |Ask -

    Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Oct 07, 2024

    Money
    I am 56 yrs age receiving sufficient monthly pension. Need to deploy 1 Cr retirement benefits into mutual funds for 5-10 years. Please can you advise on the funds I need to buy. Also please let me know if I can park the entire amount in a liquid etf and sell monthly to my bank for staggering the above deployment in 12-18 SIPs
    Ans: You have Rs 1 crore to invest, a sufficient pension, and a 5-10 year investment horizon. Since you do not require immediate income, this allows for a balanced approach. Here’s a structured plan with a focus on stability, growth, and tax efficiency.

    Asset Allocation for Stability and Growth
    The first step is to divide your Rs 1 crore across different asset classes. Considering your age and financial goals, a balanced approach between equity and debt is suitable. The goal is to provide growth while keeping the risks in check. A 50-60% allocation in equity and 40-50% in debt is ideal for you.

    Equity Allocation (50-60%): Equity provides inflation-beating returns over the long term. Since you have a 5-10 year horizon, equity can deliver substantial growth. However, risk needs to be managed.

    Debt Allocation (40-50%): This portion brings stability. It ensures capital protection and provides regular interest income. This also helps to reduce volatility in the overall portfolio.

    SIP for Staggered Investments: Smart Deployment Strategy
    You are considering staggering your investment over 12-18 months. This is an intelligent strategy to reduce the impact of market volatility. Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs) allow you to spread your investments over time, which reduces the risks of market timing.

    However, rather than parking your entire Rs 1 crore in a liquid ETF, consider liquid funds. Liquid ETFs are not ideal for regular withdrawals as they can fluctuate, unlike liquid mutual funds that are better suited for such purposes. Here's why:

    Liquid Funds for Temporary Parking: Liquid mutual funds offer better stability than liquid ETFs. These funds are used to park money for short periods and provide easy liquidity with relatively better returns than bank savings accounts. You can redeem a fixed amount monthly and use it to stagger your equity SIP investments.

    SIP into Actively Managed Funds: Actively managed mutual funds provide better chances of outperformance. Unlike index funds, actively managed funds are carefully curated by fund managers, offering higher returns when managed well.

    Avoid Direct Mutual Funds and ETFs
    Direct mutual funds may seem appealing due to lower expense ratios. However, unless you have a strong understanding of the market, the expertise of a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) can make a significant difference. Regular funds with the guidance of an MFD (Mutual Fund Distributor) who has CFP credentials offer professional fund management.

    Also, avoid parking your entire Rs 1 crore in an ETF. Index funds or ETFs don’t offer flexibility in market conditions. The disadvantages of index funds include no scope for outperformance since they simply track the market. In contrast, actively managed funds have the potential for superior returns as fund managers take active positions in market opportunities.

    Fund Categories to Consider for Equity Allocation
    When investing in mutual funds, diversification is key. Here are some categories that should be a part of your equity portfolio. Avoid specific scheme names, but focus on these categories:

    Large & Mid-Cap Funds: These funds invest in a combination of large, stable companies and mid-sized, growth-oriented firms. This mix provides a good balance between growth and stability.

    Flexi-Cap Funds: These funds invest across large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap companies, giving flexibility to fund managers to shift allocations depending on market conditions.

    Multi-Cap Funds: These funds allocate across market caps, reducing the risk of focusing only on one segment of the market. They provide long-term growth potential.

    Thematic or Sectoral Funds: These funds invest in specific sectors like technology, healthcare, or manufacturing. However, these funds should be a smaller portion of your portfolio, given their higher risk.

    Fund Categories to Consider for Debt Allocation
    Debt mutual funds will help secure your capital while providing steady income. Here's a broad recommendation on debt categories:

    Corporate Bond Funds: These funds invest in high-quality corporate bonds, offering better returns than traditional FDs while maintaining a moderate risk profile.

    Short-Term Debt Funds: Short-duration debt funds provide better interest than liquid funds and are suitable for short-to-medium-term investments.

    Gilt Funds: These funds invest in government securities. Though they come with interest rate risks, they are the safest form of debt investment. They are ideal for conservative investors seeking stability.

    Dynamic Bond Funds: These funds can adjust their portfolio based on the interest rate scenario, thus offering flexibility.

    Tax Considerations for Mutual Fund Investments
    Taxation is an important aspect of your investments. Here’s how mutual fund capital gains are taxed:

    Equity Mutual Funds: Long-term capital gains (LTCG) above Rs 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%. Short-term capital gains (STCG) are taxed at 20%.

    Debt Mutual Funds: Gains from debt mutual funds are taxed according to your income tax slab for both short-term and long-term investments.

    Dividends from Mutual Funds: Dividends are taxed as per your income tax slab, so it’s better to go for a growth option instead of dividend payout plans.

    Emergency Fund and Liquidity
    Ensure you have an emergency fund of 6-12 months' worth of expenses. You already have Rs 2 lakh in Fixed Deposits. You may want to increase this to Rs 6-8 lakh by either adding to your FDs or using liquid funds.

    This provides a cushion in case of any unforeseen expenses. Liquidity is crucial in retirement planning.

    Review and Rebalance Your Portfolio
    Your financial journey does not stop after investing. It’s crucial to periodically review and rebalance your portfolio. Every year, evaluate the performance of your funds and make adjustments if necessary. This will help you stay aligned with your financial goals.

    Estate Planning
    Since you are approaching retirement, estate planning is important. Consider drafting a will or a trust to ensure the smooth transfer of wealth to your family. This adds a layer of security to your financial planning.

    Final Insights
    Investing Rs 1 crore into mutual funds can provide both growth and safety if done wisely. By staggering your equity investments through SIPs and allocating to both equity and debt, you can achieve steady returns. Use liquid mutual funds for parking and staggered withdrawals instead of liquid ETFs. The approach will allow you to reduce market risk and capitalize on long-term growth.

    Finally, do regular portfolio reviews to ensure that your investments stay on track and are adjusted as needed.

    Best Regards,

    K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

    Chief Financial Planner,

    www.holisticinvestment.in
    https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

    ...Read more

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    Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Oct 07, 2024

    Asked by Anonymous - Oct 07, 2024Hindi
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    Hello, I am 49 yrs old having wife (homemaker) and one son 13 yrs. I want to retire by age of 55 yrs. I have adequate health Insurance for family also have company health insurance. I have PPF 20 lacs approx., MF 30 lacs, Rental income 25K monthly, Direct Equity 50K, Emergency FD 2 lacs. Have 11 yrs remaining on housing loan EMI 25K. My in hand salary is 1.10K monthly. I want to get 1 lac per month after retirement. Please advice.
    Ans: You have done well to build a strong financial base. Your savings and investments are diverse, and you also have rental income to support your retirement. Let's break down your current assets and liabilities:

    Public Provident Fund (PPF): Rs 20 lakhs
    Mutual Funds: Rs 30 lakhs
    Rental Income: Rs 25,000 monthly
    Direct Equity: Rs 50,000
    Emergency Fixed Deposit: Rs 2 lakhs
    Home Loan: 11 years remaining with an EMI of Rs 25,000
    Monthly Salary: Rs 1.10 lakhs in hand
    You also mentioned having adequate health insurance for your family, which is essential for financial security.

    Retirement Goal: Rs 1 Lakh Per Month
    You plan to retire at the age of 55, and your goal is to generate Rs 1 lakh per month after retirement. Let's now assess how to achieve that.

    Assessment of Income and Expenses Post-Retirement
    You will continue to receive Rs 25,000 per month from rental income. Therefore, the remaining Rs 75,000 per month will need to come from your investments.

    Your current home loan is an ongoing liability, with an EMI of Rs 25,000. It would be ideal to explore prepayment options or at least ensure that this EMI doesn’t stretch too far into your retirement.

    Now let’s focus on optimizing your investments and income sources.

    Evaluate Your Investments
    Your portfolio is quite diversified, with investments in PPF, mutual funds, direct equity, and a fixed deposit for emergencies. However, some adjustments may be needed to generate a regular income of Rs 75,000 per month after retirement.

    Public Provident Fund (PPF)
    The current PPF balance of Rs 20 lakhs is a safe and tax-efficient investment.
    Continue contributing to PPF, but remember that its lock-in period and lower liquidity make it less ideal for regular income.
    Mutual Funds
    Your Rs 30 lakhs in mutual funds will play a crucial role in achieving your retirement income goals.
    Since mutual funds have the potential for higher returns, maintaining and growing this corpus is important.
    You can opt for a Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) post-retirement. This will allow you to withdraw a fixed amount regularly without depleting the principal too fast.
    Regularly review the performance of your mutual funds. Focus on actively managed funds rather than index funds, as actively managed funds can potentially outperform in the long term.
    Direct Equity
    Your Rs 50,000 in direct equity is a small portion of your portfolio.
    Direct equity investments can be volatile, and since the amount is relatively small, you might not want to rely on it for regular income.
    Consider shifting a portion of this to mutual funds for better risk management through professional fund managers. Regular funds managed by mutual fund distributors (MFDs) who are certified financial planners (CFPs) are often better for long-term growth.
    Fixed Deposit for Emergencies
    Your Rs 2 lakh fixed deposit is useful as an emergency buffer.
    Keep this fund intact and do not use it for income generation. It's always wise to have 6-12 months’ worth of expenses in liquid, easily accessible funds.
    Home Loan Strategy
    The EMI of Rs 25,000 per month is a significant expense. With 11 years left on the loan, this will continue well into your retirement unless paid off earlier. Here's what you can consider:

    Prepaying the loan: If feasible, use some of your current salary or rental income to prepay a portion of the home loan. Reducing this liability before retirement will ease the financial burden later.
    If prepaying is not possible, ensure that your post-retirement income can comfortably cover the EMI.
    Retirement Corpus Requirement
    Assuming you need Rs 75,000 per month from your investments (since Rs 25,000 will come from rent), you will need to build a sufficient corpus by the time you retire. The corpus should be able to generate this amount through systematic withdrawals and interest income.

    With inflation and other factors in mind, a rough estimate suggests that you will need a retirement corpus of around Rs 1.5 crore to Rs 2 crore to safely generate Rs 75,000 per month. Let's now explore how to build this corpus over the next six years.

    Investment Strategies to Build Your Retirement Corpus
    Increase Contributions to Mutual Funds
    Currently, you have Rs 30 lakhs in mutual funds. Over the next six years, this can grow significantly, depending on market conditions.
    Consider increasing your monthly contributions to mutual funds. This will help you build a larger corpus by the time you retire.
    Opt for equity-focused mutual funds for long-term growth. Equities tend to outperform other asset classes over longer periods.
    Keep a balance between mid-cap, small-cap, and large-cap funds to optimize your returns. Avoid index funds as they may provide lower returns compared to actively managed funds.
    Use Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs)
    Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs) will help you build your corpus in a disciplined manner.
    By investing regularly, you will also benefit from rupee cost averaging, which helps mitigate the impact of market volatility.
    Avoid Direct Equity for Regular Income
    Direct equity investments can be unpredictable and volatile. Since your goal is to generate regular income, avoid relying on direct equity.
    Shift a portion of your direct equity investments into safer options like mutual funds managed by professionals. Regular mutual funds, managed by MFDs who are certified financial planners (CFPs), provide more stability and better risk management compared to direct equity or index funds.
    Rental Income and Real Estate
    Your Rs 25,000 rental income will be a steady source of income post-retirement.
    Consider increasing the rent periodically to keep up with inflation.
    Inflation and Rising Costs
    It’s crucial to factor in inflation when planning for retirement. While you might need Rs 1 lakh per month today, the cost of living will rise in the future. Therefore, building a larger corpus than initially expected is always a good strategy.

    Your rental income and systematic withdrawals from your mutual funds should help mitigate the impact of inflation, but do review your plan every few years to ensure you're on track.

    Additional Considerations for Retirement Planning
    Emergency Fund
    You have an emergency FD of Rs 2 lakhs, which is a good start. However, as you get closer to retirement, it may be worth increasing this to cover at least 6-12 months of living expenses. This way, you won’t need to dip into your retirement savings for any urgent needs.

    Health Insurance
    You mentioned having adequate health insurance, including company-provided coverage. After retirement, you won’t have employer-provided coverage. Therefore, consider enhancing your health insurance coverage before you retire. This will protect you and your family from any unexpected medical expenses post-retirement.

    Taxation of Investments
    Your post-retirement income will be subject to taxation. Here’s a quick overview of how your investments will be taxed:

    Rental Income: Taxed as per your income tax slab.
    Mutual Funds (Equity): Long-term capital gains (LTCG) above Rs 1.25 lakh will be taxed at 12.5%. Short-term capital gains (STCG) are taxed at 20%.
    PPF: Interest earned is tax-free.
    Fixed Deposit Interest: Taxed as per your income tax slab.
    Ensure that your withdrawals and income sources are tax-efficient. A certified financial planner can help you optimize your tax liability in retirement.

    Finally
    You are on the right path toward a comfortable retirement. With a few strategic adjustments, you can achieve your goal of Rs 1 lakh per month after retirement. Focus on growing your mutual fund investments and paying down your home loan, while also keeping a strong emergency fund in place.

    By maintaining a well-diversified portfolio and periodically reviewing your plan, you will be well-prepared for your retirement at 55.

    Best Regards,

    K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

    Chief Financial Planner,

    www.holisticinvestment.in

    https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

    ...Read more

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