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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 22, 2023Hindi

Relationship

As a husband how to overcome infidelity of a wife.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Overcoming infidelity in a relationship can be challenging and I am sorry you have to face it. First off, the process involves open communication and commitment from both partners. Having an honest conversation about the infidelity seems like a good start. Let it be out there in the open that there was infidelity and now you are moving forward from the sorrow and challenges it caused to making an effort to fix the crack it created in the foundation of your marriage. Seeking couples therapy to address underlying issues is a must. You can talk to your friends, and trusted family members, and ask for advice, but nothing beats seeking professional help.

Do not forget to prioritize self-care and you can also try individual counseling to process the emotions. Rebuilding a marriage after infidelity takes time and both parties should be committed to make it to the end. Do not have unrealistic expectations. It's a gradual process; it will take time but you will feel better one day. Patience and a shared dedication are the most important part of this healing journey.

Best Wishes!

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We are married for 10 years, my wife had sexual relationship with another person. How to overcome this infidelity?

Ans: Dear Saurav,

I understand that facing infidelity in a relationship is incredibly tough, and I'm sorry you're going through this. To make it through this challenging time, open communication and commitment from both partners are crucial. Starting with acknowledging the infidelity is a positive step, honest conversation about the issue and working together to move forward. Let's face it, it happened and I assume you decided to keep working on your marriage, so you will have to take it one step at a time. Acceptance is the first.

While friends and family can provide support, consider seeking couples therapy to address underlying problems. Guidance from a professional is invaluable in rebuilding trust and understanding. They can offer you a more structured approach. And don't forget to take care of yourself. You might even consider seeking individual counseling to sort out the emotional turmoil caused by this.

Rebuilding trust takes time, and both parties need to be dedicated. Manage your expectations and remember that recovery is a gradual process.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 22, 2024Hindi

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Hello I am 38Yrs old and married for over 10years. One year back i discovered about my wife getting involved with another man. I was shattered as we have two kids. I initially thought of straight going for divorce but our two kids were always a priority for me and opened up conversation with my wife on what inclined her to take this step. She was shocked that I am aware of her situation. She then opened up that she felt lonely at times when I was away extremely busy with my office and at times she required emotional support for which I was not there. I explained her no reason in this world can explain her act. She felt apologetic and I decided to give another chance to our relationship keeping in mind our kids future. Its now more than an year and our physical/emotional relation have intensified since the incident. We miss each other when I am away and get into steamy conversations to compensate whenever we are distant. Despite of this I still cannot take the past out of my mind and at times it disturbs me. I feel really cheap that despite of moving ahead in our life's why I still keep bringing the past in between our relation. Although I don't discuss anymore about the incident with my wife but she can very well sense the reason when I feel disturbed. I want your help on how to best overcome of such incidents emotionally and rebuild the lost trust with your partner.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Well, it's your control over the way your mind thinks...
If you want to play upon what's happened, then making up and trying to be in the marriage is going to be a difficult proposition. So, decide how you want to play this? Will you train your mind to look forward and rebuilding the marriage OR do you wish to keep at what's happened and live in the past? This is your choice to make...Of course, you cannot erase what's happened but you can change the way that you feel about it...
So, first make that choice. If you wish to dwell on the past, do know that your relationship will sour sooner than later. If you wish to move things ahead, then:
- rebuild the lost trust by spending more time together
- every time you slip into the past, remind yourself that you made the choice to move ahead
- make a clear and positive image of hwo you want your married life to be and play it up in your mind several times in a day

These are a few ways of changing the way you think about an incident and teaches you to move ahead more in a focused manner. Make a choice and stick by it.

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Question by Eswar - Sep 23, 2024Hindi

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I am 39 years old. Married for 10 years. My wife had an extramarital affair with one boy when I was working away from her since we were both 10 years old. I found her red-handedly. She is asking for sorry. She made a mistake she will not do in the future like that she is telling me. I accepted her because of my son, but the problem is, I still can't forget because I blindly trusted her a lot and she betrayed me. I am unable to work despite living with her. Sometimes I feel depressed. Kindly guide me on what should I do.

Ans: Dear Eswar,

Your feelings are completely valid. Dealing with infidelity in a relationship is very difficult. Simply because you have forgiven your partner does not necessarily mean you have forgotten about it or have mentally dealt with it well. I suggest having an open conversation about your feelings with your wife. It is true that one mistake should not be the deciding factor, still, cheating is a pretty big mistake to forgive. If it is taking you some time to get over it, your wife has to help you get through it. When you do it together, it also helps the marriage grow. The best course of action would be to see a marriage counselor to get more structured guidance out of this.

Remember you do not have to rush yourself to feel all better. Infidelity is a traumatic experience for the one on the receiving end. Take all the time you need to get through it. And don't hold back from sharing with your wife how you are feeling. Open communication helps more than you know.

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