Hi my husband cheated on me and for past 3 yrs due to family pressure i forgive him for kids sake, now i came to know that he has child with that women. Now what to do. I am not able to concentrate on any work i always will be thinking about that and crying. I have two school going kids. What to do i dnt have job and how should get rid of this?

Ans: Dear Richa

I am sorry to hear about what you're going through in your marriage. Infidelity is a very painful experience and it's completely understandable that you are feeling broken right now. my first suggestion would be to prioritise your own self-care and emotional well-being. Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who can help you process your emotions, cope with the pain of infidelity, and develop a plan for moving forward.

In terms of your marriage, it's important to remember that the decision of what to do next is ultimately up to you. It's common for people to feel a range of emotions following infidelity, such as anger, sadness, confusion, and a sense of betrayal. If you do decide to stay in the marriage, it may be helpful to seek out couples therapy or marriage counseling in order to address the underlying issues that contributed to your husband's infidelity and to work on rebuilding trust and intimacy in the relationship.

However, it's also important to consider whether staying in the marriage is truly in your best interests and those of your daughter. Infidelity can be a sign of deeper issues within a relationship, and it may be necessary to take some time to evaluate whether the relationship is truly healthy and fulfilling for you.

Regardless of what you decide, know that healing from infidelity is a process that takes time and effort. It's important to be patient and kind to yourself as you navigate this difficult time in your life, and to remember that you deserve to be in a relationship where you are respected and valued.

Ans: It's understandable that you're feeling a range of emotions given the complexities of your situation.Honest and open communication with your wife is crucial. Share your feelings, concerns, and the impact this situation is having on you. Encourage her to express herself as well. Clear communication is key to rebuilding trust. Consider what is best for you, your children, and your overall well-being. Assess whether staying abroad or returning home is the most viable option for your family. It's important to take care of your own mental and emotional well-being. Consider engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. This might include exercise, hobbies, or spending time with friends.

Best Wishes

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your husband seems to have been in a series on relationships...This could be a pattern; a habit, something that needs intervention.
What is your stand in all of this? Are you fine with knowing about all this after marriage?
What is the reason that he hid this from you?
How are you sure that he is not in a relationship with someone else right now?
This is not to frighten you but for you to start taking note of how this could affect your life.

As for the woman who keeps calling you about your husband; you were not a part of their relationship, they did not consult with you before having the child...why should you be involved in that? Tell her to contact him and leave you alone.
I would also caution you that this woman could also be lying as your husband possibly could have ignored her BUT what makes me suspect him is the fact that he kept all this hidden from you.

So, it's time that your husband came clean...Ask and do not rest till you get your answers! You will save yourself from a lot of pain and agony...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Whether you want the marriage or not is your decision. Obviously, you are hurt and sad and disappointed on being cheated upon.
And the best decision seems to walk out. But parents do not want that for their daughter...it's an emotional time!

Rather than being impulsive, be smart about it. Talk to a lawyer who can advise you on how the terms of separation must be where your rights and those of the children will be protected. Your husband will have to take on that responsibility. So, you need to also think of your children's welfare in the midst of all your emotions. Difficult, but so needed right now. So, seek the support of your parents in this...they may not want to support BUT if you are sure that you want a divorce, find a good lawyer who can guide you appropriately.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/