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Straight and upfront; how much do you want to make this marriage work?
Do you feel he wants to be in this marriage as well?
Are you being a convenient façade for him to be the loving married husband with a child and then go behind your back to another woman?
Are you allowing yourself to be blackmailed into suppressing your doubts about him so that he will still be in the marriage?
What you can do further is bring in a neutral person to bring his ‘floating on the sky party’ to the ground.
His immaturity at not being able to be a father to his child at the time when his wife needs his emotional support needs to be addressed.
Ask an elder member to step in and bring some much needed sense into him so that there is an effort put into bringing you and him on the talk table for a much needed conversation to set things right.
You can do this, remember, you are a woman and now a mother who is strong and knows what she wants.
Step in and take charge and never allow yourself to be cowed down by anyone.
Be YOU and all the best!
You have a husband who is an unemployed, good-for-nothing bum, who doesn't show you respect, steals from you, lives apart from you, likes to associate with call girls, blames you for his failures, beats you and doesn't care if you have an affair.
He ‘talks to your daughters sometimes’.
Honey, you need to be emailing a divorce lawyer, not this column. And do it immediately.
Yes, you're more than just a mother and you do deserve emotional support. You should be kicking his ass to the curb pronto.
And may I ask what exactly are you waiting for?
Why did you think that by you going for counselling, your husband will change his behaviour towards you?
How is that he cheats on you and still you allow him to treat you this way?
This only shows that you have lost your strength which you need most right now.
What if you were a strong independent woman who has been working?
Would you still subject yourself to this? You know the answer!
Bring back that woman who had dreams, who knew how to walk the path, who knew how a man should treat her, who knew what a marriage really is.
Can you do this?
Your kids need their mother to stand up for herself and do the right thing.
Be the woman who will not settle for anything that disrespects a woman or another human.
Seeing this, they will also know how to treat a woman and what a woman can bring into their lives.
Do the right thing, for yourself and them. Bring back that strong, independent woman who knew this and more.