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Anu Krishna |873 Answers |Ask -Follow

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 12, 2023

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 22, 2023Hindi

Relationship

Hello First i request you to please don't reveal my name here I am 37 years married having 2 kids ( 7 & 6 Years) I have problem with anger i use to get angry on small things or debate & sometimes loudly shout I am unable to control my anger Next i have addiction of porn chat which i want to stop I also have problems of acidity with Eeylead pain & burning sensation in penis Doctor told me the pain of eyelead is due to anxiety for the burning doctor has advised me lots of report which i did but all was normal but i have the problem still Please guide if you have any suggestions to stop all of these

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Kindly visit a good GP for sorting out issues related to your physical health. It can give you a second opinion on why your problems are still persisting.
Also, spending time on activities that don't challenge the mind productively will make you feel upset or drained out. That might explain your anger as you possibly are not experiencing a sense of fulfilment.
Why not use the same time to learn something new OR actually hit the gym? This not only distracts but also will help channelize your energy into more meaningful things.
Your children are young and full of energy. Spend time and create memories with them and your family. This time investment goes a long way in strengthening family bonds and will also teach the children the importance of family and family values.
Most often a small tweak to our way of living can help not only keep our mental and physical health in order but also create a better environment for our loved ones.

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 09, 2024Hindi

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Hi I am a 36 years old single guy. I was diagnosed with OCD at the age of 20. Life has been a struggle for me and I feel very frustrated. I don't have proper source of Income. My parents don't support or understand me. I feel very lonely. I want to marry but my financial and mental health don't allow me. I do emotional eating and Masturbate daily. When I see couples moving around I feel very bad. I even had paid sex. I want quit emotional eating and Mastubation. How to do it?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Kindly seek an appointment with a therapist who specializes in handling OCD.
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Asked by Anonymous - May 10, 2024Hindi

Relationship

Hello Sir, it has been 4 years since I got married. I have two kids. My wife loves me a lot. One day, in a casual conversation, she told me about her past life before marriage. I too had physical relations with a friend. Since then, I have been in depression. What should I do? I am unable to understand. Should I separate or leave her. Although now she keeps crying that that was the past. Now I love you very much, but I am unable to understand what to do. Please guide us. I feel that my life has been ruined. I am unable to understand ????????

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am assuming that whatever your wife confessed happened before you met her. And assuming that I want to ask you, are you seriously mad at your partner for having a life before you even existed for her? Is that even something to be concerned about? Everyone has a past. If you did not, that's your choice. She did, that's hers. How can you judge her for something that happened before you two got married? This anger, no matter how real it feels, is quite baseless. You are ruining your peace and marriage for nothing.

And you say, "She is crying that that was her past," why does she have to cry? It was indeed in her past. It is entirely up to the person whether they want to disclose it or not. Past is supposed to be in the past. Have a clear discussion with your wife. If things don't seem to cool down, I recommend seeing a marriage counselor who can help sort this issue in a more structured way.

Best Wishes.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 16, 2024Hindi

Relationship

Dear LG, Please keep this anonymous. I have been married since 6 years. However, since past 5+ years we have not been intimate. We haave a 5&1/2 year kid. Since his birth we have had a lot of differences and his family interference was lot leaving me alone and wounded. I don't stay with my husband and in-laws since then. I had made up that work is worship. But 2 years back I met a colleague. He is 10 years younger to me and we have extremely similar vibes. We enjoy each other's company and cared a lot. Eventually i fell in love with him. But he always knew he wont be able to go against his family. We also had relationship. Now he has strated looking for girls and wants us to stop being intimate. He is saying he wants to be friends and not loose me but not have relationship. We both work together in same space and our area of work is also same. I am unable to forgive my husband and forget this person. He never goes away. He is always there telling that I want to see you happy. He needs me for professional development. And i am not able to loose our relationship. He says physical intimacy only I cant have remaining Im there. Then again says I don’t know when I will be there so I am unable to give assurance or promise. I am tormented with a child, work and my health is getting affected. Can you please help?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry that you are in such a tough spot. My advice would be to move on. Yes, I realize that it is easier said than done but let's put things into perspective- first, you have no future with this man, and he has made it clear. Are you okay to keep hanging on to him while he builds his own life? I am assuming no, especially since you have a child. Second, what about your self-respect? He is directly telling you that this relationship is headed toward a dead end. Do you believe you deserve to be with someone who does not want to settle down with you? I believe you deserve better.

I am not blaming him because he made no promises. You are not to be held guilty either because you were in a tough spot and you grabbed the first emotional support you found. But the current reality is that he wants out. And convincing him to stay is not an option. At this point, moving on with your head held high is the best decision. If you want to accept his friendship, that is completely fine. But if that's too much for you, you can always decline it. I understand that working in the same space with an ex is difficult, but as long as you avoid interacting outside of the office and keep things professional, there should not be an issue. On the emotional front, I won't lie, it will hurt for a while. But this too shall pass. I strongly recommend you not to value yourself so low that you stop believing that you deserve a person who loves you back as much as you love him.

Best Wishes.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 13, 2024Hindi

Money

I am 25 and earning 41k a month. My monthly expenses are 19k and I save around 22k a month. I have started investing in mutual funds and investing 12k/month. My financial goal is to have a corpus of 4-5 Cr at the time of my retirement. Would like to retire at 55. Should I consider investing in NPS? Please advise.

Ans: Increase your SIP in mutual funds as with current investment of SIP you will be able to make 2.25 to 2.5 crore

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Question by Shambhu - May 13, 2024Hindi

Money

I am 45 yrs old .i hv started investing in Mutual fund through Sip approx month 2.4lakh since last 6 month. I hv plan to keep investing for next 3 yrs in same pattern and subject to availability of fund remaining I can continue further for next 5 yrs . Following are investment UTI nifty 200 momentum 30 index - 50 k Nippon nifty 250 small cap index fund -25k ICICI prudential mid cap 150 index fund-20 k HDFC s&p Sensex index fund-20 k Aditya Birla psu equity fund-20 k Motilal Oswal mid cap fund-20k HDFC infrastructure fund-20 k HDFC large and mid cap fund-10 k Quant small cap-10k Nippon small cap -10 k Parag flexi cap- 10 k Mahendra manulife multicap- 10 k Sbi contra fund-10 k Please advise on my fund selection and suggest which plan to to be removed or amend with new plan suggested from you

Ans: Your funds are good

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Financial Planner - Answered on May 16, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - May 13, 2024Hindi

Money

Dear All, I am 34 years old. I have 204 lakhs as savings out of with 110 lakhs is debt and 95 lakhs in equity majorly in Large Caps. I own a real estate which fetches me 30k every month. I have a EPF corpus of 28 lakhs and PPF of 15 lakh. I have 1 year old daughter. I am debt free with independent home and a package close to 35 lakhs. I want to know how do I further allocate the money. In Mutual Fund, Gold or SSY or continue to add equity and debt. I want to be Financially independent. Your view would be of great help.

Ans: Increase your allocation in equity or equity mutual fund as you are too young and your goals are long term.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 14, 2024Hindi

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I am 30 years old now . Planning to retire early in next 10 years.I don't have any pension flowing in. What will be the corpus required to achieve 1 lakh per month in SWP method. Without reducing the corpus accumulated?

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Asked by Anonymous - May 14, 2024Hindi

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Ans: Your funds are good but you may not reach to your goal of 4 crores

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Ans: What is your age

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Age - 43years, Own house - Value around 50 Lacs, MF investments - 35 Lacs, Equity SIPs running - 20k, FDs - Emergency fund (5 Lacs), Salary - 30 Lacs p.a., I would like to buy house of 2 crore in next 2-3 years.. when should I sell my current house which is valuing around 50 Lacs to have limited tax liability.

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Hello sir, I am 33 years old and started my SIP one month ago with ?4,200/month invested in the following funds: SBI Contra Direct Plan Growth, HDFC Mid Cap Opportunities Direct Plan, Tata Equity P/E Fund, Quant ELSS Tax Saver, ICICI Prudential Equity & Debt Fund, HDFC Small Cap Fund, and Nippon India Large & Small Cap Fund. Can this portfolio get me ?2 crore return after 20 years? Also have plans later can add parag flexi, and quant mid cap.

Ans: Your SIP is 4200/- ?

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