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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 06, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 09, 2024Hindi
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Hi I am a 36 years old single guy. I was diagnosed with OCD at the age of 20. Life has been a struggle for me and I feel very frustrated. I don't have proper source of Income. My parents don't support or understand me. I feel very lonely. I want to marry but my financial and mental health don't allow me. I do emotional eating and Masturbate daily. When I see couples moving around I feel very bad. I even had paid sex. I want quit emotional eating and Mastubation. How to do it?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Kindly seek an appointment with a therapist who specializes in handling OCD.
You absolutely need support to eliminate the root cause of compulsive behaviors as these can rob you of your peace of mind and also lead to a very poor quality of life. Once you start to feel better after a few sessions, you will see a change in your eating habits and also you will start making better choices in and with life. Please seek an appointment at the earliest...

All the best!

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Kindly visit a good GP for sorting out issues related to your physical health. It can give you a second opinion on why your problems are still persisting.
Also, spending time on activities that don't challenge the mind productively will make you feel upset or drained out. That might explain your anger as you possibly are not experiencing a sense of fulfilment.
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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 03, 2025Hindi
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After corona, when everything shut down and I came home, I started struggling with frustration and anger issues. Earlier, my father handled my marriage discussions, and I would reject proposals because at 24 I did not want to get married. But then my father passed away during corona, and suddenly I became the eldest in the house with all responsibilities. I shifted with my mom and younger sister to a new city. Life became different good in some ways, but also suffocating. I do not feel freedom anymore and have frequent quarrels with my mom because I feel she never takes my side. For the last 5 years, I have been searching for a partner through matrimony sites and dating apps, but only faced disappointment. Recently I was in a relationship with a man who I later found out was already married and living with another woman. This was heartbreaking and humiliating, and even his livein partner contacted me to tell the full truth. I feel betrayed and foolish. Now I keep thinking about how badly he treated me, and I cannot stop talking about it. My family gets tired of listening, and they ask me to move on, but I cannot. I feel like nobody understands how deeply it hurts me. Being the eldest, I always feel the weight of responsibility and sacrifice, but never freedom or support. I am 32 now, frustrated with the marriage search, dating apps, and family issues. All my friends are settled, and I have no one to hang out with. I really want to get married and start my married life, but I feel stuck, angry, and hopeless. How can I deal with my anger and loneliness? How do I stop ending up with the wrong people? How can I move forward towards marriage and a happy life?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Corona is long gone and it's time for you to move out and be by yourself. This will help you take charge of your life without intermingling too much with family; they need their space as well. Treat your family as your support system and not a punching bag; that will only infuse more negativity and land back on you.
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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 12, 2025
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Dear Sir/Madam, I am currently a 1st year UG student studying engineering in Sairam Engineering College, But there the lack of exposure and strict academics feels so rigid and I don't like it that. It's like they don't gaf about skills but just wants us to memorize things and score a good CGPA, the only skill they want is you to memorize things and pass, there's even special class for students who don't perform well in academics and it is compulsory for them to attend or else the student and his/her parents needs to face authorities who lashes out. My question is when did engineering became something that requires good academics instead of actual learning and skill set. In sairam they provides us a coding platform in which we need to gain the required points for each semester which is ridiculous cuz most of the students here just look at the solution to code instead of actual debugging. I am passionate about engineering so I want to learn and experiment things instead of just memorizing, so I actually consider dropping out and I want to give jee a try and maybe viteee , srmjeee But i heard some people say SRM may provide exposure but not that good in placements. I may not be excellent at studies but my marks are decent. So gimme some insights about SRM and recommend me other colleges/universities which are good at exposure
Ans: First — your frustration is valid

What you are experiencing at Sairam is not engineering, it is rote-based credential production.

“When did engineering become memorizing instead of learning?”

Sadly, this shift happened decades ago in most Tier-3 private colleges in India.

About “coding platforms & points” – your observation is sharp

You are absolutely right:

Mandatory coding points → students copy solutions

Copying ≠ learning

Debugging & thinking are missing

This is pseudo-skill education — it looks modern but produces shallow engineers.

The fact that you noticed this in 1st year already puts you ahead of 80% students.

Should you DROP OUT and prepare for JEE / VITEEE / SRMJEEE?

Although VIT/SRM is better than Sairam Engineering College, but you may face the same problem. You will not face this type of problem only in some top IITs, but getting seat in those IITs will be difficult.
Instead of dropping immediately, consider:

???? Strategy:

Stay enrolled (degree security)

Reduce emotional investment in college rules

Use:

GitHub

Open-source projects

Hackathons

Internships (remote)

Hardware / software self-projects

This way:

College = formality

Learning = self-driven

Risk = minimal

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