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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 27, 2023

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 27, 2023Hindi

Relationship

Hello, I am father of 18-year daughter, she is 1 year engineering student and involve or doing time pass with one boy from her 12 class and share nudes from bathroom also boy sometimes demand Money as well. We found this from her Insta chat so how to handle this, please help me to solve this.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Deal with this very carefully as if you reprimand or object to this, she is only going to rebel even more.
Kindly involve her mother into this.
Encourage her to talk about it without judging her or instructing her on what to do. I am sure she is already terrified of the boy's threats of blackmailing.
Also, have you considered of reporting this to the cops? Most parents don't want to as they are worried about the consequences their daughters have to go through. But, how else can these 'creeps' be stopped.

With a lot of love and support from you, your daughter will regain strength to realize that she had made some poor choices and that she has the choice now to rework all of them to pave a better path to walk on. You don't have to tell her what to do as she already knows it. She is just scared...
Just support and love her; instructions can wait...though your anxieties I am sure is hitting the roof. But, remember, everything works when people are surrounded with love. Your daughter simply needs this right NOW.

All the best!

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Hi Anu, I am a father of recently turned 13 daughter. We had the most amazing relationship. She was my pet and I would go to any extent to meet her demands. She is not good in studies as compared to my elder son. Still we never pressurised her. Suddenly her school called us to inform that she was on social media and have had an affair..she also kissed the boy. We are shocked ..while we expect hormonal changes and attraction at this stage but kissing and bragging about it is something which is bothering us. We had a call chat with her she admitted everything but had no guilt or shyness. She is known to drop tear but during the conversation she was adamantly confident and giving us examples of othe girls. My wife has been caching her since two years on how things are and how girls should be careful but seems she is just nodding and still doing same thing. I am not only shocked but also concerned that she might repeat it again as she neither felt or said sorry about it but also was completely apologetic ..what should we do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
'Call chat'?
Why not an 'in-person' chat? Is she away in a hostel or boarding school? If YES, kindly drop everything and be with her.
Surely, she's seeking attention from the other gender like any other teen at this age but what alarms me is the fact that she is callous in her attitude towards the entire episode. Defending her stance only means that she is in unwanted company and is justifying her behaviour as 'fitting in with peers'.
Handle this with butter fingers; give some-take some...yelling and complaining and trying to make her feel guilty is only going to make her repeat her behaviour so that she proves you right...
Spend quality time with her filling it with love, attention and support which is what she is perhaps seeking outside. This can be helped by seeking a professional who has experience handling adolescent behavioural challenges. Surely, this is her way of fitting in and experimenting but something that is also filling in an inadequacy. I cannot be sure of this, but just sharing from my experience of handling adolescents. So, first drop everything and be with her. Give her even more love that will tell her that her parents will be with her no matter what! Yeah, long lectures don't work at that age...SIGH...
This actually makes them question their choices and get back on the right path...And please do seek the help of a professional at the earliest...

All the best!

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i have a 12.5 year old daughter who is crazy behind a guy ... i have access to her chats but am unable to confront her thinking about the repercussions ... do we just leave this situation to time thinking she is just 12 years old and give her that space ... or you think i should go and talk to the guys parents in a polite way that we need to handle this situation. A bit worried to share this to the guys parents thinking what if the message spreads like fire in her school .. she will be shattered and will be low on confidence. I just need a solution to this ... she is too young to get into all these things ... we tried talking to her not on this subject but pressurizing her the importance of studies etc ... but nothing seems to work. Do you suggest to disconnect the internet? she has no personal mobile phone nor do we intend to give her till she is 15-16.

Ans: You can gently talk to her about her feelings and emotions. How she feels about her classmates and talk about boys as being friends. When you talk to her from a non judgemental space, she will be more open to receive from you.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 24, 2024Hindi

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My sister's daughter is currently in 10th grade. She was very good in study earlier and secured good marks in her previous grade but now things are not good. The behaviors of my sister's daughter are very stubborn and weird. She secretly accesses her family member's mobile and chats with school friends (boys) and hangs out with them. She took a picture of herself while dressed inappropriately and shared it on social media. If any family member scolds her, she will cut her hands with a razor and declare that she will end her life if anyone bothers her. She attempted to harm both her younger sister and mother. For missing mobile case, case was registered in police station and mobile was found hidden by her. Although, we took her to the police station and were scolded by the officer, it didn't affect her in any way. Kindly suggest what should my sister do regarding this.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What will the police do in this regard? Your sister's daughter doesn't need anyone shouting at her. She needs someone to hear her and help her through what she is going through.
She needs the attention of a psychiatrist. Kindly do not delay this matter.

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