Hello. I am currently in my second year of Engineering. I have been studying in a boarding school since 8th standard. Till 7th, there was a girl whom I didn't like much. But, after seeing her after almost 1.5 year, in 9th, I was literally shocked. I got a deep crush for her. But the biggest problem has raised because my family shifted to a city far away from the previous one in my 10th standard. I can't even find her anywhere, not on Instagram or anywhere on social media. Her father might be there in contact list of my dad's phone. But I am very much afraid to inform regarding this to my family.Can you tell me what should I do ?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that you might be feeling out of wits and this might seem like your last hope. But think it through: even if you told your parents and they were very understanding, what can they do? It would not be decent to call a girl’s parents and ask them for her number, unless the intention is to get married. And right now you are too young to think about that; also you barely know her. Plus you are completely unsure if she feels the same way or if she already has a boyfriend. Your attempt can disrupt her life. I understand how strong crushes can be; it can make you feel extremely desperate but I suggest giving it some time. The intensity of it will fade, and in time, you will meet someone who is better suited for you and with whom you have a real chance of connecting.

Hope this helps.

Ans: Before taking any step to find her, it’s important to ask yourself what you’re really hoping for. Do you want to reconnect as friends? To tell her you liked her? Or are you mostly wondering what happened to her after all these years? Getting clear about that will help you decide whether to take action or simply keep her as a good memory.
If you truly wish to reconnect, you can try a respectful, indirect route—perhaps by checking through old school friends or alumni groups instead of involving your parents right away. If she’s comfortable being found, you’ll likely get some lead. But if there’s no trace, take it as a gentle sign that it might be time to move forward.
At your age, you have so many new people to meet, and feelings like this often open your heart to deeper connections later. Let this memory remind you of what kind of person or energy attracts you, but don’t let it trap you in longing for someone from your past.